Husband brought me cupcakes..HELP!

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Our second wedding anniversary is Tuesday and we're celebrating it today. Well, my husband went shopping with the baby yesterday and I told him "If you're going to get me an anniversary gift, don't get me sweets. I can't/won't/don't want to eat them!" Well, what did he do? He went out and got 4 of my favorite cupcakes from the gourmet cupcake bakery. I said to him "Thanks for the thought, but you can eat them. I don't want any sugar. That's why I told you yesterday not to get me sweets."

Well, he is really mad. He is really ticked and is saying things like, "I'm never getting you anything special ever again because of this." He thinks I'm fine and I'm not even really overweight, but I have had such great success thus far (It will be one month on Wednesday and I have lost almost 13 pounds) and I don't want to mess it up. I asked him to be supportive and he is still mad about the whole thing. I'm not having a cupcake, end of story, but what do I say to him to make him see why I'm doing this? I'm really upset and I feel bad that he thought of me and I can't accept his gift.

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Re: Husband brought me cupcakes..HELP!

you have to change your position a little in my opinion. ACCEPT his gift and tell him you love him... tell him you love that he bought you your favourite thing, and that you appreciate his thoughtfulness. tell him he is amazing for remembering. take the cupcakes and give them to someone else special in your life.
when we walk this journey often those closest to us don't understand our resolve to improve our lives. Those same people feel bad sometimes in the shadow of our success... its not that we intend to make them feel bad... our success and our optimistic attitude can be seen as offensive to others with issues of their own. I know that sounds wonky but it is true. Having to face sabbotoge from our family in friends is a very real issue when we are having success. People in general don't like change, and by doing atkins successfully we are changing before their very eyes.
When your hubby is not so mad anymore just try to explain that making this change is important to you, that you know he thinks you are fine the way you are, and thank him for that unconditionall love, but that these changes you are making make you feel like the person you are supposed to be. tell him you need his support and that he is an important part of your process. maybe the next special occasion he will bring you a sliced veggie tray! you may have to tell him to do that... MEN NEED IDEA'S sometimes! you will have to change your favourite things from the cupcakes to well... some low carb treat... or new undies... I dunno! whatever!

congrats on your hard work and success this far!

kath