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Re: stupid husband!
Reminds me of a horror movie I once saw...
g....e.....t o.....u......t!!!!!!
Reminds me of a horror movie I once saw...
g....e.....t o.....u......t!!!!!!
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Re: stupid husband!
OMG ....well my answer is not legal so I will not tell you what I am thinking
however my heart goes out to you how could you have known?Comment
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Re: stupid husband!
t eOriginally posted by Perry
OMG you did not say that???Comment
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Re: stupid husband!
You quoted it so I must have! The guy had a lapse in judgement. I just don't like to see people just give up on each other so easily. Life is tough enough as it is and if they can work it out - great. I guess I'm in the minority here but that's OK. I just offered my opinion.OMG you did not say that???Comment
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a lapse in judgement is doing something impulsive and stupid and then fessing up... not telling someone you are about to marry that you have slow swimmers when you really had a vasectomy.....that is a surgical procedure you can hardly forget and during the courting process it should come up rather than by a friend after the marriage....but that is just mho...
people make mistakes all the time not a big deal this was kind of premeditated ....
enough said for me ...on this one...Comment
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I agree to a lot of things that are said here about not telling the truth and about the pain this has obviously been caused. What you can do is remember why you married him in the first place because that is part of your foundation of your relationship. Go back to that and if you can forgive him, then do so. You can go to a infertility doctor and they can get a hold of them slow swimmers and get you pregnant if you choose to have kids. Now is the time to work through this problem with him, if he is truely sorry. Trust is broken, but with time he can earn it back. The amazing thing about love is...it's ability to heal.
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insecure or NOT... kids.. and whether or not you want them... the possibility of.. is something you BOTH should have discussed at length before getting married.....
if he's not completely truthful about that fact... then what other surprises might he spring on you? I'd ditch the jerk now2-15-10 194.8 - highest ever!
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I'm in the "work it out if you can camp". It is unfortunate that he didn't have the guts to be straightforward with you. And it's even more unfortunate that you had to find out from someone else. As others have said, the procedure is reversible, however, imo, that doesn't make it okay for him not to have told you.
But only you can decide if you can work this out or not. If you can, then by all means, work it out. If you cannot, then do what you have to do.
I think it would be best if you take some time off for a while and get your head straight before making any decisions. Then you should talk to your husband and let him know how you feel about him, the marriage and the future.
Good luck to you. This must be a difficult time for you. So, take a bit of time off to clear your head and make the decision that is right for you.
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yeah.. I'm calmer now.. and I guess I'd try to work it out... but I honestly don't know....if you'd asked him POINT BLANK..... and the POINT BLANK LIED about the surgery...... I just don't know...
my first.... and gut reaction is telling me I'd cut my loses and move on..... although the RIGHT thing to do would probably be give him a chance..2-15-10 194.8 - highest ever!
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working it out is fine ..but only after a very very long discussion ...very long...perhaps loud?...I am all about making relationships work that is for sure ..I have been married for 27 years .and trust me they were not all perfect happyland years!!!...and yeah I agree work it out... but there has to be some kind of policy against this happening again ...come on this guy knew he was going into the relationship with a lie ...he is not being stomped he is the stomper...ok really now I am done ....honey good luck and yeah work it out if you love him but with this one the ball really is in your court you choose how to progress now!!!Comment
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Yeah, I agree. Life (and relationships) are tough enough as it is even WITHOUT lies....I can't imagine what it would be like WITH the lies.Originally posted by Perry
Good luck to you in making a decision.Comment
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I guess I'm being immature because I found that and Brook's earlier comment about "cajones" pretty funny in regard to this thread....Originally posted by nurselady
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He lied to his wife to be.
He was dishonest!
He is dishonest!
And why would he want a vasectomy if he had slow swimmers anyway?????Female, 58 years old
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Umm..maybe he didn't really have slow swimmers. I think the "slow swimmers" thing was a lie to cover up the snip snip.And why would he want a vasectomy if he had slow swimmers anyway?????Comment
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That's a pretty funny comment in you siggy there Aphex.Originally posted by AphexPhodeComment
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