Please help me get back on track...

[and1_balla52]

I was doing awesome you guys...72 pounds since May 31st, 2006. I was doing great, then on the 20th on this month, I cheated, and I have'nt been able to get back on track ever since...please freakin help me, I have been very stressed out about everything, ex gf, going to see my dad, which im not anymore, and then the family reunion this weekend...Help you guys, me and my ex broke up on the 9th of june and that really hurt me, but my diet and weight loss gave me something to have pride in myself, now I feel like crap. My ex gf messes with me and tells me she loves me, but today her last words to me were f**k you! So, now, I have decided that I am going to jump back, and do something for myself, I have gained some weight back, so now, Ive only lost about 60 pounds, but that is still good...but Im wantin to get to 215, and I am at about 275-ish...Help me get back on track you guys, I mean, should I just wait till monday? The day after the reunion, and work out all day to get myself back into ketosis? Help me!>!>!

[Lyssie]

Re: Please help me get back on track...

Are you on crack? We start immediately. This is not something that you go and say that you'll eat that bag of potato chips, the large pizza, some cake, and soda tonight since you're starting your "diet" tomorrow. This is a get while the getting's good kind of thing. Start immediately. Today/Tomorrow, whichever you think is more immediate. If you've hard carbs today, oh well, you don't eat them anymore as of now.

I find that when I put things off and say I'll set a date for them - I'll stop smoking this date, or stop eating carbs that date, or whatever, that I end up putting them off for longer because there's always another reason why it shouldn't be today. If I commit to something immediately, it stays with me since it's not the whole preparing to give something up mentality but staying on track mentality that I'm then dealing with.

[cristylp]

Re: Please help me get back on track...

NO!!! Don't wait until Monday to start. Dust yourself off and start right NOW with the very next bite you put in your mouth.

Look what you've accomplished so far!! Don't blow all the hard work you've done... please. Start again now and think about how great you're going to look and feel when you reach goal.

You can do this.

[Jacksuncle]

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Do it now. You dont want to gain anymore weight. The reunion will have plenty of salad and protein I am sure. You can totally do it! You can totally control what you put in your mouth so start right now.

[ValidRouge]

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You know what?

Who cares about the ex?
Who cares about Dad?
Who cares about the relatives?

Right now, all we care about is YOU. Right now, the only person you have to care about is YOU. You can't care about someone else, until you've first take care of yourself.

So, at this very moment, restart your Atkins. You've learned how eating off plan leads to another and another and another. Don't have another.

You are more important than that next bite anyway. And how much pleasure are you going to get from that one bite...or heck, from the whole damn pizza (or cake, or whatever it is)? How long will that pleasure last? 30 minutes? How long is the guilt going to last? How long is the damage you are doing to your body going to last? How long is the fat from eating that "cheat" going to last on your butt, hips or thighs????

You have to decide which is more important to you. If you TRULY make weightloss and health your utmost priority, you'll achieve it. You've already got your master plan...and that's DANDR. You just need the details...plan your daily menus, plan where you'll eat if its out....and PLAN your own food to take to the reunion.

Get a good two week induction under your belt. It's so empowering. Take charge of this and you'll find yourself able to take charge of everything else too.

[Lyssie]

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ValidRouge - AMEN SISTAH!!

All kidding aside, what could be more important in your life than you and taking care of you? Are you doing this for someone else, be it your ex or your dad or your family, or are you doing this for you? You see yourself everyday, and make the choices everyday, not just after a reunion, or visit or anything like that, and you accept your choices, and benefit from them, and being able to say to yourself "self, look how far I've come" is truly an empowering thing.

[and1_balla52]

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Im doing it for me dang it. Its just that my ex puts soooo much stress in my life...I mean, just about 5 minutes ago she told me shes done with me, but then she'll probably call me in about a month...so, I think I'll have to get a new phone number. But, starting right now, I am back to this lifestyle, because it feels good that I am doing something for me and my body, something that will make me look and feel better.

[Lyssie]

Re: Please help me get back on track...

If it makes you feel any better, I have an ex who sends me emails about once every 4-6 months asking how I'm doing and all this stuff looking to get back into my life, saying that if I don't respond he'll take it as I don't want anything to do with him anymore and leave me alone... then he writes another one, and one after that, and it's only when i don't respond to all 3 (which is hard enough for someone like me who thinks that by not responding you could be hurting someone's feelings) he doesn't respond anymore for another few months and then the cycle starts all over. Anyway. Do what I did - don't get a new phone number, get caller ID.

[and1_balla52]

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I do have caller Id, but its hard for me not to answer it. Im too nice too! And she really feeds off of that because she knows I wouldnt do her wrong....Im way too nice, my dad says im just dumb...(Gee thanks dad) Its been a big game of chase with me and her for about 2 months now, and I think it might be over, but whenever she sees me lookin better, shes going to get jealous..i think she doesnt want me, but yet doesnt want anyone else to have me, kind of messed up, but thats what it is...I really just dont know what to do...well yeah i do...cut off all contact wit her. No calls! And if she comes to my apartment, call the cops. And if she calls me at work, hang up immediately! I have to rid my life of her. Its really ruining my relationships with other girls that I might could have had somethin real with. But, I have been pressing the pause button on my life for her...which isnt right of me. I could have had some real relationships with someone else. She wont let me live it down, she will bring guys to my works and hold their hands and stuff....it sucks, but its over!

[Lyssie]

Re: Please help me get back on track...

If it's over, it's over. I was told something (by my ex who still begs me to take him back, oddly enough), "exs are exs for a reason". Meaning, you may temporarily forget why you broke up and think that maybe it'll work this time, or something along those lines but when all is said and done, you're still the same people, and unless there's a large amount of time that's passed, you still have the same issues. I think that when you say it might be over, you should really try and figure out if it is or isn't over. If you were at your goal weight right now, would you want to be with her? Why? Would she want to be with you if you looked different? Why? If you are honestly in love with her, I wouldn't want to be the person to say to just blow it off and be like, whatever, but if you aren't and you don't want to be with her, there shouldn't be the doubts that there are... and if there aren't doubts, things should be phrased differently in your posts. Anyway. I think that if you're trying to make yourself look better or be healthier for yourself, that's awesome. I think that if you're doing it to impress someone else or get revenge or make someone love you that it's not going to work, for you or for them.

[and1_balla52]

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I'm not sure about her, but I am saying it's over. She just cussed me out and everything, so maybe it's over on her end too. I don't know, but I have to cut all the ties because everytime something happens between me and her, I am the one who ends up with the broken heart and hurt feelings. This girl...has a very weird defense mechanism...she could be absolutly crushed on the inside...but youll never know it..she can hide her emotions very well, somethint hat is very scary...I dont know, im tired and im gettin ready to go home and go to bed so I can go to the gym in the mourning. But, no I am doin this for me MR AND1 BALLA!!!!!!! and no one else. But, Im just saying her envyin the way I look and everything will be a added bonus! No I dont want her anymore, she has nothing to offer me or the relationship anymore...she has no job, has no car,doesnt even have a permitt for that fact of the matter, 19 yrs old, no permitt or liscense..damn shame aint it! She did nothing for the relationship, so the **** with her...I can do better and lots of other people have told me that! Im going to do something for myself now, and thats all there is to it. Im not going to work tommarow, and I am going to go and get a restraining order on her. This is the only way I can get it to be over with...this is the only way this is going to happen, which will give me added focus with what I am doin.! Anyways, holla back at yall tommarow!