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    Hi,
    I co-hosted a baby shower for my Sister on Sunday. At the shower my Aunt, who was eating a piece of cake, commented to my sister-in-law and me about us not having any cake. My sister-in-law spoke up and told her we couldn't have any because we were low-carbing it. So with EVERY SINGLE BITE of cake my Aunt put into her mouth she commented about how good the cake was. She went on and on and on about the cake.

    Because I promised I brought a piece of cake home for my Husband and Daughter. My Daughter ate her cake on Monday. She handed me her plate with two bites left saying she was full. I looked at the cake and remembered my Aunt going on and on about how good it was (and I had for no reason gained two pounds that morning) and I folded! Yes, after 60 days cheat free I gave into temptation. I ate the rest of her cake, but I didn't stop there the sugar cravings set in and I went on to eat a Smores Pop Tart, 2 fruit roll ups, some Pringles Chips (which I don't even like that well) and a ham sandwich with BREAD.

    I thought about what I had done and was REALLY upset with myself. I wanted to go to the bathroom and purge. But I didn't. I just kept on telling myself what I have said to other people on this board who have cheated and felt bad about it. Learn from it and move on. It was really hard NOT to beat myself up over it, but I knew if I did that it would really send me into a tail spin and I would just throw the towel in and quit.

    The next day I lost a pound and made the BIG mistake of sharing my downfall with my Mom. She was upset with me over it and let me know it. I told her that I WASN'T going to beat myself up over it and that I am back on track and have moved on. She won't let it go and brought it up again today. This morning I did lose the other pound that I had gained, so I am back down. But I am afraid that I will rebel against my Mother's control and throw in the towel if she doesn't let it go.
    Dee
    F 5'3"
    228/189/130
    starting date 3/03/05



  • #2
    Don't throw in the towel. Celebrate the 60 days cheat free, learn from the cheat and move on. I'm also one of those people who, if I cheat, then go on to eat everything in sight. Must be a personality thing. You're doing great, and I know how moms can be, it's amazing how much you still want their approval and understanding even when you're an adult. Just relax and tell her that the cheat is behind you, out of your system and you're back on track...and then stay on track . You can do this! Best Wishes..
    Re-start 5/2/05
    244/236/135
    F/41/5'8"

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    • #3
      keep in mind she might be pulling whats known as a Jewish Mother Guilt Trip. Mothers are famous for this even if they're not Jewish *no offense to anyone!*

      She's probably giving you a guilt trip to help you get back on track and to make sure you STAY on it.

      Give your mommy a hug, buy her some flowers for mothers day, and tell her that cheat free is the way to be!
      F 24 5'10 SW - 217 GW 170 restarted atkins 1/14/08 - This time I'm sticking with it!




      1st pic Pre restarting atkins @ 217 lbs. 2nd pic 20 lbs lighter @ 197 lbs! on 3/1/08
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      • #4
        Honey, I was raised by a Jewish father, and he was as bad. Now I'm a Jewish mother by practice.

        Don't give up! Tell mom you love her and if she falls over dead from diappointment that you'd like the silver place settings.

        :joy
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        • #5
          I'd sic mom on auntie torturer
          by the book atkinseer

          started 6/1/02 at 313
          goalie 5/04 at 167 with under 15% body fat ADBB Presidents exercise Challenge


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          • #6
            Re: I cheated and My Mother won't let it go!

            Originally posted by chickaDee59
            Hi,
            I co-hosted a baby shower for my Sister on Sunday. At the shower my Aunt, who was eating a piece of cake, commented to my sister-in-law and me about us not having any cake. My sister-in-law spoke up and told her we couldn't have any because we were low-carbing it. So with EVERY SINGLE BITE of cake my Aunt put into her mouth she commented about how good the cake was. She went on and on and on about the cake.

            Because I promised I brought a piece of cake home for my Husband and Daughter. My Daughter ate her cake on Monday. She handed me her plate with two bites left saying she was full. I looked at the cake and remembered my Aunt going on and on about how good it was (and I had for no reason gained two pounds that morning) and I folded! Yes, after 60 days cheat free I gave into temptation. I ate the rest of her cake, but I didn't stop there the sugar cravings set in and I went on to eat a Smores Pop Tart, 2 fruit roll ups, some Pringles Chips (which I don't even like that well) and a ham sandwich with BREAD.

            I thought about what I had done and was REALLY upset with myself. I wanted to go to the bathroom and purge. But I didn't. I just kept on telling myself what I have said to other people on this board who have cheated and felt bad about it. Learn from it and move on. It was really hard NOT to beat myself up over it, but I knew if I did that it would really send me into a tail spin and I would just throw the towel in and quit.

            The next day I lost a pound and made the BIG mistake of sharing my downfall with my Mom. She was upset with me over it and let me know it. I told her that I WASN'T going to beat myself up over it and that I am back on track and have moved on. She won't let it go and brought it up again today. This morning I did lose the other pound that I had gained, so I am back down. But I am afraid that I will rebel against my Mother's control and throw in the towel if she doesn't let it go.
            First off, what your Aunt did was really low and mean-spirited. She's one of those diet saboteurs and she was successful with you. Next time she does that make a casual remark like "Gee I bet that does taste really good, but every forkful you eat looks like another 2 pounds on your hips. So, thanks but no thanks."

            As for bingeing on food---you have learned your lesson: once bite will awaken your carb monster.

            In regards to your mother, I see it that she's hurt because you let Auntie Saboteur succeed in mind-controlling you to the point that you gave in. I bet Auntie has a pattern of behavior like this and your Mom is fully aware of it. But I can also see her interpreting your cheat and loss as "bragging", so she's not too happy with that. Talk to your mom and tell her how her harping on it makes you feel and makes you want to quit. You need her support just as much as she needs yours if you are doing this together.

            ~Megs~
            242/141/160 (130)
            dress size 26/10/8
            5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
            My blog:
            http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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            • #7
              Thanks everybody for your support in this matter.

              Originally posted by cleochatra
              Don't give up! Tell mom you love her and if she falls over dead from diappointment that you'd like the silver place settings.

              :joy
              Cleo,

              ROTFLMAO
              Dee
              F 5'3"
              228/189/130
              starting date 3/03/05


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              • #8
                Originally posted by 2big4mysize
                I'd sic mom on auntie torturer

                Actually much to my surprise my Mother defended my Aunt and said that she has heard her carry on like this over cake before and that she just seems to really like cake.
                Dee
                F 5'3"
                228/189/130
                starting date 3/03/05


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                • #9
                  Re: I cheated and My Mother won't let it go!

                  Originally posted by not2late
                  [First off, what your Aunt did was really low and mean-spirited. She's one of those diet saboteurs and she was successful with you. Next time she does that make a casual remark like "Gee I bet that does taste really good, but every forkful you eat looks like another 2 pounds on your hips. So, thanks but no thanks."

                  As for bingeing on food---you have learned your lesson: once bite will awaken your carb monster.

                  In regards to your mother, I see it that she's hurt because you let Auntie Saboteur succeed in mind-controlling you to the point that you gave in. I bet Auntie has a pattern of behavior like this and your Mom is fully aware of it. But I can also see her interpreting your cheat and loss as "bragging", so she's not too happy with that. Talk to your mom and tell her how her harping on it makes you feel and makes you want to quit. You need her support just as much as she needs yours if you are doing this together.


                  I shared my downfall with my Mother because I felt my "Rail Thin Aunt" deliberately sabotaged me, but as I told 2 big, my Mother defended my Aunt's actions. My Mother told me that it wasn't my Aunt's fault that I lost control. Also I wasn't bragging about a loss after a cheat. I was relieved that I had lost.

                  Something else occured to me after I posted this and that is my Aunt's only Daughter has been heaviest female in the family UNTIL I was pregnant with my second child and put on a lot of weight because of pregnancy difficulties. If I get the weight off that will put her daughter once again being the heaviest female.

                  I would also like to add that my Mother and me are NOT doing this together. This is not her woe. It is mine.

                  I know the mistakes I made and like I said I have learned from them and have moved on. I just wish she could. Because this isn't about her. It is about me.
                  Dee
                  F 5'3"
                  228/189/130
                  starting date 3/03/05


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                  • #10
                    Amen! Down to sabatuers and nay-sayers!! :guns

                    I'm sure you love your mom and she loves you. But she's wrong. It sounds like your aunt wants you to be fatter than her daughter. (Or at least fatter than her). Let your mom know you're back on track and ask her to support you and lend you her strength to help you fight the urge to cheat again-(that's right, butter her up). She'll feel like, even tho she's not on Atkins, she can be part of your support network.

                    I'm sure she's only dissapointed because she wants you to succeed.
                    Hafsa
                    F30 5'3"
                    Start date 10/02
                    SW313/CW236/GW150
                    I wanna be a LOSER not a CHEATER!

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Hafsa226
                      I'm sure she's only dissapointed because she wants you to succeed.

                      You are right!
                      Dee
                      F 5'3"
                      228/189/130
                      starting date 3/03/05


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                      • #12
                        Re: I cheated and My Mother won't let it go!

                        Originally posted by chickaDee59
                        Originally posted by not2late
                        [First off, what your Aunt did was really low and mean-spirited. She's one of those diet saboteurs and she was successful with you. Next time she does that make a casual remark like "Gee I bet that does taste really good, but every forkful you eat looks like another 2 pounds on your hips. So, thanks but no thanks."

                        As for bingeing on food---you have learned your lesson: once bite will awaken your carb monster.

                        In regards to your mother, I see it that she's hurt because you let Auntie Saboteur succeed in mind-controlling you to the point that you gave in. I bet Auntie has a pattern of behavior like this and your Mom is fully aware of it. But I can also see her interpreting your cheat and loss as "bragging", so she's not too happy with that. Talk to your mom and tell her how her harping on it makes you feel and makes you want to quit. You need her support just as much as she needs yours if you are doing this together.


                        I shared my downfall with my Mother because I felt my "Rail Thin Aunt" deliberately sabotaged me, but as I told 2 big, my Mother defended my Aunt's actions. My Mother told me that it wasn't my Aunt's fault that I lost control. Also I wasn't bragging about a loss after a cheat. I was relieved that I had lost.

                        Something else occured to me after I posted this and that is my Aunt's only Daughter has been heaviest female in the family UNTIL I was pregnant with my second child and put on a lot of weight because of pregnancy difficulties. If I get the weight off that will put her daughter once again being the heaviest female.

                        I would also like to add that my Mother and me are NOT doing this together. This is not her woe. It is mine.

                        I know the mistakes I made and like I said I have learned from them and have moved on. I just wish she could. Because this isn't about her. It is about me.
                        Sorry, from what you wrote, I got the impression you and your mom were doing this together..my mistake.

                        I think your mom wants you to succeed too---she's just not going about it the right way being supportive of you.

                        And I think your aunt IS sabotaging your efforts so her daughter won't be the family fatty. If talking about how wonderful the cake is the most insightful thing she can add to a conversation, then I pity your Aunt and you for having to listen to that. Believe me, I know her type and the near orgasmic complements to the food increase significantly if she knows people are on a diet or can't have a particular food.

                        Well, you've learned alot with this experience. Again, talk to your mom. Be honest, tell her that harping on this isn't helping you out. I'm sure she wants you to succeed---you just have to teach her to support you.

                        ~Megs~
                        242/141/160 (130)
                        dress size 26/10/8
                        5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
                        My blog:
                        http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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                        • #13
                          Re: I cheated and My Mother won't let it go!

                          Originally posted by not2late
                          Sorry, from what you wrote, I got the impression you and your mom were doing this together..my mistake.

                          I think your mom wants you to succeed too---she's just not going about it the right way being supportive of you.

                          And I think your aunt IS sabotaging your efforts so her daughter won't be the family fatty. If talking about how wonderful the cake is the most insightful thing she can add to a conversation, then I pity your Aunt and you for having to listen to that. Believe me, I know her type and the near orgasmic complements to the food increase significantly if she knows people are on a diet or can't have a particular food.

                          Well, you've learned alot with this experience. Again, talk to your mom. Be honest, tell her that harping on this isn't helping you out. I'm sure she wants you to succeed---you just have to teach her to support you.

                          No apology is needed. You are so right! You hit the nail on the head! My Mom does want me to succeed. She has told me many times since I have been on this journey how proud she is of me. She just doesn't understand how after 60 days cheat free that I could give in to two bites of cake. My Mom doesn't have a sweet tooth therefore sweets are not her weakness as they are mine.

                          What is funny is I was going to use the word orgasmic when I was describing my Aunt eating the cake. LOL
                          Dee
                          F 5'3"
                          228/189/130
                          starting date 3/03/05


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                          • #14
                            Re: I cheated and My Mother won't let it go!

                            Originally posted by chickaDee59
                            What is funny is I was going to use the word orgasmic when I was describing my Aunt eating the cake. LOL
                            Like I said, I know your Aunt's type.

                            Orgasmic saboteur takes a bite of food: "Mmmmmm....Oh...(pant)...oh this is soooooooo good. Oh, my God!"

                            OS takes another bite of food: "Ohh yeessss! This is terrific! You should try some...Mmmmmmmm....ohhhhhh.....!"

                            OS takes another bite of food: "Ohhhhh, ahhhh....So....goood!"

                            After a while you wonder
                            1. Are you watching a porn movie
                            2. How long has it been since she's had a non-food orgasm
                            3. Is she for real?

                            :sarcasm
                            ~Megs~
                            242/141/160 (130)
                            dress size 26/10/8
                            5'4", Female, May 2, 2003
                            My blog:
                            http://mformiscellaneous.blogspot.com/

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                            • #15
                              Geez Megs, I was remembering the movie When Harry Met Sally, and the reastaurant scene. I was falling out of my chair laughing.

                              female
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