I Am Worth It Challenge II

[MorningGlory]

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December 18
Looking Back
Homework/Board Work
1. These are to be posted in this thread. Copy and paste the questions then answer.

• Reference a time when you were completely committed to a project, cause or life event. Relate to the group what struggles you had and what you did to stay the course. How did you feel when you met the obligation?
• What comes to mind for me is my committment this spring to Atkins. I just came to the realization one day that until I gave myself over to following the plan the way Dr. A set it out, I would not have success. I read the book, cover to cover, and came on here one day and posted. That's what it took to hook me. I discovered like-minded people and I soaked up their knowledge and advice like a sponge. Did I falter? Oh yah. I did, but I keep coming back. Did I stay the course? I did for quite a while and I managed to succeed with outstanding results. My self-esteem soared, I shed the insecure baggage and I learned that being mid-forties was not death. Yes my youthful looks were slipping away, but I have come to embrace my age by working at my health and I am even letting my gray hair come in! And you know what? I really like it. I have a modern cut, I have nicer hair and skin thanks to vitamins and supplements, and people notice! The feeling of meeting my obligation was life-changing. Too often I have just let stuff go...I would try something and get bored, or be too challenged by it because of insecurity, and would walk away. I wrote in my stats journal that I feel like this board is a life raft that I keep letting go of, and I truly believe that. BUT, I am here once again, and I think I have a seat in the raft this time, safe and sound.
• Have you ever over committed? How did this affect your challenges, woe, etc. I did over-commit earlier in the year to a bunch of challenges and I didn't finish one of them! I walked away actually, right in the middle of them. And felt like a loser. I ate raison toast with butter every morning to make myself feel better and well...my muffin top is back!

Virtually everyone has a problem now and then with slow losses, no losses or even gains. We are human. Dr. Atkins knew this but he also used the word “occasionally” in reference to eating off plan, many times in the DANDR. “Occasionally” should never be confused with every other day or be the scapegoat come Friday. Keeping this in mind, answer this question (as it applies):

1. If you are committed, why do you find yourself continually battling cravings, falling off the wagon, giving in and giving up?
I figured out that I feel the need to punish myself for things that I have said that have hurt others, for actions that I didn't take and should have...actually for a whole lot of "should have's". So I did some writing tonight (to myself) and it was amazing how cathartic that is for me. I worked through a lot of crap and I'm not ready to give up!

[jimmie 48]

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#221
elsy's post. (i know, i was suppose to call it a night ... what can i say)

elsy, there's alot of maybe's in the last part of your post. all of them together add up to alot of pressure, alot of stress. i've often said, i don't know how you girls handle jobs, school, kids, husbands, atkins and exercise.

i wonder if you thought of changing your goal weight. who was it that did that... misplaced southerner? it was being such a stress issue to lose a few pounds and through posting she was convinced to just call it goal. i think, if i remember right, right afterward, she dropped the few pounds. sometimes taking the stress off can work wonders. perhaps you need to rethink the goal. the commitment is there or you wouldn't be here.

[jimmie 48]

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fowler, this is part of your post #228 ....

. I will not give up. I may stumble and fall. However, I have seen that this works for me. This is a lifestyle change. The cravings are not as often and the stumbles are far less often. One day I hope that they will no longer be an issue

this is what we've seen in our quotes and in our posting, that we may have a hard time here and there but we are not going to let that be our defeat. we continue on and stay the course, learning from what happened.

i'm so glad you posted.
i'm so glad you are a part of the challenge.

[inhisgrip]

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Wow...It has been a long day. I haven't had a chance to read through everyone's answers yet but I will go back. This is good stuff.


Looking Back

1. Copy and paste the questions then answer.

Reference a time when you were completely committed to a project, cause or life event. Relate to the group what struggles you had and what you did to stay the course. How did you feel when you met the obligation?

• During my graduate program in college a few years back I was committed to lead a club at the high school called "Better All Together." The purpose of the club was for the high-school students to buddy up with students with an intellectual disablity. We met once a week and the students participated in various activities, games, projects, etc. It was a huge undertaking and being a shy college student in front of a bunch of high-schoolers it was very intimidating for me at first. I committed to it because it was a club I felt was really needed at this school and I have a huge heart for students with disabilities. There were mornings I did not want to go, just did not want to face 40 high-school students all looking to me for guidance, days I wasn't as well prepared as I should have been... but I never gave up. I showed up every meeting because that was what was expected of me and I had made that commitment to the school. I always ended up having the best time at the meetings though. The kids were great. I learned so much from them and my confidence bloomed. When I finished the year I was so sad that it was ending. All the mornings I dragged myself to the school, all the meetings I wish could be postponed were all worth it in the end because the kids really bonded with one another and lasting friendships were made...friendships that would never have happened without that club. I was very proud of the work we accomplished.

Have you ever over committed? How did this affect your challenges, woe, etc.

• I don't think I've ever over committed as far as the challenges on the board go. I usually only try to join one to two at a time. However, in my day to day life, yes, I overcommit. The incidence I recall when I just got over my head was actually with "church" stuff. I was a student leader in the college ministry at my church, going to services on Sunday mornings, Sunday nights, Wednesday nights, going to 3 different Bible studies at once and in the college choir at one point. It was too much. I had to step back and reevaluate what areas were most important for me at that particular time. All these "things" I was doing were all great, they were all worthwhile, but if you try to do too much at one time, then all areas suffer. You don't get the full benefit of any of them because your time and efforts are stretched too thin.

If you are committed, why do you find yourself continually battling cravings, falling off the wagon, giving in and giving up?

• I don't know... I'm sitting here thinking about this question. Why do I cheat and give up after making the commitment to myself? I am typically a very committed person... a woman of my word. If I say I'm going to do something I do it. So why...with my woe...is it so hard? Then it hit me... I think I'm constantly cheating and giving up because the committment is only to myself. If I break that committment the only person that suffers is me. It doesn't effect anyone else. When I make comittments to other people I have to follow through because they are depending on me. But when I make them to myself... I guess sub-consciously I'm saying to myself that I'm not worth it. That it doesn't matter if I lie to myself. I rationalize with myself and promise myself I'll make up for it another day. But of course I never do.

[jimmie 48]

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No one, not even God himself expects me to go the rest of my life without good food.

i had to think a minute on this. my mind is trying to reference some of the many things dr. atkins wrote about. he mentioned several time how we were meant to eat and what has come about. the increase of sugar/flour products and the rise in weight, literally, and diabetes and heart disease.
God did intend for us to eat good food. meats, berries, fruits, nuts, grains and so on. it's man perversion of foods that got us in this mess. look at what man did with sugar and flour. when i was a kid i could have probably named every cereal in the cereal isle at the store. try that now... it can't be done. and then stick those blasted gigantic candy bars at the check out. shame shame

that was deep thinking for me on a late night.

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now i am chatting with mg.
mg, sorry, i should have gone to bed. just one more, k?

[OzLover]

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Then it hit me... I think I'm constantly cheating and giving up because the committment is only to myself

Liz you are worth the committment!!! You truly are my friend!!

Glenda

[jimmie 48]

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· Why are you here at the ADBB? To make better and healthier choices on what goes into my body

· Why are you doing Atkins? I have been on many diets and this is the only way I truly love to eat, also this WOE is not depriving my body

· What does the word “commitment” mean to you? To fully understand that I am resposible for why my body has the shape it does and without actully taking steps to improve myself will I always live with everything in a negative

3. Find a quote concerning commitment and share it in this thread.
Interest versus commitment

"There's a difference between interest and commitment.
When you're interested in doing something,
you do it only when circumstance permit.
When you're committed to something,
you accept no excuses, only results."
-- Art Turock



4. Comment on the following quote:
“Commitment is what transforms the promise into reality. It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions and the actions which speak louder than
words. It is making the time when there is none. It means coming through time after time, year after year. Commitment is the stuff character is made of; the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism” -This is how I need to look at exercising on a every day basis if I do not get on the tredmill no one else will do it for me
5. Make a list of synonyms for the word “commitment“. Put this list in your journal.

willlose, i'm certainly glad you got in here to post today.
i think the quote you provided was a new. there were so many to choose from!
you've repeated many of the things the others have. doing this because it works, and doing it for better health.

[dreamof145]

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December 19 Looking Ahead - Commitment In Action

1. The first focus of making a plan is to identify things that will jeopardize your commitment to yourself. This could be a hospital stay, vacation, relatives that know nothing about Atkins or are ill informed, or simple a restaurant. List at least 2 in each category:

Events: Office party - Family Reunion
Places: Restaurant hospital stay
People: WW friends Co-workers


2. Write out alternative actions that will help you stay committed when you are faced with these temptations.

Office party - ALWAYS have acceptable snacks in my purse/car or desk that I can turn to if it is a spur of the moment party. If it is planned…be accountable for myself by making sure I have food I can eat and still enjoy the party. Even when I am assigned to bring something, if it is a food that can’t be substituted for a low-carb version, take what I am supposed to and still take an additional item I can eat. (Always look out for myself as nobody else will look out for my needs)

Family Reunion - Find out what everyone is bringing. Make your contribution a low-carb meal. Low-carb meals are just ordinary food, nothing that anyone is going to frown on. If I don’t draw attention to it, and I don’t make a big deal out of not being able to eat this or that, then nobody will notice. Just pick/choose from what others bring and eat what I know is acceptable on my WOE.

Restaurant - Try to find out what foods are available before hand at each restaurant in that I might find myself dining in. If I know beforehand, I won’t be caught off-guard. Ask questions, tell the waitresses that I am on a restricted food plan. They want our business, they want us to refer them to others, so they are going to please us in every way they can. We don’t have to make a big deal of being low-carb -

Hospital Stay - When I go in to do your pre-register in the hospital, I ask to speak with the dietician. Tell them my specific needs and ask how I can be accommodated. I’ve done this several times and was given excellent service, (most of the diabetic choices) and I didn’t gain weight and was happy.



3. Put your plan into action. Practice what you will say to people you know might try to get you off plan. Say it till you feel comfortable saying, being self assured and confident.

WW friends - “I’m glad that we’ve both found excellent programs that we can be comfortable with that meets our individual needs”

Co-workers - “No thanks. It looks delicious, however, I’ve started watching what I eat very closely and I’m committed to making healthier choices.”

[MorningGlory]

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i had to think a minute on this. my mind is trying to reference some of the many things dr. atkins wrote about. he mentioned several time how we were meant to eat and what has come about. the increase of sugar/flour products and the rise in weight, literally, and diabetes and heart disease.
God did intend for us to eat good food. meats, berries, fruits, nuts, grains and so on. it's man perversion of foods that got us in this mess. look at what man did with sugar and flour. when i was a kid i could have probably named every cereal in the cereal isle at the store. try that now... it can't be done. and then stick those blasted gigantic candy bars at the check out. shame shame

that was deep thinking for me on a late night. mg, sorry, i should have gone to bed. just one more, k?

Ummm...I didn't write that quote either! Go to bed Jimmie!
MG

[jimmie 48]

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Ummm...I didn't write that quote either! Go to bed Jimmie!
MG

lolol
that one i knew you didn't write but i should have put ( ) around the mg part or did dotted lines or something.
i was thinking a separate thing but then how would y'all know that? i'm lame, sorry.

[pamelainaustin]

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Jimmie,

You are doing a fine job. This is a really interesting and thought provoking challenge. I am glad I signed up.

Pam

[MorningGlory]

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• I guess sub-consciously I'm saying to myself that I'm not worth it. That it doesn't matter if I lie to myself. I rationalize with myself and promise myself I'll make up for it another day. But of course I never do.

Hey you...this is how I feel too...this really read true to me when I saw it. Of course you know and I know and everyone else knows that all of us are worth it, but that's something that each of us has to come to terms with one our own, isn't it? Sometimes it just takes a comment from someone to make you realize that you matter to people, and that you really, truly are worth it every bit of effort. Sometimes it's a result of an action taken....who knows what it'll be. But I do believe that you will realize it about yourself one day. Put it this way...you made me take notice and look at your pictures and read all your words, and just from that, I think you're a lovely person and I think you deserve to live a healthy life...but that's really, ultimately up to you! Give it a shot....what've you got to lose?

[MorningGlory]

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lolol
that one i knew you didn't write but i should have put ( ) around the mg part or did dotted lines or something.
i was thinking a separate thing but then how would y'all know that? i'm lame, sorry.

Lame? no.
Tired? I think so. See you in the morning!

[jimmie 48]

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thanks pam, i so promisie to get to your post in the morning.

to mg...
i promise i'm going to bed. watch my light go out, i'm getting off line.
you know why i'm still here, right? COMMITMENT!
night all.

[pamelainaustin]

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Pamela, you have no reason to apologise at all. Your story is very sad but also very inspiring. My mother died of cancer too, with all of us with her at the time, although sadly not at home as she really needed to be in a hospital.

I've had cancer and I know the terrible fear that comes with it, not least of which is the fear of a 'bad' death. Thankfully I have recovered now, but it would have been a huge comfort to me in the low and scary times to have known that if the worst had come to the worst, there would have been someone to take care of me with the love and attention with which you took care of your mother.

Kate,

Thanks for your kind words . Congratulations and a big WOO-HOO to you for being a cancer survivor and for your success with this WOE.

Pam