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You are at a function, or dinner with friends. Someone offers you a nibble or two of an item not on plan. How do you word your refusal? "No thanks, I CAN'T eat that" "Thanks, but I am NOT ALLOWED to eat that" "No, it's a FORBIDDEN food"
Only to have a response like. "oh, I could never do that diet like you, I can't be forbidden to eat such-in-such" And then you think, I don't want to be forbidden too. And the bite happens. Just to prove you are not on restriction.
Time and again I caught myself giving my food choices a negative twist as to why I wasn't going to consume something. All my life, I have been one to go against rules. Rebel against set standards. I was setting myself up for a big ol' Rebellion of the Carb Kind! I had to reword my declines and fast!! Because I was "allowed" to have anything I wanted. Nothing is forbidden. I can eat whatever is offered me. But I shouldn't expect to lose weight. I can eat a donut-mashed potato-ice cream-and rice casserole if I so desire. But I better bust out my big girl drawers again, 'cause I will need them! It's a choice. I choose to not eat high carb content food. I know that, basicly, I am allergic to high carb meals. My butt and thighs swell to monster proportions when I use them in my daily menus.
Now, I decline with "Thank you so much for the offer, but I DON'T eat those." or a simple "No thanks" because there is really no need to give an explaination.
And I keep in mind, that the "don't" isn't forever. I will again partake of french fries or ice cream sundaes. But it will be a few fries with my cheeseburger salad. Not the Wendy's Biggie Fries with a double bun cheeseburger washed down with a 32 oz Coke and a Frosty for the ride home. It will be a small sundae shared with a friend, after a good workout and when I am at a new slim size. Not the double banana split with extra whipped topping (I say topping, 'cause we KNOW it ain't cream!).
It's about choice and keeping a good mental outlook on that choice. I have not been forbidden anything. I CHOOSE to be smaller and that is the road I will walk. But that road is paved with vegetables, unstaurated fats and as many protein paving stones as I want. Each one of those steps take me to a place a want to be. I WILL arrive, slim and with a positive attitude. Because arriving with a postive attitude will be very important to maintaining that "happy place" weight. If I allow myself to be "forbidden" until I get there, I know when the gates of slimness open, there could be a carb stampede of the worse kind and I will be making a weightloss journey all over again within a few years. And THAT, my friends, is forbidden!
Only to have a response like. "oh, I could never do that diet like you, I can't be forbidden to eat such-in-such" And then you think, I don't want to be forbidden too. And the bite happens. Just to prove you are not on restriction.
Time and again I caught myself giving my food choices a negative twist as to why I wasn't going to consume something. All my life, I have been one to go against rules. Rebel against set standards. I was setting myself up for a big ol' Rebellion of the Carb Kind! I had to reword my declines and fast!! Because I was "allowed" to have anything I wanted. Nothing is forbidden. I can eat whatever is offered me. But I shouldn't expect to lose weight. I can eat a donut-mashed potato-ice cream-and rice casserole if I so desire. But I better bust out my big girl drawers again, 'cause I will need them! It's a choice. I choose to not eat high carb content food. I know that, basicly, I am allergic to high carb meals. My butt and thighs swell to monster proportions when I use them in my daily menus.
Now, I decline with "Thank you so much for the offer, but I DON'T eat those." or a simple "No thanks" because there is really no need to give an explaination.
And I keep in mind, that the "don't" isn't forever. I will again partake of french fries or ice cream sundaes. But it will be a few fries with my cheeseburger salad. Not the Wendy's Biggie Fries with a double bun cheeseburger washed down with a 32 oz Coke and a Frosty for the ride home. It will be a small sundae shared with a friend, after a good workout and when I am at a new slim size. Not the double banana split with extra whipped topping (I say topping, 'cause we KNOW it ain't cream!).
It's about choice and keeping a good mental outlook on that choice. I have not been forbidden anything. I CHOOSE to be smaller and that is the road I will walk. But that road is paved with vegetables, unstaurated fats and as many protein paving stones as I want. Each one of those steps take me to a place a want to be. I WILL arrive, slim and with a positive attitude. Because arriving with a postive attitude will be very important to maintaining that "happy place" weight. If I allow myself to be "forbidden" until I get there, I know when the gates of slimness open, there could be a carb stampede of the worse kind and I will be making a weightloss journey all over again within a few years. And THAT, my friends, is forbidden!
*Melinda*
OOOOXXX
still have a few more pounds to go!!
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