starting my day off bad

[readytolose2008]

Just annoyed and need to vent.. my husband was up from 6 am to 7 am with a toothache and wont wake up at 9 so I can go workout. I have a 4 month old that still gets up 3 times a night. I swear he has a little cold and hes in bed for 2 days. I have the flu and Im still up taking care of my kids. He says hes going to help and support me but he never gives me 30 minutes so I can go to curves. Im lucky because ours is opened 24/7 but I dont want to workout at 8 pm, thats when I get the kids settled in and I relax...i get no me time ever. sorry for venting but it disappoints me and makes me have to fight stronger for my health because I would love to go eat a little debbie right now.

[albs75]

Re: starting my day off bad

I'm sorry that you are having such a bad day! I know how hard it can be with little ones and trying to get some time to take care of yourself. This isn't an immediate fix but would it be possible to sit down with your husband when you aren't angry and work out a schedule with him?

Is it possible to bundle your baby in a stroller and go for a walk? Or is it too cold? Perhaps you can get an exercise video to do at home for the days when you can't get to Curves. One of my friends did this: Started the exercise video with her childs first nap and when she had to stop for any reason (child crying, phone ringing etc) she just stopped it. The next nap she would start it from the same point and do as much as she could before she stopped again. Every day she finished the whole routine.

I really want to congratulate you on focusing on loosing weight and getting in shape while your child is so young. My daughter is 3.5 and I haven't been able to dig down and loose the 35 pounds that I put on with pregnancy and the other 25 that I needed to loose before getting pregnant.

I know how frustrated you are right now but try not to expend too much mental energy focusing on how upset you are. It will just make you feel worse, will make the situation seem even worse and will cloud your head and keep you from finding a soulution.

Best of luck.

[brandywine1241]

Re: starting my day off bad

I know the feeling, ready. One thing you might try is when dh is feeling better, sit down with him and tell him straight what are some of the key things he can do to support you. Sometimes I think we (I know I was guilty) think it's so obvious they have to know, but in reality men don't have a clue! And maybe one thing you could ask for is a certain time every day, like 9-11, that you can count on to do the things you want/have to. Good luck. Things will get better!

[readytolose2008]

Re: starting my day off bad

Im feeling better..the baby fell asleep so I put him in bed with dh and when I came home they were still sleeping. When I was at curves they were talking about how the local highschool is opened til 10 pm and that you can walk the halls, so Im going to take the baby after dd goes to sleep and walk...too cold here in the u.p. -3 today Thanks for the advice, I think Im going to look for my videos too.