Arghhhhh!

[GeminiPrincess]

Hello All,

I'm writing because I hope it will help with a craving. I've been on Extended Induction for almost a month. I've done very well, but today I was just super annoyed.


I know this post isn't really about the _atkins_ diet, but instead just "dieting", period. I'm sick of it! I need some motivation to keep going. I'm feeling super down today, and it's all I can do to not eat an entire half gallon of icecream.

Today, I met my BF for lunch near where he works. I tried so hard to look good, I'm wearing two sizes smaller in both pants and shirts. I did my hair, makeup, etc. I felt good. Of course I was expecting him to say I looked fantastic. Because the outfit I wore is something like I haven't worn in years (nevermind around him). It was just simple jean capris and a cute linen top.

My BF said I looked cute. Now, why am I am upset about this? because I was GOING for HOT MAMA! I was GOING for "WOW, YOU LOOK AWESOME". I didn't get that.

Then we, go to the 99 restaurant. And I order the california cobb salad. I REALLY wanted to get the honey barbecue chicken wrap and fries. But I got a miserable salad. And my BF got this huge chicken parm sandwich, soup, fries, and a soda. I wanted to cry. I really don't think I can go out to eat anymore. I don't have fun. People say it's about visiting with friends, and the company, etc. For me, it isn't. it's about food. I want to eat it. And I'm super depressed that I have to deal with being fat and my BF (and friends, and seemingly everyone else) can just eat and eat and eat and it makes no difference to their weight. It's BULL&%(@. I hate it. I hate that I have to be the one to work my friggen A$$ off, and everyone else around me doesn't diet at all.

Then, of course, our waitress looked like a model. And I didn't even want to eat my salad after that. This day totally sucked.

Why is it, that you supppose, that some people can eat whatever the heck they want, while others wll struggle every single day of their lives?

The thing that sucks so bad about dieting is that you NEED to eat to live. If you quit smoking, you just avoid ciggarettes, smoking, smoky bars, etc. You NEED to eat 4-6 times a day to live. And so every few hours your forced to make a choice about what to eat, what's the best for you, what you shouldn't have, etc. I hate it. I know I'm ranting here, but I really feel like I just want to eat a piece of bread, or something.


I am just all about the pity party, today. I don't understand why I have to struggle with this and no one else in my life has to. It's not fair. And I realize that I sound more like 8 than 28 right now, but I'm moody as heck and needed to tell someone.

Hopefully I can snap out of it.....

[not2late]

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According to your stats, you've lost 28 pounds. Congrats on that.

But my question is why are you still on Induction?

I would suggest you move to On-Going Weight Loss phase and start incorporating a wider variety of food and possibly more carbs into your meals. See, food boredom is torture.

Since you extended your Induction, you were limited to a Cobb salad. But if you move to OWL Phase, you'd be able to eat more than lettuce for lunch. Berries, fresh dairy, nuts, legumes, starchy veggies (like boyfriend's French fries), even grains are all legal during the appropriate rungs of the OWL Phase carb ladder.

I found that OWL made my life a whole lot easier: it was easier to find "legal" foods to eat almost anywhere I went.

As for people noticing your loss....it might happen and it might not happen. No one said a peep to me until I lost about 50 pounds. And it was only 2 people: a person I bump into yearly at a work conference and the janitor of my office building. In fact, when I was nearly 75 pounds down, someone told me "That's great you lost that much. But you still have a long way to go. I mean, you're still on the pudgy side."

So the lesson I learned is: don't look to other people to make you feel like you've accomplished anything on your weight loss journey. Some people might not notice. Some people might notice and choose not to say anything for a variety of reasons. And some people will always find a way to rain on your parade no matter what.

[espositox3]

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i feel your pain! i feel exactly the same way. i cant give you any words of wisdom,but i can tell you that somebody else out there feels the same way. all the girls at my work are rail thin and they eat mcdonalds for lunch and/or breakfast every day. its sickening. you are not in this alone,i am with you

[love4scotland]

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I know exactly how you feel. I'm sure many of us do. I emailed my father and step-mother yesterday with my status and from my mother I get a way to go and how proud she is then my father sends this message about how he is glad I have made a choice to save my life. (He is forever telling me that I am going to die young unless I lose weight.) He is right but it doesn't make it the congrats and keep up the good work I want to hear. My husband doesn't notice any change but that's ok. One thing I do to support me is talk to people who definitely notice the difference.

You have made great choices and posting this rant on here was definitely one of them. All or at least most of us have been in your shoes a time or five. I know it's hard and I know it's frusterating; but the only thing to do (at least for me) is to hang in there. If you are wanting good feedback about how you look why don't you post a photo of you in that cute outfit and one from before. Believe me, having people tell you that you are an inspiration to them can do wonders for your self esteem.

You have all of us to talk to if you get upset. That's what this group is here for. Just think how much happier you will be when you reach your goal. If it wasn't hard, everyone would be thin. You are strong. You have gone a month and look how well you are doing. Look at your start weight and look at where you are now. I'm proud of you. You can do this! We all can. If you need to vent, we are here.

If eating out bothers you, take a break from it for awhile. Eat at home. Study the board where there are all kinds of suggestions about where to eat out and what to order as well as many yummy receipes.

Have some faith in yourself and love yourself. I believe in you. You can do this. It will get better and easier. We are all hugging the heck out of you right now.

[liv]

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Get it out there girlfriend. Just get it out.

You're doing so well though considering. Losing weight wearing smaller clothes. Looking amazing.

Now one thing about guys is that they are lousy mind readers. They just sometimes do not know what we want. And we just have to learn to live with that.
You know what my DH said today when we had our morning cuddle. You're just not as soft as you used to be.

(I decided to take it as a compliment)

I suggest picking those restaurants carefully. Isn't there a restaurant where you know that you can eat something that is legal and make you happy? These are the restaurants I want to go when I have a choice. (I like steak places or places where they serve shrimp, lobster)

And what Megs is saying is so true. OWL is a wonderful part of the diet and learning how you can eat a lot more stuff and still lose weight is great.

Hope things turns around.
Hang in there.

[GeminiPrincess]

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Thanks, guys. I really needed someone to know how I was feeling.....and reading your responses _did_ make me feel better. And I haven't caved to the icecream yet......


Megs, I'm not sure why I feel like I want to stay on extended induction. I suppose I really wanted to stay on it until I hit the 200 mark....and then progress. I'm not sure if this is wise or not. I do love the diet----I love the energy I have, etc. I just get annoyed with planning every detail of my meals. But that's what helps.

As for restaurants, here's the tricky thing: I don't eat red meat. I know, it's silly to be on Atkins and not eat red meat.....I eat tons of chicken and eggs, etc. I get plenty of protein. I'm in ketosis. But I have _never_ had a hamburger in my life. I've never had a steak, never had bacon, etc. I tried a piece of ham and got so sick. The DR told me my body has never had to break down red meat, so it didn't know what to do with it. I've avoided it. So I don't have the convenience of the steak houses, lol. I eat salads and grilled chicken with brocolli, etc, whenever I go out (which hasn't been much lately. just today since the start of my new woe).

Anyway, it really helps to know that someone else was out there in cyber space, reading my rant. I really do feel better.

Any suggestions on staying on extended induction until I get below 200 are welcome. I have loved learning from everyone on the board....

Rita Marie

[Chihuahua Luvin Gurl]

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But I got a miserable salad. And my BF got this huge chicken parm sandwich, soup, fries, and a soda. I wanted to cry. I really don't think I can go out to eat anymore. I don't have fun. People say it's about visiting with friends, and the company, etc. For me, it isn't. it's about food. I want to eat it. And I'm super depressed that I have to deal with being fat and my BF (and friends, and seemingly everyone else) can just eat and eat and eat and it makes no difference to their weight. It's BULL&%(@. I hate it. I hate that I have to be the one to work my friggen A$$ off, and everyone else around me doesn't diet at all.

I could have wrote this myself! All I can say is stick with it, you have already lost a good amount of weight, so don't let it go to waste! Stick it out through the misery and try to focus on a BIG goal you have. When you see everyone around you eating garbage food, just smile inside thinking about how you are nourishing yourself the correct way, AND losing weight to make yourself healthier. They may be able to eat all this crap now and not show any weight gain, but studies show that there are a lot of SKINNY people that are seriously sick inside from all of the garbage that they eat. You will not only be skinny one day, but HEALTHY inside too!

Stay with it, you will have your "Hot Mama" status soon!

[GeminiPrincess]

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Thanks for reminding me that tons of THIN people are total junk inside due to mal-nutrition. I'm going to try to remember this next time I'm faced with eating in a group.....which will probably be Memorial Day.......

THanks for the inspiration to keep going,

Rita Marie

[Chihuahua Luvin Gurl]

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You are very welcome! Hang in there, we CAN do this!!!!

[not2late]

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I don't eat alot of red meat either. But thankfully on Atkins, we're allowed to eat chicken, fish, shellfish, etc. So I don't feel like I'm limited. Actually, it's kind of liberating to know that you can eat lobster (if you can afford it!) dipped in butter on this "diet".

As for the skinny people inhaling fast food, potato chips, cookies, etc. etc. etc.----unless they have good genetics that allows them to stay thin regardless, it WILL catch up with them one day either in the form of weight gain or in the form of heart disease, diabetes, etc. So I don't envy them at all.

[MsUnderstood0000]

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Hang in there it will get easier. Congrats on your weight loss so far.