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    Yes, I know I wear a smaller dress size than I did when I began Atkins. Yes, I know that I can fit into restaurant booths and sit on chairs without my bottom hanging off. Yes, I've gone to the garden center and lifted a couple of 40 pound bags of compost to get an idea of how heavy the weight I lost was. But no matter what, everytime I look in that mirror I see myself as fat as I ever was.

    Last night when I was walking into the community center for my class, I walked in beside a woman who wasn't stick thin, but she wasn't super-fat either. The glass doors reflected our side-by-side images. I was the same size as this other woman!!!!!

    "No way!" I thought, " I don't look as thin as she does!!!"

    But there it was in our reflections: we were the same size.

    We are all our worst critics. I've been chubby my whole life and absolutely fat for most of my adulthood. So I've never seen the "skinny" me in the mirror before. I've always have seen "chubby Megs" or have avoided looking at "big-as-a-whale Megs" in the mirror. So it's hard for me to see myself as anything but chubby or fat.

    So if you don't think this diet is working and all the exercise you're doing has been for nothing. Take a deep breath and step away from your ideas of yourself. Take an objective look an objective look at yourself. Losing a few pounds, losing a couple of inches, having your rings fall off your fingers because your fingers have shrunk, having the stamina to climb that flight of stairs without getting winded: all of these "little things" are successes in your weight loss regimen.
    ~Megs~
    242/141/160 (130)
    dress size 26/10/8
    5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
    My blog:
    http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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    Re: Big Reality Check

    I'm so happy for you Megs! You are always so full of wisdom for the rest of us. I'm glad you got wise to your true physical self. Yaaaaaay!!
    Female, 46yrs, 5'3"

    Restarted Atkins 09/19/05
    Re-restarted Atkins 03/12/07

    SW198.5/CW215/GW150







    Slug Free 6WEC#21 & 22 & 23

    "Superhuman willpower is not required to do Atkins, only the wisdom to put yourself into a position where you won't need it."

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    • #3
      Re: Big Reality Check

      Great post Megs. I tell ya, I still struggle with the fat image. Yesterday my husband brought me home a really nice running jacket from a great running store. It was a medium. I said to him "Thanks! This will fit me great next year." Well, I tried it on this morning and it fit me perfectly. I honestly stood there dumbfounded with my mouth hanging open. I, like you Megs have struggled with weight issues all of life (42 years). I agree with you, we're our own worst enemies.

      Thanks for that great post.

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      • #4
        Re: Big Reality Check

        I agree with you totally. I went to the store and bought some sweats yesterday. I bought the size I thought I would wear - one size smaller since I had started losing weight. When I got home and tried them on they swallowed me. I couldn't believe I had to go back and get an 18/20. I haven't been in that size in years and I've only lost 30 lbs. I really don't see myself that size. It must be true cause I tried on some more thinks that size and they fit as well. What'da ya know!! Inches do really matter more than lbs.
        Started 5/16/05
        SW261/CW225/GW140
        MF-55yo, Ht.5'4"






        Member of CC "Fat Blaster" Challenge(lose to 210 lbs. by Christmas)
        Member of President's Fitness Challenge-71% on the way to my goal of Silver Medal

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        • #5
          Re: Big Reality Check

          I really like your post. I still see myself as the same 260 lb person I started as. I have guys that I work with that I consider the perfect weight for their height, I'm the same weight and height so why do I still think I'm fat? It's very hard to step away from our own perception of ourselves and try to see what we have become. I just remember who I used to be and that's all my eyes will probably ever see.
          Male, 255 start / 185 now / original goal of 200

          I raise vegetarians for human consumption.




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          • #6
            Re: Big Reality Check

            YAY!! I think the mind takes a lot longer to catch up than the mirror does if you know what I mean?!
            224/200/165
            F 38 (5'7)
            Currently doing couch to 5K program to start running and loving it Check out 'Get Running' if you have an iPhone.

            24 LOST 35 TO GO
            Mini Goals: 200/190/180/170/165




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            • #7
              Re: Big Reality Check

              We are definitely our own worst critics. It's like the hair.....you may notice you are having a bad hair day but no one else can see it!
              Make it a happy low carb life!
              My WOL for 6.5 years..Found freedom from fat 2/7/2000
              210/125
              "The best way to succeed in life is to act on the advice we give to others"[/color]

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              • #8
                Re: Big Reality Check

                YAY MEGS!!!


                Betty
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                • #9
                  Re: Big Reality Check

                  I really am identifying with this a lot lately. At a family event this weekend, I got many "wow, look at you! you look like a totally different person!" type comments. And I kept finding myself thinking, "but do I? I don't think I look any different!" To be honest, its not until I look at the the before and 'during' photos side by side that I see any difference. Otherwise, I still very much have my fat goggles on.

                  My question is - does this ever go away? Anyone?
                  Current: 194.5 / 179.5 / 145
                  Current Start Date: September 24, 2009

                  Previous: 185 / 136 / 130
                  Previous Start Date: May 9, 2005

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                  • #10
                    Re: Big Reality Check

                    Rybread, I'm hoping it does. It does concern me because it could lead to an anorexia-like problem, where we'll always see ourselves as fat, eventhough we aren't anymore.

                    It's weird whenever I read folks who say they feel lighter or feel skinnier, because I don't feel I'm skinnier and I certainly don't feel myself as lighter.

                    Anyhow, I guess I'll have to keep reinforcing that I AM skinnier and I AM lighter than I was before I began my weight loss journey.....
                    ~Megs~
                    242/141/160 (130)
                    dress size 26/10/8
                    5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
                    My blog:
                    http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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                    • #11
                      Re: Big Reality Check

                      thanks megs for posting this, it really struck a nerve, made me all emotional and TOM isn't even near !
                      I also wonder if it ever goes away, indeed one could get anorexia like problems if not.
                      41 year old female, lenght 5'5'' and a half

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                      • #12
                        Re: Big Reality Check

                        Congratulations, megs! That is an outstanding achievement!

                        I'd like to see myself next to the Sears Tower sometime and think, "wow! I look thinner than that!"
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