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Is what motivates you negative or positive? I think we should all pay more attention to that. Any time in the past when i've been motivated by negativity, it has never panned out in the long run. Why is that?
Have you ever noticed people get motivated by anger? Well, more like hurt disguised as anger. The "Well i'll show you!" mind set. I remember once I had just sat down to eat at IHOP with an ex boyfriend, and he was looking at me weird, and said "You know, if you lost weight, you'd look like a supermodel" That was probably 3 years ago, and I still remember it and how mortified I was that that jerk said that to me. My initial reaction was "well I'll show you", and proceeded to lose and gain and lose and gain. It didn't stick, because you fall back into that self pity mode, and felt sorry for myself and said "hey SCREW this" and ate chocolate all night. Hated myself for it, vowed to stop, the repeat. repeat. repeat.
When your motivation is vengence on some brat saying some bratty things, or a reaction to having your feelings hurt, it will probably burn out and fail. Not to mention just mess with your self esteem even more because it feels like you don't have any willpower.
I cannot tell y'all what the benefit of being in a healthy positive mindset can do! The first time I did atkins, it was out of self hate. I hated my body (even though that first time I started almost 20lbs lighter than where I've started this time) and was super self conscious and always mind-read and assumed what everyone else thought of me. My willpower would flare for about 3 days, then i'd cave, and cave hard. Like an entire bag of nestles treasures hard. A BIG part of that was because if I was out in public, I didn't want to have to explain why I wasn't eating all the crap everyone else was eating. I felt like if you didn't talk about weight loss, no one would notice you needed to lose weight. So I began canceling outings then binging anyway because I felt guilty about bailing on my friends. It was seriously a vicious cycle and my attempts at being healthier, good intentioned or not, never had a chance.
THIS TIME, I feel like I can -breathe- because i'm not doing it out of hate for myself, i'm doing it out of love for myself. I have a fabulous support system in my family and friends and boyfriend. I have willpower I never thought I had when it came to no sugar. In a few days, I'll have gone a full two weeks without sugar of any kind. Before, I'd have cheated at least 3-4 times, then sulked over it, felt bad for myself, and set myself up to do it all again. Now when someone tries to sabotage me, or i'm surrounded by sugar and food I can't eat, I'm not embarrassed to NOT eat it in fear that someone might notice the fat girl trying to diet. I just..... don't do it. I don't know how else to explain it. It isn't being deprived. Its almost a challenge. like "yeah ok giant chocolate reeses cup, we'll see who comes out on top here!!"
If we all can just stay above that little self-loathing pit and realize how much you deserve success, it will just happen naturally.
Have you ever noticed people get motivated by anger? Well, more like hurt disguised as anger. The "Well i'll show you!" mind set. I remember once I had just sat down to eat at IHOP with an ex boyfriend, and he was looking at me weird, and said "You know, if you lost weight, you'd look like a supermodel" That was probably 3 years ago, and I still remember it and how mortified I was that that jerk said that to me. My initial reaction was "well I'll show you", and proceeded to lose and gain and lose and gain. It didn't stick, because you fall back into that self pity mode, and felt sorry for myself and said "hey SCREW this" and ate chocolate all night. Hated myself for it, vowed to stop, the repeat. repeat. repeat.
When your motivation is vengence on some brat saying some bratty things, or a reaction to having your feelings hurt, it will probably burn out and fail. Not to mention just mess with your self esteem even more because it feels like you don't have any willpower.
I cannot tell y'all what the benefit of being in a healthy positive mindset can do! The first time I did atkins, it was out of self hate. I hated my body (even though that first time I started almost 20lbs lighter than where I've started this time) and was super self conscious and always mind-read and assumed what everyone else thought of me. My willpower would flare for about 3 days, then i'd cave, and cave hard. Like an entire bag of nestles treasures hard. A BIG part of that was because if I was out in public, I didn't want to have to explain why I wasn't eating all the crap everyone else was eating. I felt like if you didn't talk about weight loss, no one would notice you needed to lose weight. So I began canceling outings then binging anyway because I felt guilty about bailing on my friends. It was seriously a vicious cycle and my attempts at being healthier, good intentioned or not, never had a chance.
THIS TIME, I feel like I can -breathe- because i'm not doing it out of hate for myself, i'm doing it out of love for myself. I have a fabulous support system in my family and friends and boyfriend. I have willpower I never thought I had when it came to no sugar. In a few days, I'll have gone a full two weeks without sugar of any kind. Before, I'd have cheated at least 3-4 times, then sulked over it, felt bad for myself, and set myself up to do it all again. Now when someone tries to sabotage me, or i'm surrounded by sugar and food I can't eat, I'm not embarrassed to NOT eat it in fear that someone might notice the fat girl trying to diet. I just..... don't do it. I don't know how else to explain it. It isn't being deprived. Its almost a challenge. like "yeah ok giant chocolate reeses cup, we'll see who comes out on top here!!"
If we all can just stay above that little self-loathing pit and realize how much you deserve success, it will just happen naturally.
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