What's Wrong With Me!!!

[sachet]

I have been restarting this diet over over again for the millionth time. I dont know why i cant stay on track. everytime i have to restart i feel like a failure. I want to have the strength and will power to just stay on track but i dont know how.

any advice will be greatly appreciated.

[liv]

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Well you are in good company here. I can tell you that
I think the best thing is to try to figure out why you do not stay. What is it that make you go off course
*Is it the food?
*The situation?
*Have you not been strict engough and kept eating things that will drag you down
*Have you been too strickt and reduced nutrients to an unsustainable level
*What is your motivation to lose - make sure you force yourself to face your motivation every day (a note to yourself or a picture - a piece of clothing you no longer fit - hang it up there)
*Find friend and buddies that are doing the same thing and chat with them. This is very helpful

[Shrew2u]

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One thing I would do is take a look back at the advice you have received in prior threads on this topic - print up each thread and read through them again. Did you incorporate any of the previous suggestions? Example: Have you developed a coping mechanism other than eating in reaction to stress? Also think about what lead you astray this most recent time and every other time. Are there any commonalities that would show a major issue to be addressed?

The other thing I would do is stop investing so much emotion in the process. I know, that's far, far easier said than done. Nonetheless, you need to work on eliminating whatever it is that drives you to punish and denigrate yourself for something that's actually a small oopsie in the grand scheme of things, because that behavior quickly snowballs into a cycle of self-punishment and binging.

A single snack-sized candy bar (or even a whole cheat meal, or a day) is inconsequential when viewed from the perspective of a month's food intake. You might retain a couple of pounds of water to process the carbs, you might gain back a few ounces from the carbs that were converted to fat, but a few days back on plan will take care of that. A bite, a meal, a day - by themselves, they mean nothing. It's our emotional reaction to that bite/meal/day that will determine the overall trajectory of our journey.

[Suzanne_H]

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Know that you are not alone. We've all been there, or I think most of us have been.

Journals... I kept a journal especially when I cheat. I write about the cheat, my feelings before and after. I keep my journal in a safe place and refer to it when I felt like cheating. I have identified several foods that are just absolutely forbidden from my mouth now because I know I can't eat just one bite no matter what. There are also certain foods that I may enjoy one serving, but I know I'll suffer from cravings afterward. Getting to know myself has been perhaps the most valuable tool for staying on track. Also posting to the forum helps reaffirm my resolve, so kudos to you for starting this thread!

Planning... Behind my desk hidden on a little shelf I keep a few nonperishable food items just in case I forget my lunch, or whatever cause for a need to eat something. Sometimes I just get hungry. It's good to have something good to grab on the go rather than reach for something not-so-good or flat out bad for me. Also careful meal planning and shopping accordingly helps keep my refrigerator and cabinets stocked with good choices.

Accountability... having a few like-minded friends close by who are on the same WOE helps tremendously. Our school librarian has lost a lot of weight, not on Atkins but still. It was cool to know she was there when the teachers had a luncheon in the library. I stuck pretty close to her that day. LOL

Exercise and water... I only recently started exercising, but it's really helped. Water fills me up when my body confuses "I'm thirsty" and calls it "I'm hungry!" Also the water cleans my body and contributes to overall good health. Vitamins also help keep me going.

Keep us posted on your progress.

[sachet]

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thanks for the relpies. i think i really, really, really, need better stress management skills...everyone tells me that. thats my main issue i see. i tend to make a small thing like having a lot of homework into an all out end of my life moment and ill end up eating some cheesecake, chips and taking a nap lol. i do realize one thing that does reduce my stress is exercising but i have to stop being lazy and actually get up and do it because i do feel alot better afterwards.

Shrew2u: thanks for that tid bit about mistakes. when i do make a mistake, like eating one small thing off plan i end up feeling bad and just going off plan completely. i do need to learn that a mistake is just a mistake and to keep on going.

it def would be a lot easier for me to have someone my age to talk to who is on this diet...ill start the search lol

[Summerdressgirl]

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I have been restarting this diet over over again for the millionth time. I dont know why i cant stay on track. everytime i have to restart i feel like a failure. I want to have the strength and will power to just stay on track but i dont know how.

any advice will be greatly appreciated.

Like people said here before we have all fallen off the wagon once or twice, but if you keep falling off you may want to think about if losing weight is really what you want, We all have horrible stress, school, spouses, loss of income, sick child etc etc the good thing with this new way of eating is that instead of eating junk when stressed we can be upset and just drink water or go for a walk or exercise until it is out of us, but the decision is all yours. Do you want the weight off? if the answer is yes! then clean out your home from the junk and stay close to here and we can support you along the way. Hang in there and be strong

[sachet]

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Do you want the weight off? if the answer is yes! then clean out your home from the junk and stay close to here and we can support you along the way. Hang in there and be strong

I just cleaned out my kitchen of non legal foods. Man, I had a whole garbage bag full of stuff!!! sugar free iced teas, diet pops, cookies, sugar free ice cream, juices, candy, those dangerous atkins shakes and bars, frozen dinners, etc... now im off to the grocery store for the good stuff!

[Summerdressgirl]

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I just cleaned out my kitchen of non legal foods. Man, I had a whole garbage bag full of stuff!!! sugar free iced teas, diet pops, cookies, sugar free ice cream, juices, candy, those dangerous atkins shakes and bars, frozen dinners, etc... now im off to the grocery store for the good stuff!

Good for you! with all that good stuff anybody would have cheated! lol it is temption calling on us! My weakness is the Yahoo drinks..nice COLD can of Yahoo! Everytime I was under stress I knew the yahoo would make me feel better ( I thought) but if I drank it I would feel worst later because I know I would be gaining weight so I stop buying them, told the soon to be ex to stop at a gas station and get one to drink it on his way home but not to bring it here at least until my cravings wear off. Now I have them here for the family, I still want one but I now I have the sugar tooth under control lol.

[IrishIrish]

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Sachet ... Congratulations on asking the question and taking some actiion by cleaning out the foods that can contribute to off plan eating!

I wish I could tell you what the magic formula is. For me, it was about being sick and tired of being sick and tired. But for me, it didn't happen at your age ... for me, it finally happened many years later. So, I had to deal with a lifetime of bad eating, poor habits, medical problems and a little voice in my head that kept telling me that food will soothe my feelings.

Be aware of why you eat. Be aware of what your triggers are that put you in a place where you don't have control over how you eat or what you eat. For me, I examined all the people, places and things in my life. I didn't do it all at once, but little by little I gained control of how I handled problems, stress, disappointment, sadness, happiness ... you name it.

I carried a copy of the Acceptable Food List for Induction in my purse, posted a copy on the refrigerator and on the pantry. I kept a copy in my office. I needed to have reminders that were tangible and this worked for me.

Best wishes to you. You are taking the right steps. And you have support here.

[ziggy]

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when ever i think about trying to eat less food i end up eating way more food

but when ever i just think about eating less carbohydrates while being able to eat as much as i want of other things then it becomes easy and with out knowing i eat less too

so in short only eat foods that you can eat as much as you want of that way you won't stress

and later on after induction and extended induction when you have much more control over things you can try testing the rungs

[2big4mysize]

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practice carb harm intervention any time you eat off plan. As soon as you realize you are off plan make the very next bite right back on your plan right where you were. DOn't say I blew it I will restart tomorrow or after I finish off this cake pie whatever. Stop and get right back on plan.

Soon you will notice you have more and more good days strung together and you are working your Atkins and shedding your body fat.

what are you planning as that mandatory exercise part of your atkins?

[sachet]

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Thanks soooo much for the advice and tips. I actually started back on track today and i feel pretty good. Im sitting here now planning out my meals so i wont have an excuse about not having anything to eat so i cant cheat.

Sachet ... Congratulations on asking the question and taking some actiion by cleaning out the foods that can contribute to off plan eating!

I wish I could tell you what the magic formula is. For me, it was about being sick and tired of being sick and tired. But for me, it didn't happen at your age ... for me, it finally happened many years later. So, I had to deal with a lifetime of bad eating, poor habits, medical problems and a little voice in my head that kept telling me that food will soothe my feelings.

Be aware of why you eat. Be aware of what your triggers are that put you in a place where you don't have control over how you eat or what you eat. For me, I examined all the people, places and things in my life. I didn't do it all at once, but little by little I gained control of how I handled problems, stress, disappointment, sadness, happiness ... you name it.

I carried a copy of the Acceptable Food List for Induction in my purse, posted a copy on the refrigerator and on the pantry. I kept a copy in my office. I needed to have reminders that were tangible and this worked for me.

Best wishes to you. You are taking the right steps. And you have support here.

what you did about gaining control is what i really need to do. Im young and i think everything that happens is the end of the world for me. im slowly but surely trying to get a grip on these emotions of mine. I actually started today. Im so used to being complimented and never return the favor. i actually complimented a girl in one of my classes and her smile actually made me happy.

To keep me on track, i printed out a horrible pic of me looking super round on facebook and printed it out to give me more reasons to stay on track...cuz i HATE that pic!

[2big4mysize]

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To keep me on track, i printed out a horrible pic of me looking super round on facebook and printed it out to give me more reasons to stay on track...cuz i HATE that pic!

Good for you. now run way from her all the way to goal! if you feel like jumping off plan again ask yourself who you want in charge of your eating her or the healtheir smaller you that you are working so hard to become?

[clairebelle]

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I'm your age sachet, would love to chat with you about how we're both going

[sachet]

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I'm your age sachet, would love to chat with you about how we're both going

Hey sounds good to me