Carbed for a meal, now what?

[Georgiana]

Re: Carbed for a meal, now what?

You won't gain real weight from one meal but you will gain water weight that can hang around for the better part of a week sometimes.

You are likely to gain water weight if you eat a bunch of carbs, that's true. But there is no way to say whether you gain any fat or only water, or how many of the extra pounds are due to the cheat meal you had and how many to the calories you ate that day.

But my grandma is old, and a pretty good cook. If a say no and she dies, I am gonna have regrets.

You'd have more regrets for refusing a meal than for not spending more time with her?

[RitaCeleste]

Re: Carbed for a meal, now what?

I go over and spend time with her. Its big family dinners I avoid. Two years ago, every single time I saw anybody, a meal was involved. Its not like that now. I just drop by to see grandma from 2:00pm to say 4:30pm. She doesn't have to cook for me and the kids. We just sit and talk and she gets to see her great-grandkids. My mother-in-law and I visit between meals, she goes to the amusement park with me and the ex and the kids. We all go shopping out of town and things. I am getting really good at finding things to do with people that do not involve food. I visit my mom who's outside working on the property. My dad comes over here to watch my cable. I still see everybody and we still talk. In fact, I see people and talk to them more with food out of the picture. It just seemed like before people were trying to feed us wherever we went. Now they don't bother or feel bad we've already had something. Chewing isn't all that important socially. Really, I swear, it does not have to be about food. Its okay to be at home at meal times and out with people at other times. Over time your lifestyle can change and the people in your life will totally survive and visits can be more relaxed without them feeling like they have to serve you food.

[Elizellen]

Re: Carbed for a meal, now what?

Great post, Rita

[Georgiana]

Re: Carbed for a meal, now what?

I go over and spend time with her. Its big family dinners I avoid. Two years ago, every single time I saw anybody, a meal was involved. Its not like that now. I just drop by to see grandma from 2:00pm to say 4:30pm. She doesn't have to cook for me and the kids. We just sit and talk and she gets to see her great-grandkids. My mother-in-law and I visit between meals, she goes to the amusement park with me and the ex and the kids. We all go shopping out of town and things. I am getting really good at finding things to do with people that do not involve food. I visit my mom who's outside working on the property. My dad comes over here to watch my cable. I still see everybody and we still talk. In fact, I see people and talk to them more with food out of the picture. It just seemed like before people were trying to feed us wherever we went. Now they don't bother or feel bad we've already had something. Chewing isn't all that important socially. Really, I swear, it does not have to be about food. Its okay to be at home at meal times and out with people at other times. Over time your lifestyle can change and the people in your life will totally survive and visits can be more relaxed without them feeling like they have to serve you food.

You're right that spending time with people doesn't need to involve eating. I misread your post and understood that you don't go by your grandma's place to avoid having to refuse a meal. My bad!

[RitaCeleste]

Re: Carbed for a meal, now what?

Its okay, I was grateful for the chance to say that! Real friends and family do adapt to our lifestyle over time. I have lost one friend. She and her husband are diabetic and not eating right. I didn't nag or anything. But I think it bothered her when I stopped hitting the buffet with her and was sticking to my diet. I tried to see her and do other things with her, but she wasn't interested. She owed me money too. So maybe that was it. But everyone else is still in my life and they understand now. You can still be social and do things with people. But at first it does seem like all anybody does is EAT!

[atkinsgal08]

Re: Carbed for a meal, now what?

I also think we teach others how to treat us ... if we're respectful of our own needs, then other's should respect our needs.

I don't make a "fuss" over what I choose to eat or don't eat ... I simply make my choices ... and expect other people to make their choices.

It's not really "on the table" for discussion!