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**MotherOfGizmo** · July 21, 2006, 12:07 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

Sorry you got your feelings hurt.

How tall are you? The reason I ask is that do you think maybe that you just take it that they mean your weight, because you're sensitive about it?

People can be so stupid and insensitive. Don't let them get you down! (((hugs)))

**boonie stomper** · July 21, 2006, 12:17 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

Remember that you've become good friends with this person. It really is possible that what was said was only meant to be insightful, based on some knowledge of types chairs and comfort in them as related to a person's height. That type of consideration is important in interior design. In your sensitivity, you may have taken the comment the wrong way. Even if not, and it was a slip, a friend would not have meant to hurt your feelings, and would be sorry. I'd let it go under the bridge, and look forward to being less sensitive and self -conscious as you loos more and more weight.

**Lisa M** · July 21, 2006, 01:24 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

(((super hugs))

Sorry that her comment got to you. That just stinks. Hinesight would to have told her, "Well, I just dropped 60 pounds...could you imagine how even more uncomfortable it would have been before?!"

But then again, if she's becoming a close friend, perhaps enlighten her about your awesome acheivement in your weight loss. She may be more thoughtful in her comments to the next person she has to "design" for.

**mwalsh95** · July 21, 2006, 01:38 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

I was at a baseball game when I walked out of the bathroom and two drunk guys yelled (loudly), "Hey look it's Rosie O'Donell".

I was devistated and on the verge of tears when I turned and laughed and yelled (loudly), " Hey, it's Bevis and Butthead".

A group passing buy started laughing at them. However, it still gets to me and I even want to cry now, but it motivates me to keep loosing. I'd love to get to my goal weight and walk by those guys then .

**speedygt03** · July 21, 2006, 01:55 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

Yeah - I cant type right. lol.

I meant that me and the designer were talking and another person heard my comment about the chair and then walked up and said that...not the designer.

Sorry about that!

And i want to let someone know about my weight loss but it just doesnt seem like the right atmosphere here to be telling everyone. maybe once im here for a while longer i will warm up to others. but i thought it was out of line for someone to make that comment - especially when im not even close with the person who said it.

It could be that im sensitive about my weight and always have therefore i think thats what it was about but i am tall - im almost 6ft. (last time i checked a few years ago was 5'10-11)

I just figured that with some of the weightloss i have encountered that those comments wouldnt bother me as much as before, but its still the same.

**Lisa M** · July 21, 2006, 01:59 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

Well, then that makes a good difference. Still, all the same, I would stick with the "heinsight" thought..lol..just me because I can be a smart-you know what when it comes to people being that way.

How about a before picture on your desk along with a new one? That's suttle, right?

You're doing great!

**hey_nelson** · July 21, 2006, 02:58 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

Hey hun, its Ignorance and lack of caring that causes things like this to happen. Who does it hurt? Us of course. But you know you have lost so much weight already. If that jerk has not been around to see your transformation so far, well, they are plain ignorant. But if they have watched you morph to who you are today, then it is the lack of caring.

You know you are a success !!! I know you are a success !! Now you keep up the great work you are doing and enjoy that new office chair when it gets in. I need you to look up to because you are a success. Yes, this WOE works and you know it.

PS... when the jerks begin their crap... send them my way. I have friends in very low places who only want a case of corona and a trip to TJ after the job.

lol

patty

**jonnydollar1** · July 21, 2006, 04:44 PM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

i dont think anyones out to get you down. They prolly really did mean your hight.

**sombersusie** · July 22, 2006, 04:47 AM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

hi speedy! We are about the same height. As it would happen I work with a bunch of height challenged people. Comments are made all the time about how tall I am. It could be the person was just talking about your height. And you're about 60lbs down from your highest weight of 280? Hey girlfriend I bet you're looking good!!

**slimndown** · July 22, 2006, 10:06 AM

Re: Why Does It Still Hurt?

That's what I was just thinking. You ARE very tall. I'm not nearly as tall and have received similar comments from people about my height in similar situations. Granted, I don't know this person very well, or her motives. If it was me who said it, I would be kicking myself into the weekend feeling bad that I may have said something to make you feel uncomfortable about your weight when I would have been trying to empathize with how tough it must be sometimes to be so tall and try to fit into items normally made for shorter people.