Im a failure.

[goin2befit]

Re: Im a failure.

i don't look for others to keep me on track, its called support. and im not blaming other people what i messed up. i totally blame myself i never once said i blamed him nor anybody. Thank you. i was just ranting, i didn't know we couldn't do that here? i could careless if anybody responded to my posts, its just for me to rant, and if people want to reply with support and advice, i really do apperciate what i don't apperciate is people saying im blaming someone else for my mistakes,and that im coming here to be "kept" on track. because i don't beleive i ever said that ONCE thanks =]

I'm sorry you felt that way and I can understand how. However, please keep in mind, always in life, we will be given some good advise and some bad advise, and some not needed advise... try to take what was good and positive and just ignore the rest. You are more then welcome to come and vent, rant, and question yourself a thousand times, I know almost everyone else on here has.. .so please do the same. Glad others were able to give you some comfort. Just keep doing it and it will work!!! Believe!

[goin2befit]

Re: Im a failure.

The fact that they bought Wendy's and you chose not to tear the bun from the burger and give the frosty to someone who wanted it.

Good idea for next time you may be in the situation.. kinda makes it not such a bad cheat... I have taken the bread off before.. (A little acquired at first, but no one said anything) as for the chili it only has 14 grams of net carbs (of course there may be some other ingredients not really legal, but not to bad of a thing, most likely. But defiantly run from the small frosty!!! 52 grams of net carbs OMG!!!! Live, Learn, and Keep Moving Forward!

[jimmyolsenblues]

Re: Im a failure.

Many times in my life I felt like a failure.
At the end of a relationship I would say its the worst for me.
Because I am dependent on what other's think about me.
I got the lap band surgury on 3/4/07, and now I have lost 82 pounds.
I believe atkins works because the longer I stay on it the lower my hunger and cravings are.
I have absolutely no self control in my life. ask anyone who has ever seen me drink miller lite. trust me I am not a strong person.
But I believe in the atkins way of life.
I fall off the wagon more times than I would like to admit.
I am not giving up.
I am 40 years old and I am sticking to this way of life ...no matter what.
we are all human. don't beat yourself up.
Walk, drink water, get back on the wagon.
If I can do it...anyone can do it.
Good luck.

[imagood1]

Re: Im a failure.

Here's something I've found in my experiences. A carb up day can make you jump-start weight loss.

I really don't like seeing posts like this -- yes, maybe you can eat what you want for a weekend and loose weight quickly after but it's not a good practice and not recommended by Dr Atkins or most of us here on the board. Many newbies will see something like this and think it's the thing to do when they haven't lose any weight for a day or two.....it's just not a good post - sorry!

[BDawg]

Re: Im a failure.

I really don't like seeing posts like this -- yes, maybe you can eat what you want for a weekend and loose weight quickly after but it's not a good practice and not recommended by Dr Atkins or most of us here on the board. Many newbies will see something like this and think it's the thing to do when they haven't lose any weight for a day or two.....it's just not a good post - sorry!

Each person needs to make his own decisions as to what works for himself. Truth is, with the right amount of exercise, treating yourself every once in a while is not that big of a deal.

Cheating is not optimal, but IMHO, it's not that bad as long as it's planned and has a defined end date.

I can say that it does work though. Have I used it to get myself over a plateau, no. Do I know people who have, yes.

If someone is going to be so impatient the he'll get desperate after a couple of days, so be it.

[Rayley]

Re: Im a failure.

i must say i agree ^^ it may not work for everybody but i do think it actually does work for some people. I didn't lose ANY weight for four weeks and after i cheated i dropped four pounds, i will never know if that was because i cheated or not, but i do beleive it could have been since i do read it works for a lot of people to get over that plauteu. you just have to find out what works for you i guess. It's not like im gonna cheat every weekend nor at all. because im not. just saying.

[Jonniboy]

Re: Im a failure.

Your not a failure because im not a failure
Why?
I cheated twice over the weekend and ive only managed to get back on track.
Thing is, after my first cheat i was still in ketosis so only God knows why I decided to cheat again and knock myself out of ketosis.

Anyway im back on track which is what matters and im succeeding putting off the excess pound

[liv]

Re: Im a failure.

I worry about going off plan as for some their dependency on certain foods may reinsert itself. Atkins calls it a kiss of death. And that is what he means I think. this is why on this board we really encourage people to stick to the plan. It is a sure way to not fall off - just stick to it.

Others may get away with "a cheat" once or twice and then fall into a habit of just one bite does not hurt and then it turns into a slope (Hmmm this one is one of my problems - I sometimes push some lines ahead of me and before I know it I have actually crossed them - yikes!!!)

I also think that sometimes eating more carbs does have good effects. Especially in peolple who have never moved beyond induction. We need nutrtion from very many sources and sometimes getting it helps the weightloss rather than hinder it. This is why we keep telling people that they should move to OWL. Eating more veggies actually help many people lose weight because their bodies are starved from nutrients and is holding on to the fat.

Anyways good discussion. But this is a board where we always want people to stick to the rules in the first 14 days.

[jimmie 48]

Re: Im a failure.

rayley, what i would like to know is from the date you started this thread, have you been able to get back on track and stick with a clean induction? the slippery slope might not be so treacherous for some... obviously, since we are seeing those kinds of posts... but for others, just that one bite can ruin and undo all the hard work. they know it, i know it, you know it, all God's children know it. so, back to the question...
are you back on plan? are you having a clean induction?

[neutronnorman]

Re: Im a failure.

I really don't like seeing posts like this -- yes, maybe you can eat what you want for a weekend and loose weight quickly after but it's not a good practice and not recommended by Dr Atkins or most of us here on the board. Many newbies will see something like this and think it's the thing to do when they haven't lose any weight for a day or two.....it's just not a good post - sorry!

You are right. To do a successful carb-up you really have to know how to measure yourself using fat calipers and be quite proficient with them. You also have to know how to read your body and be quickly aware when the carb-load begins to lay down body fat. For some it could be36-48 hours, for others, one small carb meal. Why play Russian Roulette with your accomplished gains? A carb up day will probably not work well for a dieter unless the person who's dieting is very advanced at weight training and fairly lean, say around 20% body fat for a man. For a newbie or an average dieter, the weight gain experienced with a haphazard carb-load can well be over 11 lb and those pounds will set you back on your weight loss goals for about 8-9 days. Just to enter ketosis might well take up to 4 days after the last carb meal. Also, the dieter who decides to carb-load must well be aware that one of the reasons he / she are following the Atkins or low carb WOE is that they are insulin resistant and suffer from insulin swings and resulting carbohydrate cravings. The average dieter on this forum is over-fat and probably clinically obese, not a body builder or power lifter. The best bet for the average dieter is to slowly introduce carbs by going up the OWL rungs until they reach a carb-set point that allows them to stabilize their weight while enjoying wholesome carbs meals. Guy if you are at 10% bodyfat, girls at 18%, then feel free to enjoy on a weekend Italian or whatever, but very few on this forum are below 20% in males and 25% bodyfat in females.

In other words: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it!"

[mizski]

Re: Im a failure.

A woman on one of my other boards does a carb cycling program designed by her doctor. It is actually quite interesting and it is very precise with weekly cycles of 35/55/75 total carbs. So, the high week (75 total carbs) is then followed by the low 35 week etc.

Her plan does not mean she goes crazy with whatever foods during the higher carb weeks. Much like our OWL, those higher carb weeks and foods are clearly outlined. Her plan is working for her. Note to readers here: this is NOT Atkins.

Periodically upping carbs by having some beers & pizza or a few donuts is IMNSHO, foolish. As I understand it, the low carb WOE is about healing and retraining your body and metabolism. That's achieved by eating the right foods in the right amounts at the right time. NOT by an occasional hunk of garlic bread.

[Rayley]

Re: Im a failure.

like iv said before this "cheat" was not intentional, but my own mistake. i didn't cheat just to see if i could get over that plautau and i didn't cheat, just because i had NO self control at all or anything like that I simply made the choice too and regreted it that night, but in the end the cheat ended up being a good thing for me and got the scale moving again. i wouldn't suggest it to anybody by all means, because everybody is different' but in my case, cheating and feeling really guilty and mad at myself for it, turned into me losing the first 4 pounds iv lost in four weeks. i don't want people coming here and turning my original post into im bragging because i cheated and still lost weight! thats not it at all!
but yes jimmie48 i got back on track immediatly! i really had no trouble at all getting back on the wagon, it was easier than i thought, and i felt great the next morning!!

[liv]

Re: Im a failure.

Glad to hear that things are going so well Rayley. Good work.

[Georgiana]

Re: Im a failure.

You were not stalling, because you posted this on July 23rd:

please tell me if im doing something wrong!?!? because I've only lost 9 pounds in three weeks ( the first time i did this i melted the pounds away) and im even more strict this time around!! i have a feeling maybe why im not losing weight is bc im not exercising?! help!!!!

And this on August 2nd:

i did cheat the first two weeks in but have been strict since then and haven't lost a poud!!! today is exactly one month since I've been on it

And this on August 12th:

so yep i must admit i cheated today. i was doing so good too....i had to have a sleep study done at the hospital last night and all today, i had called prior and asked what they would be serving for breakfast lunch etc...they named off things i could def have so i wasn't worried about it...well turns out...they were wrong!! they didn't have eggs, bacon, cheese like they said, they had cereal muffins, yogurt URG!! i was so mad...and REALLY hungry so i gave in and ate that little blueberry muffin

You also found out on July 25th that your fat intake was too low:

i was just curious about how much fat, protein, carbs in percentages you should be consuming. on fitday it says for me.... Fats: 51 % ( i thought that should be higher) Protein: 41% ( lower?) and carbs: 8% (lower?) it was about the same yesterday also!! if somebody could let me know that would be fancy!

You say now:

in the end the cheat ended up being a good thing for me and got the scale moving again.

How do you know it was the cheat that got the scale moving? You just wrote in your previous post that you it could have been something else. Now you are suddenly sure it was the cheat that made you lose 4 lbs overnight?

If you continue your Atkins journey thinking a cheat is a good thing for you, I'm afraid you're just setting yourself up for failure. Good luck whatever you do.

[Rayley]

Re: Im a failure.

lol this board cracks me up sometimes. AGAIN. i NEVER said it WAS the cheat that made the scale move, i don't know what it was okay? i said it COULD have been. considering the fact, that SOME people DO lose weight after cheating and considering that happened to me right after i cheated im assuming. and in this case thats all you can do, because you'll never know. thanks! again not trying to be rude, but very opionated and hate when people "put words in my mouth" so to speak.