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I'm pretty sure I brought this up years ago, but here we go...
6 months ago, my other half and I moved in with his parents because of problems we were having with our landlord and apartment, and to save a bit of money. When his parents asked us to move in, they knew about how I ate, I've done it for years and I even got his mother into the WOL a year or two ago. It's no secret, they know and I expected them to understand. They're South American, very Spanish, very family orientated, and I thought we had tackled this meal-problem years ago...
But over the last 6 months, things have gone from bad to worse. We all eat meals together as a family whenever possible, and I'm happy enough to service my own meal so whoever's cooking doesn't have to make a seperate meal for me. Being considerate, right? Or if they're cooking something I can eat most of, like grilled chicken, vegetables and rice, I just ask them to leave the rice off the plate, and I throw some salad on instead. Again, not causing trouble, right?
I even BUY groceries each week, partly to pay my way, partly so they don't have to pay for me to eat differently. But I'm still getting the cold shoulder about it all - being told that I'm rude for turning down their food, and so forth. It's getting to me so much that I find myself eating whatever they put in front of me just to make them happy and stop the arguments. I just dont see why there needs to be so many arguments over me eating a different way.
I'm lactose intolerant, and even that isn't a good enough excuse apparently. I still get served food I CANT eat (without being extremely sick as a result) and told to eat it or I'm offending them.
If it was here I asked before, I had a lot of great suggestions of just talking to them, telling them I can't eat certain foods, and getting along that way, but I'm at my wits' end. I've resorted to eating when everyone's at work, or leaving the house to eat and it's getting me so miserable.
What makes me sad is that my other half has medical problems, and his doctor has told him many times that he needs to lose weight or he's going to get even worse problems. His doctor has told him, told both of us that he needs to be eating as I do. But even a doctors word is good enough, and he's weak enough to listen to his parents over a medical professional.
I know most of this is probably just a rant to you, but I need some more advice if anyone has some, or has anyone been through anything similar? It's getting to the point where I'm yearning to go back to the UK more often (I'm actually going back next week for a bit) just to escape.
I've lost my job, so moving out isn't an option right now, as much as I wish it were.
6 months ago, my other half and I moved in with his parents because of problems we were having with our landlord and apartment, and to save a bit of money. When his parents asked us to move in, they knew about how I ate, I've done it for years and I even got his mother into the WOL a year or two ago. It's no secret, they know and I expected them to understand. They're South American, very Spanish, very family orientated, and I thought we had tackled this meal-problem years ago...
But over the last 6 months, things have gone from bad to worse. We all eat meals together as a family whenever possible, and I'm happy enough to service my own meal so whoever's cooking doesn't have to make a seperate meal for me. Being considerate, right? Or if they're cooking something I can eat most of, like grilled chicken, vegetables and rice, I just ask them to leave the rice off the plate, and I throw some salad on instead. Again, not causing trouble, right?
I even BUY groceries each week, partly to pay my way, partly so they don't have to pay for me to eat differently. But I'm still getting the cold shoulder about it all - being told that I'm rude for turning down their food, and so forth. It's getting to me so much that I find myself eating whatever they put in front of me just to make them happy and stop the arguments. I just dont see why there needs to be so many arguments over me eating a different way.
I'm lactose intolerant, and even that isn't a good enough excuse apparently. I still get served food I CANT eat (without being extremely sick as a result) and told to eat it or I'm offending them.
If it was here I asked before, I had a lot of great suggestions of just talking to them, telling them I can't eat certain foods, and getting along that way, but I'm at my wits' end. I've resorted to eating when everyone's at work, or leaving the house to eat and it's getting me so miserable.
What makes me sad is that my other half has medical problems, and his doctor has told him many times that he needs to lose weight or he's going to get even worse problems. His doctor has told him, told both of us that he needs to be eating as I do. But even a doctors word is good enough, and he's weak enough to listen to his parents over a medical professional.
I know most of this is probably just a rant to you, but I need some more advice if anyone has some, or has anyone been through anything similar? It's getting to the point where I'm yearning to go back to the UK more often (I'm actually going back next week for a bit) just to escape.
I've lost my job, so moving out isn't an option right now, as much as I wish it were.
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Got those before and after pictures handy (real nice by the way 
) Next time you get the "you're offending us speech, start in on why are they trying to make you fat again? If you can put on some tears, all the better. Why is it that you eating their food is more important than your health? Don't they want their son to have a long life partner??
and support. You look awesome!
I know I can do it, I did it in 3 months last time, without putting in full Atkins-style effort, so if I give it 110% this time, I can do it for sure. 
They can always add lemon juice to their plate of salad rather than the salad bowl 
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