Friend is possibly moving! I need some support!

[is thin possible?]

I know this probably sounds pretty silly but I am having a very hard time with the fact that a very close friend of mine is considering a job change and moving away!

Oh! It's not that I am not happy or excited for them...I truly am...it's just that this person has been a tremendous support and motivation for me in my weight loss journey! I am afraid to lose that! I mean...I know we will maintain our friendship over the distance, but...it's just won't be the same! I felt so discouraged about it tonight I felt like I wanted to have a little binge on some cookies or something! However, I didn't! I went out and walked 4 miles instead! Yeah for me! I am trying really hard not to deal with stress or the let-downs or living force me back into my old ways of dealing with things. (i.e. stuff my face!)

If anyone has any words of encouragement to help me through this emotional downer, please post!

Blessings and thanks for always being there for me!

[2big4mysize]

Re: Friend is possibly moving! I need some support!

whoa plug your ears so you can't hear those high carb sireens calling you to be dashed on the high carb shoals.

Seriously i understand about the loss of your friends close proximity and your grief. But you need to take the control of your eating yourself. Right now your Dr Brain is based on your past experiences with foods that minic meurtransmitters prescribing the foods it knows you have in the past used successfully when you were feeling this way to cheer you up temporarily. You need to be strong for yourself and tell Dr Brain no thanks you have a second opinion and don't need that. Go take a walk or work out and you will get more of those feel good neurotranmitters generated and you will be burning up some more fat too.

[DebbieY]

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I understand your feeling of loss. All of my close girlfriends have moved away from me. So, now I pretty much just have my husband and my daughter to do things with here. It's hard at times too. I used to do most of the exercise type activities with my girlfriends. My husband isn't as interested in doing those things and my daughter is just learning to do a few of those type of things.

I just wanted to say that I understand your feelings. But, you could still do things with your friend (depending on how far she moved away.) I know with me, I didn't tell my best friend I was on a diet, but when I saw her a month ago, I just surprised her. I looked forward to being able to see her reaction. I'm about to see another girlfriend at the end of August, so I'm waiting to see her reaction also.

[Squeaker]

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About 5 years ago I moved away from my best mate. I used to see her every day but now it's more like once a month. believe me the time we spend together now is far more appreciated by both of us, now we don't see each others as often (and we've got loads more gossip to catch up on).
Congrats on NOT eating the cookies too!!

[goin2Bgood]

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I'm sorry your friend is moving. That's hard.

On idea might be to start a journal for your friend. Write in it every day stuff you would want to tell her. Then, maybe share it with her sometime when you do see her - but it's more for you.

Make sure you keep busy too. Get out and do things. That honestly helps.

[is thin possible?]

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Thank you everyone for your understanding, empathy, and advice! I love everyone here on the board! I am blessed to have some place to turn to express my fears, let-downs, struggles and successes!


You all are the greatest!
THANKS!

[ttdriver]

Re: Friend is possibly moving! I need some support!

I'm sorry.

But the answer is NOT in the refrigerator.

Betty