All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

[pagliaccia]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

Most questions don't bother me. The one that really bothered me was asked by an aquaintace of mine when I lost 65 pounds back in 2005.

You're husband must be thrilled with the weight loss. Is you sex life incredible now?

First of all my husband was still overweight (so his being heavy must not be an issue, but mine was), secondly it is none of her business, and lastly, fat people can have incredible sex lives. Uggghh

Many people are convinced you won't be offended if it is insulting to your past self. Ugh.

[msanjelpie]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

After having gotten the cold shoulder from society for so many years, it can be refreshing to be treated like a human being once you are skinny. You realize that all these people treat each other this way ALL the time and they take it for granted. They have NO idea what it's like to be treated like a pariah just because you wear your self esteem on the outside instead of hiding it on the inside...

But I can see everyone as totally fake, or I can just accept that people now see me as 'normal' and thus worthy of their time and attention and get on with my life... Afterall that's one of the reasons for losing weight, is to be treated 'normal' as shallow as that may be.

[neutronnorman]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

Cheez...I'm bold but I would never, ever tell a woman I'm not acquainted with she has a nice pair of legs or whatever. Don't get me wrong, if I notice one of my friends that happen to be female or even a guy, and they are working on themselves to achieve either a physique transformation, spiritual goal, academic achievement or what have not, I'll be the first one to congatulate them for a job well done.

I prefer being discrete. Do not get me wrong, if I see an attractive woman I do take notice! And I've seen very, very attractive woman at all different weights and ages.

My definition of attractiveness is holistic. As a man it's the way a woman carries herself. It's not a particular style but the way she carries her uniqueness. It is very multifaceted. So before I keep going on and wedging my sneaker clad foot firmly in my mouth, I'll stop writing.

[Momtofour]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

Cheez...I'm bold but I would never, ever tell a woman I'm not acquainted with she has a nice pair of legs or whatever. Don't get me wrong, if I notice one of my friends that happen to be female or even a guy, and they are working on themselves to achieve either a physique transformation, spiritual goal, academic achievement or what have not, I'll be the first one to congatulate them for a job well done.

I prefer being discrete. Do not get me wrong, if I see an attractive woman I do take notice! And I've seen very, very attractive woman at all different weights and ages.

My definition of attractiveness is holistic. As a man it's the way a woman carries herself. It's not a particular style but the way she carries her uniqueness. It is very multifaceted. So before I keep going on and wedging my sneaker clad foot firmly in my mouth, I'll stop writing.

You have nothing to put your sneaker in your mouth about. Of course you notice a beautiful woman, but I'm sure every one of us love the fact that you have seen beautiful women in all sizes.

[Momtofour]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

After having gotten the cold shoulder from society for so many years, it can be refreshing to be treated like a human being once you are skinny. You realize that all these people treat each other this way ALL the time and they take it for granted. They have NO idea what it's like to be treated like a pariah just because you wear your self esteem on the outside instead of hiding it on the inside...

But I can see everyone as totally fake, or I can just accept that people now see me as 'normal' and thus worthy of their time and attention and get on with my life... Afterall that's one of the reasons for losing weight, is to be treated 'normal' as shallow as that may be.

I agree. It is different when your thin. It shouldn't be, but it is. There is a woman who befriended me when I lost weight but once I gained some back she quit talking to me. Whatever. I can't understand that behavior at all. I guess I'm not as cool to be around when I am on the heavy side.

[neutronnorman]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

... one of us love the fact that you have seen beautiful women in all sizes.

[neutronnorman]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

Most questions don't bother me. The one that really bothered me was asked by an aquaintace of mine when I lost 65 pounds back in 2005.

You're husband must be thrilled with the weight loss. Is you sex life incredible now?

First of all my husband was still overweight (so his being heavy must not be an issue, but mine was), secondly it is none of her business, and lastly, fat people can have incredible sex lives. Uggghh

That one takes the cake. Cheez...

[lisa1]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

over the years i have noticed that when out for a meal with friends i get a million questions....its so annoying it feels like your the odd one out and i dont want to go out and talk about my eating plan.so many times i have cancelled a meal because i just cant stand the attention.

[chadcs]

Re: All the questions make me uncomfortable!!

Why is everyone upset about questions? If it comes from people who are generally interested in your life transformation, that is a good thing. You are not the same person you were before. They are probably noticing all the ways you are changing and want to know more.