Dealing with loss/bad day.

[computerblonde]

I'm having a horrible day.

A child fell in our stay at home moms group and I had to help stabilize him until the ambulance came. Thankfully he's doing Ok at the moment.

I returned to find out my great great aunt who was more like my grandmother (mine passed away when I was 2) died today.

I really really really really really really really want to go and throw myself into a whole bucket of carb type food to soothe away the hurt. I'm resisting, but it is very very hard.

I need to let this out and also see how others find ways to cope.. I'm really not doing the coping part well.

[Elizellen]

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Sending you some cyberhugs

I am so sorry to hear about your sad loss, which must have been terrible coming after the relief you must have been feeling following the incident at work where you helped save the little one's life

[forbey]

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Sorry for your loss.

From what I read, you wanted to fall off the wagon, but didn't. That is the hardest part. (I probably would have fallen.)

I think the best choice would be to discover a new "comfort" food. Keep hard boiled eggs on hand and make a dozen deviled eggs. Oinl out on a bag of pork rinds and salsa. The food isn't as important as if it works for you.

On a side note, falling off the wagon, ISN'T the end of the world, or the end of "Atkins as you know it". The nicest part about falling off the wagon, is knowing you can get right back on it.

forbey

[JaxMama]

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I am very sorry you had a death in your family and a child got hurt.

You resisted this long so far. What happened today is not going to be reversed by eating carbs. In the end those carbs are going to make yourself feel worse about yourself on top of the emotions you are having from a death in the family.

You have come a long way looking at your stats. This is a test and you can get through it.

Yes, take one second at a time to get through it. I don't know what else you can do to stay away from your kitchen. But do it, you can.

[barrnone]

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Eating healthy will help you get thru all of this...you don't need the guilt of 'going off plan' to add to your sorrow. I know it's tough, but believe in yourself.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

[hippychikforever]

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My deepest sympathies go out to you. If you are looking for an anti-eating stress reliever, go for a walk. it will help to clear your head, if only briefly. If that doesn't help, get out some paper & a pen & begin writing. Everything & anything. Just let the pen fly and vent all your sorrow. Don't worry about staying in between the lines. Draw big sad faces. No one will see this except you. When you are all done, burn the paper to symbolize the clensing of all those horrible feelings. I wrote a letter to my grandmother the night she died and i ended up reading it at her funeral. It helped me say goodbye and reminded me of so many wonderful memories I have that can never be taken away. I know it can't "fix" anything but it may help you to avoid what will surely turn into a binge nightmare if you let it. Peace be with you.

[atkinsgal08]

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May her memory be for blessing.

Eating off plan won't change anything that has happened ... nor will it really be a "comfort" to you. It would, in all likelihood, make you feel even worse.

[Dryunderwater]

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God Bless you and your family during this tumultuous time. My heart goes out to you and my prayers go up for you.

[thin4summer]

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So sorry for you :-( what a horrible time...........I understand why you would just want to eat whatever you want......I really do.You take this as the only thing that could make you feel o.k..........something you can do to make you feel a little bit better and tomorrow and next week and next month you have stayed strong against the odds to feel and be who you want to be ....you can do this xx

[2big4mysize]

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Sorry for your loss. emotional eating is programmed in each of us from childhood as folk used foods to quiet us and distract us when we were hurt and crying. You can alter the nerve patterns your "Dr Brain" is using to prescribe something to make you feel better by using something other then food as your "drug" of choice.

A brisk walk or some vigorous exercise should help alter the stress and emotional chemicals flooding your body as a result of the injury and her death and release some feel good brain chemicals but it will not stop the greiving process that you must go through.

Instead of eating call somebody who knew her and reminesse about joyful times you shared with her and laugh as you cry. If you don't have a mutual friend availible call a close friend and tell them you need to talk cause she just died and then teach her all about the goodness of your greatgreat aunt and the memories you have of her.

if you haven't got a family historian you might want to get together in person or on the phone with your family and make an oral history of her as part of your grieivng process.

and if you need to pour out your heart about her and nobody is around to talk to come tell us all about what a wonderful lady she was and special memories you have of your times with her to help you get through this.

[JaxMama]

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I should have said this to you earlier but I was thinking about you.

I have found with this WOL I have control over myself, even if I go off plan for a meal. Right now you have control over nothing bad that has happened. What you can control is how you cope with your extremely bad day and upcoming weeks dealing with your loss. Part of that coping is keeping yourself in control and that starts with what you eat.

If I sound harsh, I am not trying to be. I officially fell off the wagon after a bad incident with my daughter at her daycare and found months of excuses afterward.

But with all sincerity, my heart goes out to you and your family. You can get through this!!!!

[yellowzinnias]

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I'm so sorry!!

Just remember, indulging might make you feel better for a few moments, but then you will feel guilty. And you don't need that guilty feeling on top of all of the hurt and stress right now.

[2big4mysize]

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how you doing today? did you survive the night without a high carb binge?

[computerblonde]

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Thank you all so much.

Putting it out here, really helped me work through it. Me saying I wanted to eat it and understand why I did... and people getting that really helped.

I am so proud of myself since so far I have kept everything at bay. Even the Easter candy and glass of wine that were really calling my name.

I'm doing OK.. just one day at a time. The funeral will not be until Sat so this will all be stressfull. Getting with family who all don't understand this low carb stuff will also be a challange. I've taught my children to eat veggies, but I'm going to be getting with others that dont. So my thought of food and theirs are gonna clash. But, I will get through.

thank you all again, it means so much

Crys

[JaxMama]

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I am so glad to hear you were able to get through your emotions without the food.

If people ask why you are not eating, reply, "I am eating just not unhealthy carbs." Your friends and family may not even notice as they are going through their emotions too. We all build up a situation in our head and by the time we get to the real life situation, it's never as bad as we thought.

You'll get through this and you have done GREAT so far.

Keep up the good work, you can get through this and you will be grateful you didn't revert to carbs.