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I think it takes just a little bit of selfishness to lose weight/get/stay fit.
To a responsible, child-rearing adult this does not necessarily come easily, but believe it or not, it's ok. If someone else's laundry has to wait (or goodness, if they do it themselves!) because you can grab 30 minutes on the stairmaster it is ok. Ultimately, the laundry can wait, but your health, your self-esteem, your longevity will not wait. Those things, left unbolstered and undernourished will peeter away to nothing.
Many people ultraburden themselves with the care, the duty of others to the deprivation of themselves. That can leave neglected needs in your psyche that I know personally can end up temporarily comforted with something from the fridge. This can be a downward spiral, to where it becomes easier to forget about yourself - to not think about you, altogether.
We cannot just drop our responsibilities. But if we look closely there is often a little wiggle room. A chance here and there to delegate, or to politely say no, a chance for someone besides yourself to volunteer. We can't stop doing everything, but if we can ease back a little and find the real key things that nourish us (and again, I don't mean from the fridge), then maybe a little balance is possible. The exercise, the menu planning, the walks outside in the autumn, or the new novel read. These things make you healthier, make you more fun to be around, and make you last longer, ultimately, and aren't those the most valuable things you can give those you love?
Be a little selfish. It's good for you.
To a responsible, child-rearing adult this does not necessarily come easily, but believe it or not, it's ok. If someone else's laundry has to wait (or goodness, if they do it themselves!) because you can grab 30 minutes on the stairmaster it is ok. Ultimately, the laundry can wait, but your health, your self-esteem, your longevity will not wait. Those things, left unbolstered and undernourished will peeter away to nothing.
Many people ultraburden themselves with the care, the duty of others to the deprivation of themselves. That can leave neglected needs in your psyche that I know personally can end up temporarily comforted with something from the fridge. This can be a downward spiral, to where it becomes easier to forget about yourself - to not think about you, altogether.
We cannot just drop our responsibilities. But if we look closely there is often a little wiggle room. A chance here and there to delegate, or to politely say no, a chance for someone besides yourself to volunteer. We can't stop doing everything, but if we can ease back a little and find the real key things that nourish us (and again, I don't mean from the fridge), then maybe a little balance is possible. The exercise, the menu planning, the walks outside in the autumn, or the new novel read. These things make you healthier, make you more fun to be around, and make you last longer, ultimately, and aren't those the most valuable things you can give those you love?
Be a little selfish. It's good for you.
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