Emotionally speaking

[dreamof145]

I'd just like to hear from others on the emotional changes that they've gone through with their weight loss. I've lost weight and had (thought I had) already heard all the congrats and comments from everyone in my little world.

But...I went to a funeral and people who hadn't seen me or even knew I had lost weight started acknowledging my change. I don't know if it was the emotional feelings of the loss of my MIL, or if it was the fact that every time I turned around I was approached by people making comments (negative and positive) about my weight loss.

Some thought my husband had remarried, some thought I was ill, some thought I was too thin, others asked if I thought I'd ever lose more, -- it was just overwhelming. I'm wondering if any of you could share your experiences on this. I wasn't expecting it and it really shook me up.

[2big4mysize]

Re: Emotionally speaking

I'm so sorry for you. I know when folk see you for the first time at your lower weight they never thing oh wow Look at that She has done an amaxing job losing weight. The think cause they are so used to seeing you large you must have cancerand are afraid to mention the weight loss.
I have had folk apologize for not mentioning the great weight loss job because they too feared i was ill when they found out froma thrid party it was intentional.

I had somebody treat me like a total stranger cause they truely didn't realize it was me. Shewas so embarrassed she retreated tocthe kitchen and refused to comeout until I'd left.

We can't help how the world percieves our success because of their prejudiouses about body size changes and the causes. but we can be proud of what we have worked so hard to acheive and not allow them to be the measuring sticks of how we value our new smaller healthier bodies and the work to get them their.

[Dimple_Flirt]

Re: Emotionally speaking

The only opinion tht matters is your own and you are the only on who can truely pat yourself on the back. I've been there before. Nine yrs ago my weight went from 275 to 135 in a six month time period. I felt great about myself and healthy but the relatives all said that I looked anorexic and my now ex-husband constantly accused me of cheating. I later found out that he had several affairs. I gained the weight back and have remained @274 lbs for the past eight yrs. I realised that the weight had been a saftey blanket against all sorts of attention an also an excuse for a successful life. It all has clicked this yr and since starting Atkins my weight is slowly coming off with out effort.