What do you do when you get zero family support?

[Carne!]

Re: What do you do when you get zero family support?

plus, think of all the additional benefits your spouse gets from your new WOE. For example, we all got chinese food today and my hubby is getting my fried rice and wontons (i had the pepper steak/peppers with very light sauce). Hubby also gets pizza, candy and doughnuts when people bring it in. I may not be eating it, but i still take my share

[Browneyedmelly]

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I have stated in several posts, that my husband called the Atkins wol a "kooky diet". At 400 pounds, I was laid off of my job. I could barely move from the bedroom to the living room. When I went on interviews, I walked in huffing and puffing and they couldn't wait to get me out of the office. So I decided it was time to take care of myself for a change, that I wanted to live. Like mutant mom, I am the cook of the family. Whatever I make for myself I just add a starch for the rest of the family. They are now constantly in my cut up veggies, or asking to taste the new recipes. At first if I made a Linda's low carb recipe, my husband turned his nose up at it.. I didnt care, because it was for me this time. Well 100 pounds down he can't stop talking about my efforts.. and when I made the low carb lasagne last night, he told me to give him a piece for lunch at work today. I guess what I am trying to say is that sometimes you have to put yourself first. This is the wol of I decided for myself, and I refuse to argue with hubby about it. I have dreams of places I want to go, like the Santa Monica Pier..a Los Angeles Kings Hockey game. My hubby in the end will benefit from a healthier me.

[MarlaSinger]

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I have been thinking about this OP for hours. I think it's an interesting dynamic with the opposition being the wife. We women are usually the ones who set the tone for health and nutrition (I said usually; there are always exceptions to this. Traditionally may be the better word choice.)

My husband was an auto mechanic for over a decade. He was strong, muscular, worked long days and we tallied up his average calories for fun once. He took in close to 4,000 calories per day wearing size 34 pants - with a belt to keep them up. We ate a lot of carbs - mostly carbs, so we could afford to feed his appetite. It's difficult to compete with the price of Kraft mac and cheese and $5 pizzas.

We'd fallen into the junk food abyss and not until he stopped working on cars and got a desk job, did he mention one day that we should be eating more vegetables.

This comment made me feel uncomfortable. Not because I am not the vegetable's biggest fan, but because I felt like I was severely lacking on my job of looking out for my family's health and well-being. Canned corn, potatoes, carrots and the occasional salad weren't cutting it and I knew this. It stung when I realized that it had to be pointed out to me. Dumb, huh? Like many of you are saying here, I should have been jumping up and down out of sheer joy that my husband wanted to eat more vegetables and wanted to be more proactive about his health. Instead, I took offense. I felt called out. I felt like I was just told I was doing it wrong and it was intolerable considering the health consequences.

I wouldn't be surprised if the OP's wife feels the same way.

If your lawnmower didn't work, and you were going to get to it, would it not make you feel a little guilty if your wife studied the manual for several hours and did the trouble shooting herself? You guys can say that you'd happily allow your wife to do things like this, but at the same time it would make you feel a little neglectful, like she has to roll up sleeve and get the job done because you wouldn't, or couldn't. It's no different when it comes to our domain. Come home from work today and scrub something down - in theory, your wife wants you to do more around the house, but often if you do, you'll only insult her. Relationships are a funny, delicate thing.