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    Good Morning, Gang. I'm just writing a quick thread while at work....

    Long story short, I fell off. I haven't updated my stats in awhile....I rarely post, but I read the forums every day. I had a clean induction and stayed on extended induction for three weeks after that. So, I totaled five weeks of slammin results. I am down 19 pounds....!

    However, for the last three days I haven't been able to stay on plan. I'm dealing with some grief issues. My cousin who I was very close to got killed in a drunk driving accident. He was an active Marine, so it was a very public and drawn out event. I had to make a lot of the decisions about his funeral arrangements because my aunt was too distraught. I've had a tough time dealing with his death lately....it's been almost 3 months. The strict Induction gave me something to throw myself into (I have been on Atkins a few times in my life). I felt so much better when I eat on plan. I have more energy, etc. But with my cousin's passing I've had a hard time sleeping, etc. I know it sounds like an excuse (because it is). But for the last three days I've eaten whatever I wanted (Pumpkin muffins from Dunkin Donuts, pizza, etc). I don't want to regain the weight I've lost. Right now, I'm at 239. I think the weather is also making it hard for me to want to exercise. It's getting cold here in NH, and the last thing I want to do in the AM in the dark is drive myself to the gym. And when I get out of work all I can think about it going home and sleeping. I feel like I'm in a rut.

    I'm trying to get my reasons in order to lose weight. I want to be healthier. And I have proof that this woe works. And I have proof that I feel better physically and mentally when I follow this woe. But for some reason I can't snap out of the carbs. I've gotta snap out of this rut, guys! I guess I'm posting because I want to feel accountable to someone. I made an appt with a counselor to talk things through about my cousin's death. What I feel weird about is that I acutally went to college for grief counseling, end-of-life care issues,etc, but I feel like I need antoher indiviudal to talk things through with. I'm hoping that by talking I won't be eating my feelings.

    Does anyone have any advice for dealing with "the hard stuff" and staying on plan? I'm pretty good about letting the little things slide (I really feel like this woe is easy to stick to). But the big things are tougher.

    Help! I need motivation to get back on the horse.

    Rita





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    Re: Need Motivation to get back on the horse

    Rita,

    I'm so sorry about your cousin. I know that grief stinks ... and I also know that it's possible to stay "on plan" and grieve. Grieving doesn't end at a specific time either.

    As to how to get through "the hard stuff" and stay on plan ... it's really no different than getting through the "easy" stuff and being on plan. You need to put your way of eating first ... in other words, plan what you're going to eat ... and execute the plan.

    "Leading with the diet" doesn't change any of the other areas of your life, but it does keep you "on track" with your eating.

    Eating what you've been eating recently hasn't made anything in your life better, right?

    The first person you need to be accountable to is YOU. If being accountable to people here works for you, then start being accountable right now. Make your next bite Atkins ... and repeat as necessary.

    And then when some time has passed, take a good hard look at what eating off plan has really done for you.

    And ... you're the only one that can motivate yourself!

    The horse is right in front of you ... it's up to you to jump on.
    J.

    "Your life will never change until you change your choices."

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      It's a tough fight - every day - but it will get easier over time. I am so sorry for your loss, and it's good that you are seeking help from a professional, hopefully you will be able to work thru the grief.

      In the meantime, just try to focus on healthy eating. You already know that you feel better when eating on plan, so keep that in mind. Put reminders around the house, plan your day, get in some movement around the house or while working. Get your mind back to Atkins - re-read the book, join some challenges, make a plan!

      Tame the horse! ...think of yourself as a horse whisperer once you calm her down, you can get back on and lead her down the right path.

      Have faith in yourself.
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        Thank you so much, Atkinsgal and Barnone. I'm really glad that you took the time to post a response to me in this crappy time. It's been a really tough road and I feel better that I put myself out there. What i find a little crappy is that, there were over 80 views of this post, and only two of you took the time to respond to me and make me feel better. Maybe if I had posted a question about half and half or the carbs in eggplant more people would have taken the time to write some thoughts.

        I really appreciate that you guys wrote to me, and your thoughts helped a lot.

        Thanks again,
        Rita





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        • #5
          Re: Need Motivation to get back on the horse

          Just get up and try every day. Right now you may not have the mental energy to complete a clean day, but keep trying. It will eventually happen and then it will be easier because you will want to build on that first clean day. It may be 2 steps forward, 1 step back for awhile. (hug)
          JILL

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          • #6
            Re: Need Motivation to get back on the horse

            Rita, I'm on the tail end of what you are going through now so I don't have much advice to share. I ate my way through my grief and regained 60#s. NOT good. Now that the fog is clearing in my brain, I find that I tend to get obsessively into "projects." Like you, when I started Atkins there was lots to keep me busy trying to figure out things. Now, not so much. I tend to read the posts a lot and reply. And I'm doing other household stuff and yardwork to keep busy.

            Losing a loved one is tough. It hurts like ****. Don't know if you can really find that peppy motivation that you had a while ago but maybe just doing things on your WOE and keeping busy will make the days pass. Sorry I couldn't be much help. Take care and I'll look for more posts from you.
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            • #7
              Re: Need Motivation to get back on the horse

              remember death is just the beginning

              and if i ever got depressed i would just stick to the diet sure i would be to lazy to eat at times and not exercise much and just lay around all day but you know what you cant gain fat on this diet so if you cant gain fat then you will lose fat so even if your to depressed to do exercise and things still just stick to the life long diet it will help

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              • #8
                Re: Need Motivation to get back on the horse

                I really appreciate all of your reponses. I think Ziggy is right----if I just stick to the diet (and let myself have some time off from rigorous excercize, etc) I'll continue to lose slower. Plus without counting calories, that helps. To be able to stay low carb is so important to me. I've had a session with a counselor today, and I'm hoping counsleing gets my mind back on the right track after some visits. I miss the motivation and happiness, but I'm just not feeling it.

                I'm going to allow myself to have a lazy night, where I go home and watch TV and have the boyfriend cook me something on plan.

                Thanks again, I appreciate it....
                R





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