Weight Loss and Relationships

[godsbeloved79]

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About the same friends...
Strangers seem friendlier...
Husband can't keep his hands to himself...
I'm really happy!
liz

Good for you liz !

[Jaded]

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godsbeloved - its definitely true, this WOL can change your life in ways far more than just your weight/health. I have it to thank for me meeting the guy I hope to spend the rest of my life with Now if I can just get that weight back down I'm not sure anything could keep me from total happiness!

[Discolemonade]

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My first time around I actually dealt with Jealousy in my relationship. Unease and distrust. He thought I was going to 'upgrade'. Of course I'd never! As far as friends go, before I didn't have any. I was very mean and negative. No one wanted to be around me and I didn't want them near. But now my personality has evolved. I'm much more friendly and even go out with the girls a few times a month.

[Jace]

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The only downside so far has been losing my best friend who is morbidly obese and no longer feels comfortable around me...otherwise, it's been a real kickstart to my social life.

Now that I'm no longer overweight I notice the horrible social implications of weight. Though I may have been the biggest object in the room, I was practically invisible! The greatest benefit to having a new body is that no one remembers me...even teachers and people I've taken several classes with at school in the past no longer remember me. My own mother walked by me in a bus station when she first saw me. It's like a social rebirth and I get to start over. People no longer treat me as a social outcast...it's like I'm just part of the group. I wonder if they would still act the same way if they remembered me and knew that I had once been fat and lost a lot of weight? As it stands, they think they've never met me before and I've always been this way...people actually look at me as I pass them in the street rather than moving out of my way or looking at their feet as they go by lol

The social confidence I've found is going to be essential as I'm a Masters Candidate and part of my work will be delivering my research findings at conferences as well as orally defending my thesis next summer. Not to mention I have an assistantship where it's my job to lead undergraduate discussion classes and mark papers which inevitably leads to dealing with students in a one on one setting. Something I could have never done at my old weight and confidence levels.

I have to say I much prefer being a social butterfly that a catepillar locked in a cocoon!

~Far la bella figura!

[Tack Candy]

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Groupies, hey, I want Groupies!

[ttdriver]

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The only downside so far has been losing my best friend who is morbidly obese and no longer feels comfortable around me...otherwise, it's been a real kickstart to my social life.

Now that I'm no longer overweight I notice the horrible social implications of weight. Though I may have been the biggest object in the room, I was practically invisible! The greatest benefit to having a new body is that no one remembers me...even teachers and people I've taken several classes with at school in the past no longer remember me. My own mother walked by me in a bus station when she first saw me. It's like a social rebirth and I get to start over. People no longer treat me as a social outcast...it's like I'm just part of the group. I wonder if they would still act the same way if they remembered me and knew that I had once been fat and lost a lot of weight? As it stands, they think they've never met me before and I've always been this way...people actually look at me as I pass them in the street rather than moving out of my way or looking at their feet as they go by lol

The social confidence I've found is going to be essential as I'm a Masters Candidate and part of my work will be delivering my research findings at conferences as well as orally defending my thesis next summer. Not to mention I have an assistantship where it's my job to lead undergraduate discussion classes and mark papers which inevitably leads to dealing with students in a one on one setting. Something I could have never done at my old weight and confidence levels.

I have to say I much prefer being a social butterfly that a catepillar locked in a cocoon!

~Far la bella figura!

WHAT A SUCCESS STORY!!!!

Betty

[Hoping]

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I haven't lost much weight, yet. Only 12lbs in the first month.
I still have the same friends. I feel that I'm far more confident and much more likely to talk to strangers. EVen though I haven't changed much on the outside knowing that I'm doing something to change my weight and improve my health and overall well-being gives me a lot of confidence. I know that eventually I'll get to my goal weight and it just brings a lot of happiness to me.
I have new roommates this year and I've actually gotten to know them a bit. I even suggested that we all go out to dinner. With my old roommies that wasn't the case. I didn't really want to hang out with them because I didn't want to socialize. I guess I've come out of my shell even more.
My relationship has always been wonderful. I don't know that I would say my relationship has improved--There hasn't been a huge change, just very minimal He's doing Atkins with me and I've noticed he, too, has become more confident. He has more energy, which is great because we have more energy to do things. Whether it's going to the gym, dinner, movies, etc. Before we were far too exhausted to do anything once we got home. I think if anything we've bonded more because we're cooking all of our meals together.

[BluegrassMama]

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I feel better about myself, for sure. More in control, and I guess that gives me confidence. I'm not so worried that once my little one starts to be more "aware" that he might be embarassed of his chunky mama.

No change in friends, thus far. Although I do feel sorry for my own mom. She really, really, really wants to make me my favorite cookies, which she used to do about once a month and knows I love. And she worries herself to death about having "the right foods" available for me when I visit on the weekends.

[godsbeloved79]

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godsbeloved - its definitely true, this WOL can change your life in ways far more than just your weight/health. I have it to thank for me meeting the guy I hope to spend the rest of my life with Now if I can just get that weight back down I'm not sure anything could keep me from total happiness!

VERY true Jade. The benefits go on and on and on !

You will get that weight back down in no time. Glad to hear that you have found true love.

[godsbeloved79]

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My first time around I actually dealt with Jealousy in my relationship. Unease and distrust. He thought I was going to 'upgrade'. Of course I'd never! As far as friends go, before I didn't have any. I was very mean and negative. No one wanted to be around me and I didn't want them near. But now my personality has evolved. I'm much more friendly and even go out with the girls a few times a month.

MEN .

Glad you are finally enjoying life, and those ladies night are so needed !

[godsbeloved79]

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Hoping and BluegrassMama WTG for your success !