I am a complete failure =(

[KBP48183]

After two weeks of induction, I cheated. My brother tried to commit suicide and is in the hospital right now so I turned to food for comfort. I don't know where to go from here...

[atkinsgal08]

Re: I am a complete failure =(

Pray for your brother. Be with your family.

Make the next bite you eat Atkins.

And realize that you're not a "complete failure" ... unless you give up completely.

[KBP48183]

Re: I am a complete failure =(

Thankyou so much, I really needed that right now. I'm so sad and really don't know what to do with myself, my feelings are all over the place =( I was even thinking about having a late night workout to get my mind off of things at least for an hour or two.

[atkinsgal08]

Re: I am a complete failure =(

>>I was even thinking about having a late night workout to get my mind off of things at least for an hour or two.>>

That would be better than some other choices. <smile>

And ... {{{{Hugs}}}}

[Shrew2u]

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I'm so sorry to hear about your brother; I know you must be a mess right now. But you know what, you can't let the things you can't control affect the things you *can* control. And you absolutely can and should control how well you treat yourself - which means doing the things that will give you the energy you need to get through this very trying time.

And don't let this little episode of getting off-track completely derail you. There is a Japanese proverb that is very simple but very powerful formula for ultimate success: If you fall down seven times, stand up eight.

[warmsummerfall]

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I am so sorry.... I will say a prayer for him....and you. Try to keep strong and like atkinsgal said your not a failure unless you give up.

[Whatsername]

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So sorry...I am thinking of you and your family and sending prayers and hugs.

Just do your best, try to stop and think about what you are eating. But most of all, take care of YOU. You will feel better not cheating but I also think you should be gentle with yourself.

Hugs, J

[Desertthorn]

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Stay strong. The diet will wait and we will be here when you need us.

[EverLosing]

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You've already been given excellent advice, my lady! So, I will address the title of your post with the first thing that came into my mind when I only read the title and hadn't even read the post yet.

"A complete failure?! Oh, you're sooooo NOT a FAILURE. The fact is, failures DON'T log in around here!"

They disappear. You stumbled and you came right back here needing our support. Well, as you've already seen, you've got it. Now, do what Shrew said and be good to you. Take the lesson and move on. You are deserving and worth every effort. Now, c'mon, take our hands and climb back on board... Praying for you and your family.

[Elizellen]

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I agree with shrew There are times in our lives when the only thing we can have any control of is what we choose to eat. So concentrate on choosing induction-friendly foods and you will be on the way to not becoming a failure.

I am so sorry your family is having to go through this, but you cannot let it stop you in your tracks.

[ShannonK]

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Not sure what to say, but my heart goes out to you. My daughter, while not having gone to such an extreme, causes me great heart ache. I am just thinking of you.

[dmat28]

Re: I am a complete failure =(

Prayers to you and your family to stay strong and to be there and to support and help your brother. You are not a failure! You recognized your stumble and came here for help and support. Get right back on plan. I find that when my blood sugar is stable, as it pretty much always is on this WOE, I am more emotionally stable and able to handle conflicts and stress. We don't realize it when we eat sugar all of the time, but sugar gives you mood swings and irrational thoughts (at least for me and many others here).
Hang in there!

[barrnone]

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we are all given some hard challenges along the way - go be with your brother and take care of yourself. Time will heal.

With Atkins, it's how you deal with these challenges that will show you your results.

Take care.

[Suzanne_H]

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You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. My family and I have also known the loss of a loved one to suicide. We survivors can survive and move forward through all the pain and loss and unanswerable questions.

I find that grief comes in waves. I would highly recommend a little book called "How to Survive the Loss of a Love". It has helped me tremendously over the years as losses happen in my life, especially to get in touch with that pain, feel it, let it go, move on. It's a process. Reading books like this, keeping a journal, reaching out to friends, meditation and prayer are the only way I know to keep from letting the waves of grief suck me under and into destructive behavior.

The only thing we do by layering food or whatever we throw on top of grief is bury it only to resurface later with a vengeance. I encourage you to spend this time being gentle with yourself with the understanding that cheats will only make things worse in the end. If you can stay the course on food and other ways of improving your health and well-being, it will all work for good. Know that you are loved and that we are praying for you.