Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

[jodidi]

Hi, you may remember me, you may not. I appear for a few days full of enthusiasium about how I'm going to do it this time and I'm getting my cupboards and mind ready to make the change. Then the first day comes and I have an induction friendly breakfast then as lunch comes along, the excuses start about either, why I should start tomorrow or why I should stop and go on Weight Watchers or Slimming world instead. I then go and join said group and I only manage a day or two because it doesnt feel right and I know in my heart that low carb is the way to go. So why cant I just stick with it? I've just done my weekly shop and I've got enough stuff in for me to do Atkins till the next shop. So yes, I have decided to try again but I dont want to keep trying and failing. I'm 30 in April and I dont want to be 30 and unhealthy and overweight.


My Dad is a big fella but he has started leading a clean low carb lifestyle and he is doing brilliantly. He has lost loads and is looking the healthiest I can ever remember seeing him. He is very encouraging as is my mum and brother and husband. So, I have the encouragement and support, but it is just me, I just give in to stupid excuses.


I'm starting to feel the weight affecting me now I ache alot and seize up when i've been sitting for a while and afew months ago I was kneeling down and I dislocated my knee, which wouldnt of happened if I hadnt of been so heavy


Does anyone have any advice as i'm sure some of you have had these battles with yourselves in the past and were able to overcome them. Everyone has always been so great and encouraging in the past no matter how many times i've been back.

Thanks for listening to me ramble on!

[surreys_princess]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

Been there, done that, own the tshirt, so on and so forth. I feel for you, and I feel for your struggle. I can say all kinds of things to try to make you feel good, but that isnt going to make a difference. In my opinion, and only speaking for myself, the best way I think I can explain it is to associate it with a drug addict. You cant get help unless you are ready, and nothing will work until you hit bottom. Only you know why it hasnt stuck yet, and if it ever will. Figuring out the why and how we have the addiction we do is hard, and takes a ton of self inventory and self truth. Noone can tell you anything to make you do this, stick to this, and change your life. Only you can get to the point where you can say to yourself, "Okay self, I am dying, and I dont want to. Lets do something about it".

Good luck in finding your way. This way of life can work, will work, and in return for working the program, you will get the benefit of experiencing a life you either forgot could live or you always watched others have.

Sending you sunshine and positivity......Sam

[jodidi]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

Thanks for that sam.

I have a lot of reasons to lose and to stick with it such as my baby boy, my health, wanting to wear nice clothes( I am so fed up of wear what fits not what I really like), wanting to be on the back of my husband motorbike in size 12 (uk) leathers or smaller. I totally understand what you mean about only I can make the change. My family has said the same thing they can only carry my so far but ultimately I have to make the change myself. I am going to make a list of my reasons and stick them around the house.

Thanks Jodi

[surreys_princess]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

Remember that the only way it can work is to do it for YOU, noone else. All the other reasons have to come second to that, in my opinion.

And while making those notes, dont forget the sticky note in the bathroom on the mirror that says "I am worth it", because when we are on this roller coaster, we forget that sometimes.

Glad I could say something to help. Good luck in your journey, it will be whatever you make it!!!

[jodidi]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

Remember that the only way it can work is to do it for YOU, noone else.

Yes your right I do need to do it for me. I want to be fit and healthy. By following this WOL and becoming fit and healthy all my other reasons will be fullfilled.

[ThinSoon]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

I think we've all been there at one time or another. Writing your reasons is great, start a journal, and if you mess up, begin again with the next meal, not next day. It's hard to get into a way of life just like that.. remember one step at a time.

Being prepared has always helped me. Start your week out with a menu for each day, prepare up to 3 days in advance if that helps, get those veggies cut, make some meals, and always have something on hand that is induction friendly or LC friendly (whichever rung you are on) and you won't feel like there isn't anything else to have.

The first few days are always the hardest.

Check in often, post when you need that inspiration, motivation or just a kind word to keep you on track.

I know you can do it!


Tracey

[write2thepoint]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

In my case, I have lost and gained throughout my entire life--my heaviest weight was 238 and my lightest was 112. Recently, I got up to 170 and was feeling so uncomfortable with my stomach hitting my thighs, having knee pain, and chest pains when I did much exertion. One day, I just said that I was done eating with abandon and made up my mind to lose the weight. I don't know what it was that clicked in my head, but it was different this time than any other time. I think it is because I did it for me and not to look good for someone else. While I am not at my goal yet, I feel better than I have in years and know that I am going to make it this time. I think once you decide that losing the weight is something you really want, you will succeed. I am rooting for you!
Karen

[jodidi]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

One day, I just said that I was done eating with abandon

I know what you mean. Its like something takes over me and I just cant get control and I start eating all the junkiest foods I can find. It's quite pathetic really and sad that I'm this out of control. I'm fed up of food being in control of me. I want to take control now.

[rweeks]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

I can give you some advise from a newbie perspective. There are three things you MUST do that have worked for me. 1. is to pre-make your meals. If you have them made already and have them with you (I carry my 3 meals in a cooler with me at all times), it is much easier to stay on the plan. 2. Getting support from the fine people on this site. I know that the stories and insight from people here get me excited and keep me motivated. With this site I have increased the variety of my "diet" and learned that not all diet drinks are created equal. 3. Exercise often! If you are not working out..... DO IT! Exercising will help you break through the stalls. It will also keep you committed to the program. Do you think that you will WANT to cheat on your diet if you have been busting your tail at the gym? Do you think you will WANT to skip that workout if you have been committed to eating lifestyle? I have never been able to stick to any diet for more than a couple of weeks EVER. THis is week 10 for me on Atkins, and I have done better than I could have hoped for. THe only things that I am doing different NOW than the hundred other times I tried are the 3 things I listed. I hope this helps and PLEASE stay committed. **** Thank you to everyone on this site for being there for me. I may have only officially joined the site a few days ago, but I have been looking for months***** -bigROB

[kimbat06]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

With me, the main underlying factor was that I have a fear of failure. Every diet I tried I always failed... and I was sick of the vicious circle. But then I noticed how truly miserable I was becomming, and how much happier and healthier I would be if I just finally STUCK TO IT and lost the weight. I was never motivated on other diets... sure, the first week or two I was excited but then I got bored and hungry, and of course fell off the wagon. This is why I love Atkins so much, because I have seen SO MUCH SUCCESS and now I am starting to see success in myself. You have to want this for yourself. Good luck, please don't give up!

[xhaustedmomma]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

My advise is to be sure to eat something (high fat) between breakfast and lunch. I think its suppose to be every 4-6 hours. And I find if I eat the majority of my foods the first half of the day I am more in control and less hungry at night. If I try to limit my calories during the day I am more prone to lose control and want to eat all night long. I am so much more hungry.
And when I do eat more during the day, I think a lot less about food.
I hope this made sense. Its just been my experience and something I just figured out about myself.

[focus83]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

Im exactly the same as you, so motivated for like a day or two and then i dont see a big loss and i end up binging on whatever i can find. Just last week i started my induction again and lasted 2 days and then used the excuse of a family gathering to blow my diet Im starting induction again today!

Its really up to you, nothing anyone can say or do can make YOU stick to a diet, it has to be your own determination and motivation which makes you stop reaching for something you know you shouldn't have or stuff whatever it is you are craving down our throats.

I havent read the book yet but everyone on here seemed so inspired when they have read it that i cant wait to get my copy (ordered online) Im hoping when i read the words it might just click inside my brain what i should be doing

this site is great, wish i could be on here all day, because reading stories about ppl who have success which is what i want motivates me to do what i have to do!!

[stephbob]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

I think most people go through what you've been through. I know I have, far too many times to remember!

You have to just put your mind to it, give yourself one week first of all, and once you're on track, once you see the weight falling off, you don't want to give up! Things will be tough, you will have people telling you to diet otherwise, temptation from food you want to eat but can't at first, but trust me. Once you see the scale lose digits, you get this amazing feeling, and you dont want to stop it because you know how good it feels

[kac1]

Re: Hello again, I really want to do this but why do I keep failing!

Hi Jodidi~

This sounds all too familiar. When I decided to do this at the begining of the month, I did the same thing. It took me a week of "I'll start tomorrow, as I don't want to waste the food I already bought..." So I had a week of that, then I just dug in and did it.

Yes, it's hard and a pain in the ***. But wanting to lose weight and wanting to DO what you need to do to lose it is a whole other story. When you are READY TO DO IT, you will.

I had to do years of soul searching-- I wish I could afford a therapist... but I discovered why I was eating like I was and and once I got that figured out, then I had to work on the physical addiction and break that. It's stressful and you cry a lot and you think this will never happen.

Then one day you just get so tired of being fat and feeling the way you do... You take it one day at a time. You complete the first day without killing yourself or strangling anyone else, and you try to see if you can do it the next day.

When you are ready, worn down, you will do it. If I can do it, my god you can. There I things I want so badly that it usurps my need for that donut.

Good luck and stick with it... YOU WILL DO THIS!!!

x