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    I'm so angry and in tears

    Well, I've just started posting here and so determined to finally get the weight off once and for all (I just had my baby girl 2mnths ago) and I have a 23mth old son.. so I've put on so much weight in the past three years.
    Anyway.. over xmas all my family from around the world met up and got together and demanded family photos which I kept politely declining.. BUT then got pushed into by everyone as its the first time we have met in years... so I had too.. (standing in the back ect)

    anyway.. I've just gone onto facebook and my stupid cousin has posted all the photos.. which means all my friends, ex's ect from around the world who only knew me as slim, can all see me.. and there are certain people I really don't want to see me..

    I feel physically sick.. and I just can't stop crying..
    I've asked her to take them off, but already two friends have commented on them

    xx
    tumtum
    Tumtum

    250/185/155

    www.fatobsession.blogspot.com

    Height 5.7"


    Tags: angry, tears
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    Re: I'm so angry and in tears

    Untag the photos and move on. Also you worry too much about what others think. You just had 2 kids, you should expect to look a little different than you did 5 years ago. Also, since you have 2 kids it is definitely time to get over ANYTHING your exes may think.

    Or

    Get on the diet 100% correctly. Give it some time. Take new pictures of the skinny you and put those on facebook. People will look at those and be so proud of how much you lost compared to the pics of you right now.

    Either way, crying and feeling sorry for yourself will not erase the pictures or magically make you lose weight. Try using your shame as motivation for following the diet. I started back at the end of June, I went from 225 to 175. Everywhere I go people who knew me compliment me and ask my secret.

    My final piece of advice. Go buy the book Dr. Atkins A New Diet Revolution 2002. Read it, then read it again. I read it at least 5 times and skimmed it 123873 times.

    Good Luck
    223/168/170
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    Started July of 2008.
    Hit my original goal of 200 in 2 months.
    Hit my altered goal of 180 in 4 months.
    My max weight goal is 175 and Im trying to keep between 165 to 170.

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    • #3
      Re: I'm so angry and in tears

      Hi, Tumtum. You can set your preferences on Facebook to where others are not capable of tagging photos taken of you. For example, only my sister is allowed to do this - and she is thoughtful & asks prior to doing so.

      "Is this going to wind up on someone's MySpace?" is a tongue-in-cheek question I ask before agreeing to pose for a photo taken with someone else's camera. Frankly, I wouldn't dream of taking the liberty of posting and tagging a photo of someone else without their permission ... especially if they begrudgingly posed for it.
      Sheila, Founder of SugarFreeSheila.com
      5'3", medium-framed & muscular, & maintaining since 2001

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      • #4
        Re: I'm so angry and in tears

        Tumtum... I am so sorry to hear that your cousin was so insensative to your needs. She really should have asked first. I dont have my picture anywhere on the net... not even on this forum. - I have the same feelings you do - I dont want everyone to see me the way I am.

        On the other hand think of what you can do with this. Use this feeling to get busy and loose the weight you need to loose. Show them that you are a strong person and that you can get back to your skinny self. - Then post a new picture.

        I know you can do it. Keep your chin up!

        Shauna
        How does one become a butterfly?
        You must want to fly so much that you're willing to give up being a caterpillar.

        Shauna
        re-Start Weight: 250 lbs. 01/08/10
        240 lbs.
        230 lbs.
        220 lbs.
        GW 145


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        • #5
          Re: I'm so angry and in tears

          Thanks guys.. you have all be fab. I think I've had my cry and now I've downed another 3pints of water. I've got the book and read it a 100times, and was very successful the first two times I did it, before I gave up smoking and fell pregnant with my son, so I know it works, I just need to put my head down and look forward to June, where I hope to at least be close to my target...
          But like you said.. this is just making me feel more motivated now. I'm still rather angry and upset but its not her fault...
          Thanks guys.
          tumtum
          Tumtum

          250/185/155

          www.fatobsession.blogspot.com

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          • #6
            Re: I'm so angry and in tears

            Hugs to you. I know how you feel, but what you look like on the outside has little to do with the person inside. Having two kids in a short time will make you weigh a few more pounds, but I'm sure your babies are worth every pound. Think how they will feel if they see how upset their Mommy is because of what their birth did to her physical body. They love the real you, the one inside.

            Use this chance to lose the weight so you can get healthy and be able to keep up and play with them. Make sure you are around to see all their milestones and meet your grandkids. That's what is important. Not what people might think on the Internet.

            Sunny!
            People who say it can't be done, should not interrupt those doing it.


            "Some men give up their designs when they have almost reached the goal; While others, on the contrary, obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment, more vigorous efforts than ever before."
            ~~Herodotus


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            • #7
              Re: I'm so angry and in tears

              Sorry that your cousin did that

              Untag yourself - go in to the pic and click untag.

              to your insensitive relative
              224/200/165
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              • #8
                Re: I'm so angry and in tears

                gah, facebook pictures used to give me nightmares. i sometimes like to make crazy faces... especially while drinking... and my friends seem to have no concept of what is an acceptable picture to put up.

                and if the people who see them are negative about how you look, they aren't worth your time.
                it's just little ol' three chord me.
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