What makes you mad about thinner people? and whats your insipration!

[JohnSantos]

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There's irony in the fact that the larger you get, the more invisible you become.

Agreed, people averted their eyes when I looked at them and smiled. The fatter I was, the more people didn't want to make eye contact (they probably had scoped me out from across the room).

Now the more weight I lose, the more contact people have with me.

It's just a long road to recover the confidence and esteem that was lost.

[keriann_forgoodthistime]

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ya know, though - the whole "invisible thing" - believe me, I've been there - but I've thought about this before and as far as people NOT looking at a fatter/bigger person in the fact a lot of it could be that too many fat people get defensive when people look at them...they give off the "what are you staring at???!!!!" sorta thing...and so we almost do it to ourselves??

I mean - I know I don't look at some bigger people for that reason that I don't want them to think that I'm staring at them because they're much bigger...

I know that when I was at my absolute biggest - years ago (220)...I'd always felt like people were staring at me and that I'd rather BE invisible because it felt like EVERYONE was judging me constantly...

maybe that was just me though.

[Mommy2LittleMissBellaBre]

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Its also how you carry yourself. I mean many people are Overweight or obese and they have the attitude im thick and im beautiful and they have that oozzzing out of them!.Which im jealous of!. Ive always been that girl that was sarcasticly funny and outgoing, and was always thick but my insurcuities would show when i would be like "o im fat its ok hand me a cupcake"lol. But some women and men Know that there big and beautiful,and they let everyone know it!. There confident in there own skin. I think if your embaressed or insurcure about yourself That includes your weight and your body yourll find one way or another to show it , weather its sarcastic remarks Like i do and still do or some people hide behind there clothes or just not going out at all which is horrible but some people do it. I used to have this friend who was at the time we were 17 and she was about 250 and she would dress in black and be gothic like, she did it so people would be scared of her and leave her alone so she wouldnt hear the oh your fat remarks or have to be social, She did atkins the same time i did and lost 100 pounds needless to say she now is blond haired and more of the surfer chick!. I think its sad when people like that want people to be afraid of them so they dont have to be social. Because there so afraid someone will put them down.

[runawayllama]

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I hate how my bigger friends give me crap about wanting to lose a little more weight. Just because their heavier than me doesn't mean I can't continue to improve myself. Yes, I'm 130 lbs, but the way it sits on me, I could use to lose a few more. Don't try to bring me down because you're unhappy with who you are. They don't realize I'm not only dieting for my own personal benefit, but I'm also doing it with my husband for his benefit. I have to say, it does hurt my feelings when my bigger friends tell me I don't need to lose anymore, and how they'd be happy to be my size. For some reason I get embarrassed. They don't know where I came from. Starting out at 200 lbs, it's hard to hear those words until I'm happy with myself.

[kibskix]

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I got that a lot from my mom llama. She's smaller and shorter than me, and had a bad habit of always telling me I didnt need to lose more weight because thats just how I was built. she actually told me I was 'too thin' at 180. in a 14 jeans and a large shirt. It was such a ridiculous statement I still don't know if she was just bsing me or if I was just so fat for so long that she decided thats the body i belonged in. either way it ticked me off.

I actually had an ex take me to IHOP a few years ago, and right as we sat down in our booth (both of us about to carbfest i'm sure) he goes "you know if you lost like 50 pounds you could be a model". How stupid are some people, seriously. needless to say I dumped him after that.

[runawayllama]

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Good for you! The world we live in is so heavily revolved around weight, I don't think it's ever possible to be 100% happy with who you are. I say I am with every milestone I make, but in the back of my mind I tell myself there's always room for improvement. I feel better now than I ever have, but that doesn't stop friends and family from guilting me. I've actually lost really good friends on my journey to be thin because they knew me when I was heavy and it made them feel bad about themselves to be around me. I shouldn't be punished for that. I did what I needed to do for myself, weather you decide to do the same is up to you, but don't disown me as a friend because you can't deal. I don't care what you look like, a friend is a friend.

[MrsChesterDogg]

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I had a very much loved friend who was a little heavy. Nothing major but maybe in the neighborhood of 155. She decided that she wanted to loose some weight "for her cholestrol's sake". So she did. She did it by cutting out fat and sugar. I applauded the sugar. But, the whole time she was loosing this weight that's all she wanted to talk about. I find that so boring! I talk about my woe to my husband and that is it! My Dad knows how I eat but I don't talk about it constantly. Why is it people who are pretty close to what is considered normal weight have this need to talk about it constantly? I always felt like she was directing it at me when she talked about it. Like there was an undertone of "you should be doing exactly what I"m doing". Anyhow that is just one more thing that makes me mad about smaller people. I now return you to your regularly scheduled post viewing.

[kibskix]

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i've been guilty of that in the past. I think some people like the attention, and some people are just excited about losing weight and don't realize they're babbling on and on. I've babbled on and on and irritated people back on my first go-around with atkins, so this time i keep my atkins-babble to my bf and my mom, and only when its something worth babbling about lol.
I have a few close friends who are way more overweight than I am, and I don't talk about weight loss around them because I know when you're overly conscious of your weight, my talking about losing it can just make it worse. so if they ask, I tell, but other than that I don't bring it up.

[acaramelrn]

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What makes me mad about thinner people is that they can eat a whole chocolate cake and not gain one ounce. If I just pass by the dang thing I would gain 10 lbs!!

[Mommy2LittleMissBellaBre]

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Ooo i thought of a new one .. when skinny girls get prego have a baby and look like they were never prego!!

[acaramelrn]

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Ooo i thought of a new one .. when skinny girls get prego have a baby and look like they were never prego!!

Yeah like those celebrities!!! grrrrrr! One month later, they got their 6 pack abs back!

[sham]

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I can relate to what everyone is saying who doesn't want to be slim?In this society slim is looked upon as beautiful and fat as ugly.People have always looked upon fatter people negatively and are judged by how they look which is so wrong.Image is everything nowadays and we are all caught up with it which is why we idolise the slimmer models and beatiful figures and wish we can have bodies like them.I have been overweight mostly and after marriage i went on diet lost tons of weight and went underweight so slim you could see my hip bones but that was for 5 mins i didn't get to enjoy that feeling I got pregnant and put it all on.I want to be slim to feel proud of myself for getting there,I want to go shops and not worry and feel ambarassed stating what size I want,I want to feel confident,mainly because I want to fit in! Then theres the bmi chart we may look fine but oh no it will say overweight and we keep going till we get to that normal mark.Sometimes I feel were we put on this earth to diet my lifes been constantly about losing weight.If only we were all the same size!

[currentOBSESSlON]

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Man, when I was reading some of the posts I thought of something that my best friend told me. She was telling me about how her and a bunch of friends were out and there's this one really thin girl there who actually said to my friend, "Dont be jealous that the guys like me because I'm thin. I think if you lose some weight the guys will be all over you". AND MY FRIENDS RESPONSE WAAAASSS "I can always lose the weight, but atleast I HAVE a cute face". I thought that was a great response to the 'thin' girl.

I personally dont get mad at thin people, I was never really 'thin', but I was never 'fat' either, I wore a size 9 and weighed about 150 pounds, I was healthy, everyone always thought I was thinner than I was. So after going through highschool I just learned to accept the fact that my legs will never be stick thin, and I dont want them to be anymore.

Fortunately I'm engaged to a guy who HATES the way thin girls look, haha. He always says that girls are supposed to be curvy, if they arent then they arent really attractive because there's nothing to look at, haha. Mind you, he's been thin and in shape his whole life.

My inspiration thoughh, is that I want to feel comfortable again. I LOATHE going clothes shopping anymore, nothing ever fits the right way. I have to buy pants that are like 4 sizes too big just so they can get their way past my legs, then they're falling off of my waist, ugh. It's awful. OH! and I want nice toned arms . It's just something I never had before, even when I was at my thinnest.

Oh and I'm in Philadelphia (center city) alot, because that's where I go to school and whatnot and there you see all of these people (women especially) that have stick thin legs, like there's nothing on them at all, just bone...thats the only thing that makes me mad, it makes me want to sit them down and forcefeed them a twinkie or something.