I hate myself today..please help

[Christy Ann]

5th day on strict induction and was going strong! a few things stresfull things happened today and so i decided to take a long hot bath...THEN my husband comes in with my weakness LaMars doughnuts and yes I ate 1...i feel like such a loser i had lost 7lbs, now i feel like i tossed it all out the window! How bad did I mess up...do I just continue like it never happened or work out an extra hour or what ...?????? PLEASE HELP

[phil h]

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forget the workout, rededicate yourself to induction.Hunger will probably be tough for a few days but eat fat till full.

[Georgiana]

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Hey there!

The best thing to do is move on and finish Induction. The weight loss you'll see at the end of Induction will not allow you to accurately determine your degree of metabolic resistance (see table on page 158 in DANDR), but you didn't "toss it all out the window". Don't use this cheat as an excuse to cheat more -- make your next bite a legal one... and tell your husband to keep the doughnuts away from you in the future, so that you can successfully work towards improving your health.

[PHAT Beth]

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I would use it as a learning experience. Maybe you could talk to your husband about bringing you the sweets. I mean, I'm sure he didn't mean to damage your efforts, but you have to stand firm on the fact that you're committing yourself to an entirely new Way Of Eating, and that while the donut made you feel better for a while, you're feeling guilty now. Maybe next time, he could give you a nice massage. I know that relaxes me after a bath. Or maybe even going for a nice twilight walk with you. It's about undoing old habits. Replacing emotional eating with better habits will help you to redirect your stress.

And don't feel TOO bad. It's only a small stumble on a very large path toward a better you.

[planetclaire]

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Just continue on with induction...its going to be a tough few days again since you added the sugar, but persevere. I'm sure everyone here has messed up a time or two thousand!

[Simona]

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I know how you're feeling. I buggered up today too. I was SO happy with my 8lb loss in 4 days!!! and I ate chocolates today. DUMB! I had some of my nieces's Cadbury mini eggs. I know they're a horrible addiction of mine and I went for them. I feel like crap for cheating myself. BUT I know tomorrow's another day and another day to stick with my plan.

[Sunny_0ne]

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ChristyAnn and Simona, no you didn't throw it all off the window.

You learned a lesson--hopefully.

So just get back on track and get on with your weight loss!

[chinadoll]

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And, calmly, sincerely, and firmly ask you hubby to not bring that stuff into the house. Ask for his support and tell him you are happy he can have that stuff, but to just buy enough for him and them hide it or eat it outside the house. My DH used to always pick up fruity drinks and junk food when he went out for coffee and the paper. I would see the empty wrappers in the car, but God love him, the food never crossed our threshold so I wasn't tempted.

[Sunny_0ne]

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Jill, my hubby does the same. Brings in all kinds of cookies, candies, pretzels... you name it.

But he discreetly stashes them in his office, so I don't have to see them!

Christy, tell him that if he wants to bring you something to bring you some nice bubblebath or other little thing that you would enjoy having him surprise you with.

[Christy Ann]

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Thank you all so very much.. I plan on starting fresh tomorrow..Easter or NOT! it took me forever to commit to this and dang it i'm gonna do it! I owe it to myself and my kids and even my husband who could care less if i was 400 lbs...burt i cant let him love me to death! You are all so wonderful! Thank you for the fast response! I hope one day i will be able to do the same for someone! bug HUGGS! Christy

[not2late]

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Get your husband on your team. It's great that he loves you unconditionally, so getting him on your side will be easier. Just calmly tell him that you need to lose weight so you can be healthy for him and your children: I don't think he'll object to having a healthier and fitter wife. And tell him that you need his help to do that.

Get him involved by going over the diet with you so that he knows what you can and cannot eat. That will make him more aware of why you can't eat pasta or mashed potatoes at this point. And it will make meal planning easier for you. For example, if he doesn't mind eating roast chicken and broccoli for supper or Western omelettes for brunch, then you won't have to make 50 different meals everyday. And you'll know he's eating healthier, minimally processed foods, which is better for everyone's general health.

Have him exercise with you, like going for walks with the family or by taking dance lessons (he'll get more fit with the exercise too!) Or have him mind the house while you exercise, so you aren't interrupted.

but get him involved.

[keriann_forgoodthistime]

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Hello! Along with everyone else's FABULOUS advice (especially making sure he's supportive of you...)
One thing I can tell you - since you're "new" at this...educate yourself on WHY you shouldn't be eating sugar. That's what has helped me - learning the science behind WHY sugar really is bad for you. The fact that when you eat sweets (including, for me at least, artificial sweeteners) the insulin in your body spikes and that's what puts fat on your body (long story short, anyways, lol, as there is a lot more that goes into it.)

But I know, for me, that always thinking about WHAT sugar does to my body keeps me from eating it.

And you're not a loser. You're human. We've all had slip-ups but we all pick ourselves up and keep going. My favorite analogy for slipping up is:
You're driving down the road - you get 1 flat tire - do you A. replace it/patch it up and keep going? or B. slash the other 3 tires and just sit there feeling bad because you now can't go ANYWHERE?...
We know the obvious answer - and we need to treat our diet/lifestyle the exact same way.

Good luck!!!!!!

[Christy Ann]

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Thanks MEGS! thanks Keriann!!! I will for sure head your advice ..I appreciate you all so very much!