Feeling fat, ugly and ashamed :(

**Whatsername** · June 25, 2009, 04:27 AM

Re: Feeling fat, ugly and ashamed

First of all..it is good you are starting again..and hugs for you as you do this. As a "second timer" I know how hard this is. I find myself comparing things to when I did Atkins before. I find myself saying "if only I had stuck to this before..." But I try so hard not to do that. That is over and done with and beating yourself up about it isn't going to help. If anything I am more determined this time around because I know what could happen if I am not.

Just make the commitment to start again (which you have done), take that first step and keep going. Don't look back, don't compare. Once you start losing weight and seeing the results of this again, let that be your motivation. Think positive.

Trust me, I am the Queen of negative thinking and self doubt but I really try so hard to just not let myself do that.

Good luck! You can do it!

Jane

**charks1** · June 25, 2009, 05:15 AM

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Morning Polly,

The negative attitude and bashing yourself needs to be put aside. Take the first steps in changing your way of eating and your way of life. This isn't a yo-yo diet it's commiting yourself to this way of life. You know it works you've been on the other side, it's something that takes one day at a time little baby steps. I've lived this life style for at least 5 years and I struggle every day. You need to push yourself, excercise even when you don't want to...get a buddy.. if not by your side find someone in here that will help you, give u a lift when u need it and a kick in the butt when you slack off...I have 2 people at work and we help each other..I go to the gym 3-4 times a week at lunch time and theres days when I don't want to go and guess what.... they make me....
I also lead and Exercise Challenge here...The Squat Challenge...you should check us out..look at the Excercise Challenges and maybe you'll join in one of them...it does help knowing were also out here,doing the same thing as you are. I get down alot on myself..but what does that do?? Not a darn thing, If I could lose weight by complaining and crying ..geez I'd be thin as a rail..lol..just put your chin up...stop hiding behind your cardigan..and get your butt moving!!!

Good luck

Char

**DJJ** · June 25, 2009, 05:24 AM

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Originally posted by Pretty Polly View Post

arrgh I need help drastically.

I did so well on Atkins about 8 months ago, go down to my dream weight was so happy, looked good in my clothes, took care of my appearance - I promised myself I would never be "fat" again.....but here I am sitting at my office desk in tears as my tummy feels fat and horrid, my thighs are massive and flabby all my clothes are tight and i have bulges everywhere (i' currently have a cardigan placed over my self so no one sees my disgusting fatness

I feel ugly, fat and horrid, I can't believe i put all my weight back on again in the matter of a few months - i feel disgusted with myself.

I know what to do but its soooo hard doing it again, Today is day one AGAIN for me i have my lunch prepared and already have my water bottle on my desk. I just wish there was a magic wand..i want to look nice again get my confidence back i had to go out buy bigger jeans yesterday so i could wear them..that killed me

I'm so dumb, stupid and fat

how could i let this happen to my and my body again!

I feel your pain.

I've decided being Fat is no longer an option. You can do it. I'm starting this diet today...I look forward to seeing your posts and marking our improvements as time passes.

And please don't have a pity party all day. You went to the party when you vented here and now its time to leave. Take your mind to the I CAN DO IT PARTY! It's more fun.

**neutronnorman** · June 25, 2009, 05:29 AM

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"I feel ugly, fat and horrid, I can't believe i put all my weight back on again in the matter of a few months - i feel disgusted with myself."

Naw... you are beautiful. Putting yourself down is the road to failure. Hey, so you had a temporary set back. You learned something about yourself. Maybe this time you'll really hunker down, exercise a bit more, drop the weight quickly and look great in no time. Maybe this time you'll surpass your wildest dreams. Think how great you'll look by the holidays. Yup, I know, it seems like an eternity from now, but tempus fugit. Maybe if you bring your lunch to work and sneakers, you can do a brisk walk for lunch, then eat.

Charks is correct.

**imagood1** · June 25, 2009, 06:24 AM

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get back on the plan, stop feeling sorry for yourself and turn it around....you are the only one who can make this changs.....just do it!

**Eama** · June 25, 2009, 06:33 AM

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Hmm... if you're dumb, stupid and fat, then the rest of us must be dumb, stupid and fat too. But hey... I know that's not true! So YOU must not be either.

You made a mistake. You have had a learning experience. You can do it again.

You KNOW you have the strength to do it.

**Pretty Polly** · June 25, 2009, 06:52 AM

Re: Feeling fat, ugly and ashamed

Hi everyone, thanks for the positive advice

I will and can do this again, i did it before and felt so great i want to and will get back to that again.

I've just folded up the cardigan and am on my second litre of water

Had a lovely lunch of salad, ham, eggs and mozzarella and will have a peppermint tea in a bit

I just felt so disappointed with my self, and its so hard to start again, I've had weeks of, "I Will start tomorrow" and those damn carbs hunt me down like a dog!

My problem is being bored, as soon as i get bored i think about food then i eat and then i over eat on the bad things, but this is a new start and i promise myself i never ever want to feel as down as i felt this morning, I have a pic of "the thin" me and my boyfriend in my purse - this will be my inspiration whenever i feel to eat bad things

**neutronnorman** · June 25, 2009, 06:58 AM

Re: Feeling fat, ugly and ashamed

Originally posted by Pretty Polly View Post

Hi everyone, thanks for the positive advice

I will and can do this again, i did it before and felt so great i want to and will get back to that again.

I've just folded up the cardigan and am on my second litre of water

Had a lovely lunch of salad, ham, eggs and mozzarella and will have a peppermint tea in a bit

I just felt so disappointed with my self, and its so hard to start again, I've had weeks of, "I Will start tomorrow" and those damn carbs hunt me down like a dog!

My problem is being bored, as soon as i get bored i think about food then i eat and then i over eat on the bad things, but this is a new start and i promise myself i never ever want to feel as down as i felt this morning, I have a pic of "the thin" me and my boyfriend in my purse - this will be my inspiration whenever i feel to eat bad things

Consider a hobby! Maybe knitting, doll collecting, doll house building, bird watching or partial differntial equations related to Hilbert Space...I dunno..

**avabelle** · June 25, 2009, 07:03 AM

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Commit yourself to saying this is it- you're sticking with it no matter what! Instead of getting discouraged- think about how amazing you felt before and know that you'll have that success back in no time

Put pics of when you felt the best about yourself all around the house, office, etc. to keep you motivated!

Don't beat yourself up- this is my 3rd attempt at Atkins! But I'm commited to sticking with it now!

**chinadoll** · June 25, 2009, 08:06 AM

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Polly,
2 things-
1) get your hands dirty when you are bored. Do your nails so you can't eat. Take up painting or clay or something. Just leave the house and take a walk in the park even.

2)decide that Atkins is you life, not just a means to an end. This IS the way you eat forever. It won't always be quite so strict as now but you will always have to be on guard. If you didn't, you wouldn't be where you are now.

Finally, today is the bottom. From here it is all better. Just use today to really think about how you managed to slip and get back here. Was it boredom? Was it the "just one bite" creep that leads to bigger and bigger problems, whatever it is that caused you to abandon your success it is important to figure it out so you don't repeat the pattern.

**ldyj** · June 25, 2009, 06:41 PM

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I understand your feelings, like others I've been there too! But those days are past now - forward to success!

**keriann_forgoodthistime** · June 25, 2009, 08:09 PM

Re: Feeling fat, ugly and ashamed

Are you finished? I mean, really - are you done feeling sorry for yourself yet? If not - get it all out. Get out all of those feelings of self-doubt - self-hate and everything else. get it all out and then NEVER say them again.

I know I don't personally know you - but as someone who's had those feelings herself too many times - I can tell you how INCREDIBLE you are because you're here. You WANT to change. Remember how fabulous you felt at that "perfect" weight you were at a while back and realize you CAN and WILL be there again.

For me - I know I've finally found the way of eating that helps me stay thin and I actually don't WANT to go back to the way I used to eat because of how unhappy I was eating that way. I've been on atkins now for 6 months and couldn't be happier.

I finally know what works and I'm working the plan! Do I miss sugar? Do I miss pop tarts and oreos and french fries and diet dr pepper? You bet your butt I do. BUT - I refuse to go back to eating that junk because I've finally realized that I can NOT eat that kind of stuff if I want to be thin. And I want to be thin more than anything. Those foods are NOT worth it.
Plus - I also know the science behind it. Sugar makes my insulin raise and raised insulin is what keeps me fat. It's as simple as that.

You CAN do this. You've done it before. You WILL do it again. And you've come to an INCREDIBLE place for support.

I wish you ALL the luck and blessings.

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