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    Advice from friends..

    Anyone else sick of getting advice from friends?

    When I tell someone I'm back on my diet to lose a few pounds, they flip out. I know I'm not overweight or obese, but I'd like to lose some fat. In come the:

    "All you have to do is cut out the soda!"

    Hello, I haven't had soda in years...

    "If you want to get rid of the fat on your thighs, you should do leg lifts."

    There is no such thing as spot training. I will not get into another argument about this. I've spoken to enough professionals, thanks.

    "But you're so skinny!"

    I'm not skinny. Trust me, I see myself naked every day, I know where I need to lose weight. XD



    I'm just so sick of this stuff... it's not like I'm nagging other people to lose weight. I was invited to a restaurant and when I said "Oh damn, I just went back on my diet, but maybe I can find something on the menu I can have." they flipped out at me with all this bad "advice". Advice from someone who has gained about twenty pounds in the past year, no less! It just irritates the **** out of me. I wish people would just leave me alone about it.
    Height 5'1"

    Starting Weight: 128 lbs (BMI 24.2)
    Current Weight: 128 lbs (BMI 24.2)
    Goal Weight: 110 lbs (BMI 22.7)

    My Blog

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    Re: Advice from friends..

    What really got me was when it was apparent I had lost weight, some people thought it was their duty to give me diet advice and exercise advice. And these people were as fat as I was either at my start weight or at my losing weight.

    I remember this one pudgy man telling me I should run 10 miles a day.....Yeah, right.
    ~Megs~
    242/141/160 (130)
    dress size 26/10/8
    5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
    My blog:
    http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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    • #3
      Re: Advice from friends..

      I get this all the time. It is amazing. Sometimes, I want to talk about my diet with friends as a way of simply that, talking things out. ALWAYS, I get advice and reasons why I am wrong. From my friends. I don't get it.
      149.8/no weigh/ 119



      1st goal: 139 (earlier weight)
      what the rungs mean to me:
      rung 1 - more veggies
      rung 2 - dairy (some milk in coffee)
      rung 3 - seeds, nuts (mostly sprinkled on salads)
      rung 4 - berries, melon
      rung 5 - wine -
      rung 6 - beans, hummus
      rung 7 - other fruits
      rung 8 - carrots/ potatoes (nah, prolly not)
      rung 9 - whole grains (fresh Dutch breads...)
      Major Goal - 128 lbs/ healthy range
      (on to pre-maintenance)

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      • #4
        Re: Advice from friends..

        Oh, yeah. Sorry for the double post, but how about this one?

        "Just eat a little less and exercise more?"
        149.8/no weigh/ 119



        1st goal: 139 (earlier weight)
        what the rungs mean to me:
        rung 1 - more veggies
        rung 2 - dairy (some milk in coffee)
        rung 3 - seeds, nuts (mostly sprinkled on salads)
        rung 4 - berries, melon
        rung 5 - wine -
        rung 6 - beans, hummus
        rung 7 - other fruits
        rung 8 - carrots/ potatoes (nah, prolly not)
        rung 9 - whole grains (fresh Dutch breads...)
        Major Goal - 128 lbs/ healthy range
        (on to pre-maintenance)

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        • #5
          Re: Advice from friends..

          Nobody said anything when I was shoving my face with cake and cookies and ballooning up to 250. Now that I'm eating healthy everybody has something to say. Usually about how unhealthy my foods are. Geez!
          My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four. Unless there are three other people.
          ~Orson Welles




          Everytime I am tempted to use food to satisfy my frustrated desires, build up my injured ego, or dull my senses, I will remember,
          That even though I overeat in private, my excess poundage is there for all the world to see.
          ------------------------------------------------------------

          "Eating like most people won't, so I can look like most people don't."

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          • #6
            Re: Advice from friends..

            Originally posted by ShannonK View Post
            "Just eat a little less and exercise more?"
            Hahaha! Yes... Getting workout advice from women is a pet-peeve of mine, because often they think that reps are where it's at. I think the worst offender was a girl who said, "Well, I do reps and I have more defined arms than you do.."

            And I'm just thinking, "Well duh, you also weigh 105lbs!!"
            Height 5'1"

            Starting Weight: 128 lbs (BMI 24.2)
            Current Weight: 128 lbs (BMI 24.2)
            Goal Weight: 110 lbs (BMI 22.7)

            My Blog

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            • #7
              Re: Advice from friends..

              I sit next to a tall skinny guy at work who eats junk food all day & never gains a pound...for someone who's never had to diet, he's full of (useless) advice.
              Julie__________________F/37/5'2"__________________Start April 15, 2009


              Milestones:ozers6p4
              240 - University grad weight - Met July 29, 2009
              213 - 50% of the way to goal - Met October 21, 2009
              Onederland - Met December 23rd, 2009
              180 - High School grad weight - Met May 5, 2010
              163 - No longer obese______
              136 - No longer overweight (yes, I know this is lower than my goal weight)



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              • #8
                Re: Advice from friends..

                Originally posted by susan423 View Post
                Nobody said anything when I was shoving my face with cake and cookies and ballooning up to 250. Now that I'm eating healthy everybody has something to say. Usually about how unhealthy my foods are. Geez!
                Exactly!

                Wait until you reach your goal....You'll have three groups of people. Group 1 will be happy for you and tell you look great. Group 2 will tell you "good job" but you can still stand to lose a little more (they might not say it in those words, but they imply it.) Group 3 will tell you they don't see a (physicial) difference in you. And everyone will continue giving you advice on how to keep the pounds off and some of them might even take credit for your loss because you did what they told you to do.
                ~Megs~
                242/141/160 (130)
                dress size 26/10/8
                5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
                My blog:
                http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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                • #9
                  Re: Advice from friends..

                  The last comment that got to me was when I was talking about what I could eat and what I liked about eating this way (I tried not to sound preachy about it) and someone said I would be happy with it until I started eating like a normal person again, and that is when I would be happy. Eating like a normal person? Aren't you all normal? I seriously thought about this forum and that is why I could ignore it.

                  I don't know how many times I have said "everyone is different but this is what works for me".

                  x5










                  5'6", 42/F, Mom of 3 boys :heartbeat :Drink2: :goldribboArmy wife:goldribbo

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                  • #10
                    Re: Advice from friends..

                    I really believe that, in many cases, it's a defense mechanism...specifically projection. I feel like people who lecture me on weight loss and diets (when they themselves aren't happy with their own weights) are simply saying "Well, I won't heed my own advice, but maybe you will. If I give you advice and you succeed, it's aaaalmost as if I succeeded!"

                    Start date: 03/14/09
                    Goal #1 - 260 - Met 04/12/09! Goal #4 - 230 - Met 08/03/09!
                    Goal #2 - 250 - Met 05/22/09! Goal #5 - 220 - Met 01/29/10 FINALLY!
                    Goal #3 - 240 - Met 06/20/09! Goal #6 - 210

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                    • #11
                      Re: Advice from friends..

                      My usual response is:

                      "Are you a doctor? Or a physical trainer? Do you have any studies you can show me to back you up? No? Then piss off"
                      30, Male

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                      • #12
                        Re: Advice from friends..

                        Ah, advise and opinions are the same as ........ everybody has one.
                        sigpic Me, at 195 lb. September 24, 2009. It's 5:30 a.m. and can't wait to hit the coffee.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Advice from friends..

                          "But you're so skinny!" ...I can't wait until I hear that one!
                          Start date: June 26, 2009

                          September Strength Challenge 30/600
                          September Stability Ball Challenge 40/200
                          September Water Challenge (80 oz/day) 9/30

                          August Strength Challenge 600/600 (Just barely...but YAY!)

                          Mini-goals:
                          Size 12...7/10/2009!
                          Size 10...
                          Size 8...


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                          • #14
                            Re: Advice from friends..

                            I'm often told by acquaintances (my friends support me) that Atkins is dangerous. I just smile and say, yes, I know ... but I love living dangerously. Some people I just don't feel I want to educate.

                            When you are alone in your head, you are in a bad neighborhood.
                            Start:494/current:170
                            Began Atkins 1/4/2004

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                            • #15
                              Re: Advice from friends..

                              Here is another one - You know, you will gain it all back very quickly once you quit...

                              Who is quitting. This is for life. When I think about quitting, I read through the rungs again and remember what I will be eating for life. I think I can handle it!!
                              149.8/no weigh/ 119



                              1st goal: 139 (earlier weight)
                              what the rungs mean to me:
                              rung 1 - more veggies
                              rung 2 - dairy (some milk in coffee)
                              rung 3 - seeds, nuts (mostly sprinkled on salads)
                              rung 4 - berries, melon
                              rung 5 - wine -
                              rung 6 - beans, hummus
                              rung 7 - other fruits
                              rung 8 - carrots/ potatoes (nah, prolly not)
                              rung 9 - whole grains (fresh Dutch breads...)
                              Major Goal - 128 lbs/ healthy range
                              (on to pre-maintenance)

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