Emotional Rollercoaster...A Wreck...

[sbain23]

I need some serious support. So, here's the deal. I can't help but think...oh my goodness, who cares if I lose a few pounds when I'm 306lbs and have over half my body weight to lose.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I feel good about my decision to begin Atkins a week ago, but at the same time, my mind gets to going and I start to feel a bit depressed about the long road ahead. I know the pounds didn't pile on overnight, so that's not the issue. It's simply the fact that I know what a daunting, disciplined task lies ahead of me.

[liv]

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Look at this post

http://www.atkinsdietbulletinboard.com/forums/before-after-pics/70090-before-during-400-lbs-247-lbs-not-done-yet-16.html#post1098186

[poobears1972]

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I couldn't do long term goals either, it was too depressing. Instead I used mini goals. They can be 5lb or 10lb goals something that won't take a huge amount of time to hit and will keep the motivation going. Once you slip below a mini goal you don't want to go off plan and go back up above it so you stay good. Next thing you know you are nearing your next mini goal and you dont' want to go off plan and make it longer to hit so again you stay good. Anyway it's worked for me. Might work for you too.

[Summerdressgirl]

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I need some serious support. So, here's the deal. I can't help but think...oh my goodness, who cares if I lose a few pounds when I'm 306lbs and have over half my body weight to lose.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I feel good about my decision to begin Atkins a week ago, but at the same time, my mind gets to going and I start to feel a bit depressed about the long road ahead. I know the pounds didn't pile on overnight, so that's not the issue. It's simply the fact that I know what a daunting, disciplined task lies ahead of me.

Sbain, Who cares? Well you care and We care that's who!

You know the reason why I started this diet? because my husband told me one day I was at 230 lbs at that time,

"you know why I don't love you..because look at you, who would love you? you would not love you"

Needless to say, I ran here..I am sure you can find my introduction with all my details in there, that was almost 4 months ago or so, my divorce is almost finalized and I am 50 lbs lighter and working strong..I knew losing 115 lbs was a huge undertaking..I mean I had to lose an entire person but I had to love me, because nobody would until I love me. I came to this board and I received a lot of support, may disagree with one or two but I know they will support me and I will support them just like we would you. Take it one day at a time, it took us a long time to forget about us and now we have to learn to love us again. Just hang in there, We will make it together

[atkinsgal08]

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>>It's simply the fact that I know what a daunting, disciplined task lies ahead of me.>>

You've described what it is for any amount of weight anyone has to lose.

It's a day by day journey ...

[Reta]

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I could not due long term goals either it is day by day. And sometimes meal by meal. And after this weekend I could see how I could return to bad habits again. This week I was given the task to make about 8 different pies. And that was hard not tasting everything. Be forgiving of yourself if you slip off and just get back on the wagon. It has taken me over 18 months to lose only 50 pounds but I am determine to lose and get down to my goal weight . I feel so much better on this way of life. My sugar count is normal and I love the food we are allowed to have on this diet. When everyone was having pie, I was having cheese cake or I was having whipping cream and strawberries Yum. You will do fine.

[ShannonM]

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You need to plan out your (non-food) rewards!

Think of all the cool things you want to do for yourself or give yourself as you hit certain milestones. I agree with the advice about keeping them spaced fairly close together. Maybe as you lose more weight and your motivation increases, you can space them out a bit farther so they can be nicer rewards. As you get smaller and in better shape, you can set physical goals like being able to run a mile without stopping or being able to lift a certain amount of weight - things like that are their own reward. There's so much you can do as you start getting healthy.

Best of luck to you!

[Jules1980]

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Atkinsgal is right. Its a day by day journey...
You've decided to do Atkins which is GREAT!
Soon you will start to feel better and more alive. The pounds and inches will decrease and soon you will be on your way to a new you
Don't beat yourself up over your past, look into the future and set some mini goals...you will start to chipper up sooner than you think!!!
Good luck and stay positive!!!

Jules

[Carne!]

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Look at this post

http://www.atkinsdietbulletinboard.c...ml#post1098186

That is such an inspiration!!! So amazing. Good for her. Is she still around?

So there you go, OP. Look at what you can also achieve. And anyway, what's the other option? You're never going to be as young as you are today. Make the most of it.

[JulieB]

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I avoided losing the weight for 20 years because it was going to be such a long journey...now I wonder why I didn't do it then! I also needed to lose 1/2 my body weight, but I used mini-goals, as the others have mentioned - also know that goal is great (I'm sure, I'm not there yet) but progress is great too! I can barely believe all of the things that I can do that I could not do a year ago...I started to notice differences within weeks of starting. I also feel better and look better - yes, even 40-50 pounds from goal, I look WAY better. Once you get going & seeing progress, you won't want to go back! Give yourself a chance...

Best Wishes,

[Jules1980]

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I avoided losing the weight for 20 years because it was going to be such a long journey...now I wonder why I didn't do it then! I also needed to lose 1/2 my body weight, but I used mini-goals, as the others have mentioned - also know that goal is great (I'm sure, I'm not there yet) but progress is great too! I can barely believe all of the things that I can do that I could not do a year ago...I started to notice differences within weeks of starting. I also feel better and look better - yes, even 40-50 pounds from goal, I look WAY better. Once you get going & seeing progress, you won't want to go back! Give yourself a chance...

Best Wishes,

I also avoided losing weight....for 7 years! I figured NOTHING would help! Now I wish I had of done this after my son was born because I feel as though I spent my years in my 20's just miserable and hiding!! Time to put the past behind and make my 30's awesome! LOL

[canucme]

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how bad do you want it?

my best advice to you is to avoid the scale for about a month. make sure you read dandr if you haven't already. don't only just read the book, study it. go back and re-read things. make sure you have a real good grasp on the atkins plan and then execute. follow the plan exactly how you are supposed to. try and do it by the book for 1 month. incorporate some exerise along with the diet. walk for 20 minutes a day to start with and gradually increase it if you can over the month. you might feel like you aren't doing enough but every journey begins with the first step and all streaks begin with 1. you start taking baby steps on this journey and i promise you won't be let down. and every day it will get a little easier and you will become more inspired not only by how you look but by how you feel.

what is the worst possible thing that can happen? you avoid fast food, candy, cake and all that other terrible junk for a month. you got out in this beautiful weather and did some walking. there is no down side for you.

i can guarantee you that after your 2 week induction period you are going to be feeling so good that scale is going to be harder to resist than a piece of cake! i am telling you from experience that scale is like crack! i am feeling so good after only 3 weeks it is killing me not to get on the scale and see my results. but i made a pact with myself that i would go 1 month strong without looking and obsessing over the scale and that's what i intend to do.

you can do this. the time is now. dig down deep inside you and make it happen. there is strength in you.... make it happen!

[msanjelpie]

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After a couple of months on Atkins I was losing at a pretty constant rate, so I figured out that based upon that rate it would be about two years to reach goal... it was depressing on the one hand, on the other hand it was a tangible end of the tunnel.

Now I'm losing at a slower rate though... so I'm having to adjust my time line... but since one year has already passed, WHEN I reach goal no longer seems important. Because I know that I will, some day, and I'll still be here... struggling every single day to reach that goal...

Yesterday I weighed 198.6... my current goal... 197. Keep your goals small... let go of the overall picture. Take pride in the fact that you ARE on the road driving in the right direction... It sure beats gaining!

[WetBanana]

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I started back in August of 09...currently I'm in the negative of 83 lbs. I weighed a good 45 lbs more then you did when I started.

Don't let the amount of weight you want gone make you feel bad. A doctor once told me that for every 10 lbs of weight you lose, it's like losing 50 off of your knees. Your entire body will thank you for losing even 1 lb.

I'm in the same boat as PP's, I had my kids in my 20's, and never bothered losing the weight after it kept creeping up. I just let myself go because I didn't see a way out.

One morning, I woke up, had some eggs for breakfast, then realized I hadn't done any carb eating and decided to get some information about this WOE and BAM, here I am 8 months down the road.

You can do it

[2big4mysize]

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I need some serious support. So, here's the deal. I can't help but think...oh my goodness, who cares if I lose a few pounds when I'm 306lbs and have over half my body weight to lose.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I feel good about my decision to begin Atkins a week ago, but at the same time, my mind gets to going and I start to feel a bit depressed about the long road ahead. I know the pounds didn't pile on overnight, so that's not the issue. It's simply the fact that I know what a daunting, disciplined task lies ahead of me.

from one former 300+ pounder to a future former 300+ pounder you can do this. Don't worry about getting to any goal just be a happy woo hoo I'm losing fool running as fast as you can from that 300+ pounder. Don't worry about getting to onehundredland right now.


I was enjoying my shrinking as I worked my atkins until a more expericienced loser told me I needed goals to be a success and I made weight loss goals and busted my butt to reach them but then they were gone and it was on to the next one. the happiness and joy of being an atkins loser was gone for me so I punted my mini goals and just went back to being a whoo hoo Atkins shrinking body person running all the way to goal from my 300+ pound formerself.

Make your current body the enemy and rescue yourself from it. be a project in deconstruction and don't worry about getting to x goal by Y date cause you will drive yourself nuts. Take a current pic and then use it as your motivation. everytime that little voice sasy cheat quit make it be comeing from the 306 you trying to regain control of your body.

Pick a weigh in day and then each time that day arrives reward yourself for every pound or inch you have lost with a nonfood reward. I paid myself $5 a pound and stuck it in a bank account all by itself that i couldn't withdraw from until I reached 100 pounds gone. That kept me motivated to actually shed the weight and I could alter what I was spending it on in my head a million times before i ever earned it.

some folk take a new pic each month so they can see how far they have moved from the 300+ pounder.

you can do this and even if you never get to your ideal weight even bing smaller then you currently are is a win win for you.