How to say NO!!!!

[lis3]

Does anyone have a line they use to say "NO" when approached friends offering high carb treats? I am sick of explaining and getting lectured about how this diet is unhealthy, especially when I am eatting healthier that those lecturing me!!! It seems like just saying "no thank you" doesn't work!

[Richt]

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Over time it will work. Infact they will end up not offering you it if you just keep saying no.

[13_jane]

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I just say "I dont do carbs!" and smile!! hehe!!

[Alexa]

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Hello,

I totally hear you. I heard all weekend how my family are worried about me and my kidneys because of the outrageous Atkins diet!

I kind of think it's great to be up front and say 'I'm doing Atkins, no thanks' and to any negative comments 'Well, it suits me, I'm losing weight and I feel great'. Or if people are willing to listen, explain about why it is healthy.

However, if you can't bring yourself to tell someone, or have no time or lack the patience to deliver an impromptu lecture on carbs then I sometimes say either 'I've cut out snacks between meals' or 'I'm not eating sugar at the moment'.

I think in an ideal world we wouldn't have to justify ourselves every 5 seconds, and could just say 'This is what I'm doing, end of' but different replies for different people works for me!

Good luck

[imgonnagethin]

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When i'm in a situation where I have neither the time or inclination to explain, and depending on what it is, i'll just answer "I don't eat bread / potatoes / sugar" and when they ask why I usually say I don't like it!!! They are so confused they move on and the threat has passed!! And the great thing is I'm not lying, by body does *not* like these things!

Kay

[abstractillusions]

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Many times i leave out the carbs idea and just say that i am cutting out all sugar, or i don't like something, i'm not hungry. Many people don't really want to know the whole story but when you say you can't do something they tend to want to be nosey.

I try and be nice and say, wow that looks good but unfortunately, i am cutting out sugar, or i don't really care for such and such. You know that does look great but i am not hungry right now but if i get to be for such and such i will let you know.

The only people i really expand on WHY are people who are part of my support system. Usually if someone starts trying to push lol one of them will jump between them and i, its soo cute and funny lol.

Becareful of the words you use such as can't, don't, won't etc. All of those are in the negative concept and what people are offering you in their minds tend to be "good, fun, postive things." You could spend time trying to explain, but people are usually very self-absorbed so until they want to really know and understand they won't even if you explain. If you use can't don't or won't they think you are doing so in a negative way. If you say trying, they unconsciously try to sabotage you thinking one bite won't hurt and if you do take a bit because it will make them feel better it will somehow make you feel better. If that makes sense. Many people don't realize they are not being nice when they try and give you something, all they know is its nice to give. So bear with them and stick to your guns, another way to get them off your back is to have something handy you can show they you have to eat. Many people in the world see food as comfort, good, etc. If they see you have something, they won't feel so bad walking away with their treat, leaving you without anything. I usually keep veggies or something around to "show" them i have something to eat.

I wouldn't explain, as saw said earlier, eventually they stop asking grins and word gets around.

[lis3]

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Thanks for the responses they are great! I am a pretty open person so I usually tell people I'm doing Atkins and I don't worry about their negative response. But sometimes it gets old, or I just don't have the time! Amazingly some of my (so called) support system seems to be attempting to "TEMPT" me too often! I don't think it is on purpose! However they don't seem to get that I'm in it for the long haul! Love the I don't do sugar response....no one argues about sugar being healthy for you!

[dreamof145]

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When I'm offered something, I just say "No thanks". If someone persists, I just change the subject and compliment them on something or ask them a question about themselves. Usually works. They forget that I'm not taking their snack and we start a conversation. I don't go into an explaination, so that way they can't give me negative feedback on my decision.

[Adena]

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Hello,

However, if you can't bring yourself to tell someone, or have no time or lack the patience to deliver an impromptu lecture on carbs then I sometimes say either 'I've cut out snacks between meals' or 'I'm not eating sugar at the moment'.

I like that excuse, Baarb. I have found when I say I'm watching my sugar, people almost always understand, and nod or agree that you're doing a "good" thing vs. going down the whole "carb/no carb" road...

[julirama723]

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Yep, if it's someone I know, I tell them "I gave up sugar." If it's a stranger, I just tell them I CAN'T have sugar--so they don't ask questions, obviously thinking it's a health/doctors orders kind of thing and don't want to intrude. I hate the "preaching" I get if I mention the word Atkins, so I just avoid the debate, and let the results speak for themselves...

[Hudson]

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Yes, sugar is an understood villan. But Atkins - the most sugar restrictive diet I know of will kill you!!! People just repeat what they hear, and they hear that Atkins will make your kidneys explode and plug up your arteries. Even though they have no research to back it up.

I like to ask for some research when someone gives me the "Atkins will kill you" line. Not in a back it up or shut up kind of way. Just a help me out, If you have seen something that might help me.

It's getting cold again. How many times will we hear to "bundle up or you will catch cold". Scientifically it's close to nonsense. But people hear it and repeat it.