Why don't people want to lose weight??

[**Nikki**]

Hey yall. I'm losing just as we all are with this new WOE. Now, people tell me they're content, or can't lose, or won't lose weight. I don't get it when I tell them how wonderful it is and they just don't want to do it!! Am I crazy :confused but I want to see everybody happy. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

[maysea]

I think alot of people are scared of failing.
until they actualy realy want to lose weight and try this woe they will never feel the other benefits that come with it.

energy
confidence
feeling alive
healthy blood counts
and the bonus AMAZING WEIGHT LOSS

Thank god i choose this wol

[Peytonn]

I gained my original 50 pounds of blubber when Daddy had cancer... after that I just kept putting it off... thinking it would be easier to do...

then we make choices... I mean.. do you KNOW how much I love chocolate... cheesecake.. fruit?

I guess I was in denial about how big a mess my body had become... and took comfort in the sweet stuff...

this is hard for me.. make no mistake about it.. it works.. and it's going home and getting on that scale.. or coming here and getting motivated again.. that keeps me going...

or looking at my sloppy self in the mirror...

but even though I'm happy with my progress for 6 days.. (yeah go ahead and laugh.. 6 whole days).. it's hard .... and I keep telling myself constantly why I can't have that pecan twirl anymore....

am I weak? you betcha!

am I going to fight and win this time? with all my being I'm fighting.. time will tell if I win or not!

[maysea]

good for you keep on fighting for yourself :dancingb:

nobody laughing thats the hardest part. :hug

keep going and reap the benefits :clapping

[cleochatra]

I had to hit bottom (for me, big rock fatty bottom) before I was ready to admit that I needed to do something. Atkins was the first time in years that I'd taken responsibility for myself and my condition. I was even ready to have weight loss surgery...

I think it is difficult for people to take blame for their condition. One has to 'own' it before making it better. And who wants to own droppy mammarian appendages, saggy bottom and wibble wobble?

[Peytonn]

ah.. the surgery thing... I too contemplated that... although it's expensive.. I dont' have high blood pressure.. and around here they say you have to be near 100 pounds overweight to do it....

and I didn't want to get bigger....

I tried eating 'healthy'... diet pills... you name it..I've done it..

but this is going to work!

[soliwit]

Yes Nikki, isn't it weird how some people just chose NOT to be healthy or not even want to TRY to be, it's pretty amazing !!
Good thing is WE are working on it and feel happy with it !!!

To Peytonn: girl I am proud of you every inch, even if it is 'only' 6 days (to me it's not only 6, it's 6 WHOLE DAYS!!!!)
You go girl !!!!!! :hug

And Cleo: you ROCK, you are a great inspiration to me, keep that happy smile !!!

:icondance

[Buddrfly]

You are not wrong!

Nikki,

You are not wrong for feeling that way. It's is normal to want the best for the people around you, especially when you know what kind of results they could have.

The thing is it all comes down to them making the decision to change their eating habits. Unfortunately, most people would rather maintain unhealthy eating habits--occasionally trying fad diets, than completely change their woe and make that change a lifetime decision.

I think the idea of having to be responsible enough to make better food choices for more than just a little while bring out the lazy bug in most a lot of people. That's where the excuses come in.......and boy are there a ton of those, when it comes to eating healthy :yes

Atleast we've got it down. All we can do is hope that we rub off on them :hug

[dreamof145]

I spent years wishing that the fat would dissappear. Every time I went on DIETS, I ran around miserable and unhappy.

I think that the difference with ATKINS had a lot to do with putting my mental state in the right frame of mind to do this. This had a lot to do with the ADBB. I was surrounding myself this time with people who were doing what I wanted to do.

I learned what to do and how to react when obstacles did arise so that I never felt like I was losing weight alone. I always had my ADBB friends for support. I think it makes a big difference.

I understand how people feel when they convince themselves that they were just meant to be FAT or that their bodies won't allow them to lose the weight. I too, wish that everyone could be happy and learn the Atkins principles and lose weight. But, until they are so desperately unhappy and open-minded about giving it a try, I'm afraid it won't happen. Every day I thank God that I found Atkins and that I found the ADBB site.

[not2late]

During the time I spent as a low fat vegetarian, I thought I was healthy because I was eating healthy. So those 40 plus pounds I gained didn't bother me because I was doing healthy things---eating low fat, not eating saturated animal products, eating alot of healthy fruits/veggies/grains, etc.
My cholesterol was good. My blood pressure was low. I didn't have any major health problems like heart disease. Yeah sure, I would get winded from walking up 4 flights of stairs, but doesn't everyone? But I was eating low fat healthy, so I had to be healthy too.

I don't think people realize how unhealthy they are until they finally convinced of it: taking breaks when they walk up a flight of stairs, can't walk fast, have high blood pressure, are overweight, etc. Once they realize that they do one of two things: 1. they take an "Egyptian vacation" in denial or 2. they get off their butts and do something about it.

The folks on this board and other weight loss boards belong to the latter group now. But how many of us belonged to the former group at one point? I certainly did.

I just thank my lucky stars that I came back from my Egyptian vacation and I'm here.

[**Nikki**]

Amen yall, Amen. I wouldn't budge either, but I got sick and tired of being sick and tired of carrying around this weight and how I felt, I know health problems were coming swiftly around the corner. Like my Grandmother always said, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink", so true, so true. I love :hug you guys here, without the support and honest feedback I'd still be lost. Thanks.

[matawguro]

I understand how people feel when they convince themselves that they were just meant to be FAT or that their bodies won't allow them to lose the weight.

I felt this way before starting on Atkins. I tried a low-fat diet (coupled with Xenical - ugh!) and various fors of exercise. I saw no improvement in myself, yet I saw all my friends doing ZERO exercise and obviously having no regard to what they eat, yet they weren't overweight. I felt defeated and consigned myself to always being obese. I couldn't fight genetics so I'd better get comfortable with what I am.

No matter how motivated or determined one is, if one doesn't see any fruits of one's labor, that person will eventually give up.

A martial arts instructor once told me that practicing a technique a few times the correct way was infinitely better that practicing thousands of times the wrong way.

Well, Atkins is the RIGHT way. I've never looked and felt better in my life. My only regret is I didn't learn about it sooner. Had I taken all the effort I poured in losing weight the wrong way and used it doing Atkins during my younger years, my life would have probably been better by now.

[AllieCat0817]

I believe alot of folk have a fear of being thin because thin=the unknown.

[ttdriver]

I agree with Allie. Its fear that keeps alot of people heavy. Fear that they won't have the 'fat' to hide behind.

Also, some people just like playing the victim. It takes courage to face your demon head-on. And it takes diligence, discipline and determination to overcome it.

Betty

[loonatika]

Weight loss and your weight is such a personal thing too that you can have all the people in the world telling you that you need to lose weight, but it won't happen until you reach that point where you say enough is enough.

I found it nearly impossible to get the motivation and determination needed to lose weight, but eventually I found it. This place without a doubt was the main reason I was able to stick with it though. Just seeing how others had used Atkins with such success gave me motivation, having people to hold my hand and so on. Sure I did the hard work, but I think of this board as my life raft that kept me afloat.

Losing weight also involves lifestyle changes that you have to be ready for and of course the fear of the unknown at the other end. I'm still dealing with being thin again and having attention and being told I'm attractive. Sure I see the thin person in the mirror now that the fat goggles have gone away, but I still struggle to see myself as others do.