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Does anyone else's signficant other just not "understand" your want and or need to do atkins?
First off, let me preface this by saying that my fiance is supporting me by making sure that when we go out for dinner, or he brings dinner home, or on nights that he cooks (he usually does most of the cooking...) he DOES help me by making sure that I can "eat" what's there...he'll make himself a baked potato, but always make sure there's another vegee dish for me. Or if he wants rice, he'll buy himself a small bag of instant rice for his dinner but I'll always have some sort of vegee...He'll bring stuff home from work (he's a caterer) and he'll make sure I don't have ANY of the mashed potatoes on my plate and more vegees...so he IS supportive in that way.
HOWEVER.
BIG "HOWEVER".
The first issue is that - for me, I am the kind of person - when it comes to true weight loss, I'm very "OCD". When I lost 60 pounds on weight watchers, it was SOOOO easy for me because A. I had no friends at the time (long story won't get into) and B. I had no boyfriend. So it was just me, myself and I. Meaning I could be as absolute "obsessive compulsive" as I wanted about doing things and I didn't have to listen to anyone trying to convince me that what I was doing was wrong. And what I mean by being obsessive compulsive was journaling EVERYTHING. Writing down every single last bite of food that went into my mouth - which, in my opinion, as well as the opinion of MOST diet and weight loss people out there, you HAVE to know what you're eating in order to track why or why not you're losing.
This is one thing he just absolutely HATES that I do. We'll be sitting on the couch at night and i'll be on the laptop putting in my food for the night - and he'll ask me what i'm doing, and I'll be completely honest with him and tell him, "I'm inputting my food for the night." and he just rolls his eyes and says "that is absolutely NO way to live." And I just roll my eyes back and continue on with what i'm doing. For me - to "live" I want to lose weight - and in order to do that, for now, I NEED to know how many carbs I'm eating during the day, and so I HAVE to journal my food. But it's not just food, it's my exercise too - and again, even though he's always been one to to go the gym and he lost 50 pounds a few years ago, he doesn't understand that either (course, he DOES know and constantly reminds me that guys lose easier than girls. yes. i know. grrr).
So while I am honest at that point in time that if I'm entering in my food and he asks me what i'm doing, I will tell him - but I do try not to talk to him about it.
Asides from the journaling and the obsessing, he also doesn't understand atkins whatsoever and he is a very stubborn and firm believer in "fat is bad. low fat / good carbs (whole grains)" is the only way to go....and he thinks that i'm just an "abnormality" and that MOST people out there don't have the condition I have (insulin resistance) and no matter HOW much I try to convince him otherwise - he just doesn't want to believe that MOST people out there ARE insulin resistant and/or diabetic and that MOST people out there SHOULDN'T be eating carbs (which, for me, is something that I've had to really realize as I understand where he's coming from because I believed the same as him for a very long time). It doesn't matter that his sister is IR and his brother is Diabetic...lol.
So I can't talk to him about any of my "diet stuff" and of course he thinks I'm absolutely beautiful the way I am (gotta love him!) and that I DON'T need to lose any weight...which of course in a relationship is GREAT that he doesn't think bad of me...but it's just very frustrating that something that is VERY important to me, he just refuses to understand.
Now I WILL say, that - to look at me, I'm NOT "huge" by anymeans. I don't even think anyone would call me "overweight" let alone "obese" (which, according to BMI I am...I hate BMI, lol). I'm not ashamed of my body or the way I look - but at the same time, I HAVE been down to 160 and that's where I want to get back to because I was VERY happy at that weight. I have clothes from that weight that I'm DYING to get back into. FOR ME - THIS IS WHAT I WANT.
I love atkins. I think it's one of the EASIEST ways of eating I've ever found and I plan on doing it for as long as I can, if not the rest of my life.
I absolutely love him and he loves me - but this is just one thing we can't "share"...and that is frustrating - but I guess we can't share EVERYTHING in life. Again though - at least he IS supportive in that he DOESN'T push food on me that he knows I can't "have" and he DOES bring home food I "can" have - and even when he wants to go somewhere (such as saturday we are going to Bucca Di Beppo - an Italian place - he asked me to check out the menu to see if there's anything I can eat there, and there is
...but it's still frustrating that I can't talk about it.
He's also supportive of me going to the gym and taking my vitamins...he just thinks that the WAY i'm giong about it isn't healthy (mentally with journaling everything and doing atkins/high fat/low carb diet).
anyways - I just want to know how many of you out there deal with the same thing.
First off, let me preface this by saying that my fiance is supporting me by making sure that when we go out for dinner, or he brings dinner home, or on nights that he cooks (he usually does most of the cooking...) he DOES help me by making sure that I can "eat" what's there...he'll make himself a baked potato, but always make sure there's another vegee dish for me. Or if he wants rice, he'll buy himself a small bag of instant rice for his dinner but I'll always have some sort of vegee...He'll bring stuff home from work (he's a caterer) and he'll make sure I don't have ANY of the mashed potatoes on my plate and more vegees...so he IS supportive in that way.
HOWEVER.
BIG "HOWEVER".
The first issue is that - for me, I am the kind of person - when it comes to true weight loss, I'm very "OCD". When I lost 60 pounds on weight watchers, it was SOOOO easy for me because A. I had no friends at the time (long story won't get into) and B. I had no boyfriend. So it was just me, myself and I. Meaning I could be as absolute "obsessive compulsive" as I wanted about doing things and I didn't have to listen to anyone trying to convince me that what I was doing was wrong. And what I mean by being obsessive compulsive was journaling EVERYTHING. Writing down every single last bite of food that went into my mouth - which, in my opinion, as well as the opinion of MOST diet and weight loss people out there, you HAVE to know what you're eating in order to track why or why not you're losing.
This is one thing he just absolutely HATES that I do. We'll be sitting on the couch at night and i'll be on the laptop putting in my food for the night - and he'll ask me what i'm doing, and I'll be completely honest with him and tell him, "I'm inputting my food for the night." and he just rolls his eyes and says "that is absolutely NO way to live." And I just roll my eyes back and continue on with what i'm doing. For me - to "live" I want to lose weight - and in order to do that, for now, I NEED to know how many carbs I'm eating during the day, and so I HAVE to journal my food. But it's not just food, it's my exercise too - and again, even though he's always been one to to go the gym and he lost 50 pounds a few years ago, he doesn't understand that either (course, he DOES know and constantly reminds me that guys lose easier than girls. yes. i know. grrr).
So while I am honest at that point in time that if I'm entering in my food and he asks me what i'm doing, I will tell him - but I do try not to talk to him about it.
Asides from the journaling and the obsessing, he also doesn't understand atkins whatsoever and he is a very stubborn and firm believer in "fat is bad. low fat / good carbs (whole grains)" is the only way to go....and he thinks that i'm just an "abnormality" and that MOST people out there don't have the condition I have (insulin resistance) and no matter HOW much I try to convince him otherwise - he just doesn't want to believe that MOST people out there ARE insulin resistant and/or diabetic and that MOST people out there SHOULDN'T be eating carbs (which, for me, is something that I've had to really realize as I understand where he's coming from because I believed the same as him for a very long time). It doesn't matter that his sister is IR and his brother is Diabetic...lol.
So I can't talk to him about any of my "diet stuff" and of course he thinks I'm absolutely beautiful the way I am (gotta love him!) and that I DON'T need to lose any weight...which of course in a relationship is GREAT that he doesn't think bad of me...but it's just very frustrating that something that is VERY important to me, he just refuses to understand.
Now I WILL say, that - to look at me, I'm NOT "huge" by anymeans. I don't even think anyone would call me "overweight" let alone "obese" (which, according to BMI I am...I hate BMI, lol). I'm not ashamed of my body or the way I look - but at the same time, I HAVE been down to 160 and that's where I want to get back to because I was VERY happy at that weight. I have clothes from that weight that I'm DYING to get back into. FOR ME - THIS IS WHAT I WANT.
I love atkins. I think it's one of the EASIEST ways of eating I've ever found and I plan on doing it for as long as I can, if not the rest of my life.
I absolutely love him and he loves me - but this is just one thing we can't "share"...and that is frustrating - but I guess we can't share EVERYTHING in life. Again though - at least he IS supportive in that he DOESN'T push food on me that he knows I can't "have" and he DOES bring home food I "can" have - and even when he wants to go somewhere (such as saturday we are going to Bucca Di Beppo - an Italian place - he asked me to check out the menu to see if there's anything I can eat there, and there is
...but it's still frustrating that I can't talk about it.He's also supportive of me going to the gym and taking my vitamins...he just thinks that the WAY i'm giong about it isn't healthy (mentally with journaling everything and doing atkins/high fat/low carb diet).
anyways - I just want to know how many of you out there deal with the same thing.
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