when loved ones attack

**1poundatatime** · July 29, 2006, 08:06 PM

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I can understand where you're coming from. My mom was absolutely floored that I couldn't have fruit (yet). She tried the "One bite won't hurt" line on me, and asked about a bunch of other things that are a big temptation for me.

Sometimes it's hard to look them in the eye and say "Not even one bite", and explain that this is a quest to a healthier boyfriend and daddy that will be around for a lot longer.

**TaterTot** · July 29, 2006, 08:49 PM

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I know the struggle. I have a 5 year old too and we cant expect them to understand right away why we cant have the ice cream. But after you get off induction, try this: get some Russell Stover chocolates. They taste great!! BUT they tend to make one a little, lets say...gassy and odiferous.

Everytime you grab for the chocolates, they'll yell "NOOOOOO! Dont do it!!!"

Seriously, I think for me, my loved ones were so used to me failing in matters of weight loss AND they felt bad for being overweight and NOT being willing to do something about it. Thats why they push sometimes (The adults anyway). And you will get to where you CAN have some LC ice cream with your baby, But right now, make some baked pepperoni and share them with HER. Maybe that would help.

**jimmie 48** · July 29, 2006, 08:58 PM

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if they love you fat, i'm sure they will love you at a healthy weight. good luck with this woe!

**asc.rudeboy** · July 29, 2006, 10:02 PM

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well as far as my lil girl goes she just likes her daddy big...but with my girlfriend its a little diffrent she likes me big but she dosent see any reason for me to loose weight,im very active,im strong as a ox,,yea im the guy they call to help move heavy stuff,,i out swim my girlfriend in the pool hahah she gets so mad because she was on the swim team and im a fat smoker..i had my phyiscal last year my cholest. and blood pressure were text book...my dr. did the test over because he thought his nurse made a mistake,then he got mad because i am a fat smoker and wasnt dying...so their like your healthy live life an be merry,,,but im affraid my luck will run out,,,they dont see just because i dont rot on the couch i need to make a change......my friend are the same way...when i said i was doing this tey laughed an asked me why...maybe guys arnt saposed to diet,,,ive always heard my aunts talk about it but never one uncle.

**Lady_Hawke** · July 30, 2006, 02:21 AM

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Who knows why some people react the way they do? You are doing this for you and you have to keep focused on your goal. Try not to let anyone knock you off the wagon.
It won't be easy. But it will be worth it.
My husband plays head games when he see's me start looking good - one time I had lost some weight, was dressed up to go out to the movies with my friend - he came up to me and said, I kid you not "you're looking good, time for me to play some headgames". Another time when I was 30 pounds from my goal - I got a sit down speech on how I wasn't good enough, didn't dress nice and wasn't educated enough.

He hasn't noticed I'm releasing my weight yet, but he will and I'm ready for his games. This is for me.
You are doing this for you. You are important and you are worth it. If you have a hard day - please stick to plan and come here to vent. You'll get the support you need! You are not alone in this!

By the way - Atkins isn't a diet - its a way of life

**asc.rudeboy** · July 30, 2006, 02:55 AM

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wow...no i dont get any head games.man i think that kinda shitty....shes is standing by me she just keeps telling me i dont have to do it,,,like today she came home with some pork skins and made some deliveld eggs,,,shes a sweet girl...i dont know if ill ever come here an vent but i will say i like the fact that more then one person is doing the same thing...no judgment

thanks

**Lady_Hawke** · July 30, 2006, 03:05 AM

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your girlfriend made you deviled eggs and brought you pork skins?
Oh that is sooooooo different.
I think when she tells you you don't have to lose weight - I think what she is saying is "I love you the way you are" . Wow big difference

Lucky man

**dreamof145** · July 30, 2006, 07:50 AM

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I can definitely relate to your situation. When I finally got serious about losing my weight...it seemed that everyone had something negative to say. My husband was telling me he loved me no matter what I looked like and it wouldn't hurt to eat carbs...(he is 6'4" and weighs 160 pounds - never had a fat day in his life)

My daughters all said I was being rediculous...I was almost 50 years old, why start losing weight now, I'd been fat my whole life. They thought you only lost weight when you were out man-hunting > so they were upset that I might leave their dad. (lol)

My friends were all on weight watchers. They weren't losing much weight..but they always compared how many points they saved up so they could splurge when we went out once a month to our writing meetings. They harrassed me about how unhealthy my plan was and how I was going to get sick.

In previous attempts to lose weight, I let these kind of remarks give me the permission to quit my plan and stay fat. Not this time. I never made rude remarks to the ones who told me not to do it, I couldn't do it or that I didn't need to do it. Instead, I used the ADBB and the success of the people here to motivate me to keep going. I am so thankful that I did. I love being 100 pounds thinner. I feel better, look better and have given my whole life a lift of positive vibrations. I feel stronger about myself. I know that conquering the weight has showed me that I can change things if I have a powerful plan to follow.

Stay in there. You don't have to fight with your friend, let her talk her nonsense and then do what you have to do to make it happen. You can always depend on support and encouragment from the ADBB and the friends here who are making their lives healthier and happier. Don't look back, don't allow any excuses to stop you!!!

**not2late** · July 30, 2006, 09:34 AM

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I take it you're a relatively young man (meaning, I don't think you're in your 60s!) So tell your loved ones that eventhough they absolutely love a fat man, a healthier and fitter man will be alive longer to enjoy life with them.

Lose your weight and get healthy. When you have more energy and stamina to do things like run around a playground or dance the cha-cha without collapsing, they will forget the fat man and embrace the heathier one.

**Scooterjam** · July 30, 2006, 09:53 AM

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Excellent post Becky!! I agree. I started this plan 3 years ago. I lost about 40 pounds. Then my family and friends, and co-workers, and neighbors, all told me how bad it was. The nutritionist who lives across the street said, Scooter you're depriving yourself of nutirents and wholsome grains that god put on this earth for us to eat. Add them all back in a little at a time. I did that. Where did it get me, 40 pounds heavier, plus another 40 on top of that. Only YOU know what is good for you. You can't tell me that weighing 240 pounds now eating this way, versus 295 pounds eating 'their' way is better. My son is 16 years old. I want to have grandchildren, I want be with them until I'm old and gray! If it takes me doing this way of life for the rest of my life then so be it. I will never be that heavy again. I look at forum people like Becky, Kent, Heidi, Joy and many many others, and see what they have done and inspiration is endless. I don't need all those bad carbs I used to be addicted too. People may say, it's stupid....but to quote our good friend Forrest Gump...."Mama always said, stupid is as stupid does!!"

You go and get skinny! When you're at your 5 year old daughters wedding many many years from now, you'll be able to say....this is why I live the way I do!!

Good Luck! Sorry....I'll step down from the soap box. It just makes me mad when people talk about about this WOE. In my eyes, Dr Atkins was a genius, and saved god knows how many lives!!

**ttdriver** · July 30, 2006, 10:17 AM

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Originally posted by asc.rudeboy

well as far as my lil girl goes she just likes her daddy big...but with my girlfriend its a little diffrent she likes me big but she dosent see any reason for me to loose weight,im very active,im strong as a ox,,yea im the guy they call to help move heavy stuff,,i out swim my girlfriend in the pool hahah she gets so mad because she was on the swim team and im a fat smoker..i had my phyiscal last year my cholest. and blood pressure were text book...my dr. did the test over because he thought his nurse made a mistake,then he got mad because i am a fat smoker and wasnt dying...so their like your healthy live life an be merry,,,but im affraid my luck will run out,,,they dont see just because i dont rot on the couch i need to make a change......my friend are the same way...when i said i was doing this tey laughed an asked me why...maybe guys arnt saposed to diet,,,ive always heard my aunts talk about it but never one uncle.

DON'T DO IT FOR ANYONE BUT YOURSELF. That is the key to success. People will typically "rain on your parade", but don't let that stop you from becoming healthy. You are definitely doing the right thing. Put your blinders on, ignore what other people think, and become the best you can be!

Cheering for you!!

Betty

**asc.rudeboy** · July 30, 2006, 05:43 PM

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wow haha you peoeple are great,if anyhting id hate to fall of the wagon just from the suport your giving me,,,,,i dont want it to sound like my gf is trying to sabotoge me,,her words and actions just would make it easer to quit,,

on a side note,,yesterday she started weight watchers now she only has about 10lbs to loose she mostly just wants to tone up a little,,but she said she would work on eating better to,,she started doing her yoga booty tapes,,i started with the dumbells last night and tomorrow ill start my core training,,,exercise bike,,,and full body weight set...this is my third day and not so much as even a second thought about my actions...i remember how much i liked the feeling after a work out when i played football,,,so once i get into a routine ill be fine,,
thanks again guys,,yall make me want to stick to this,,, not use to this much support

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