Are E-Condolences Appropriate

[Dash Riprock]

I am always checking the news papers of places where I used to live and naturally I check the obituaries. Often there are people that I knew from the past that have died and at the bottom of the obit is a place where you can sign the funeral guest book electronically but I don't know how I feel about doing it.

It seems so impersonal but it works and I do know that in the past I will buy a card but by the time I get around to buying a stamp, writing the note, etc, I feel that it is to late to send it and don't.

Just wondering if anyone else has had problems with the ethical/emotional side of this.

[Richt]

Re: Are E-Condolences Appropriate

I suppose its going to depend on the individual receiving it.

Sorry, but thats not much help is it.

[stephbob]

Re: Are E-Condolences Appropriate

As Rich said, it depends on the person receiving it. I wouldn't have a problem with it, because it's the thought that counts, and to me, someone has still made the effort to think about sending their condolences. Especially if you're living away from where they are.

[Miss Phode]

Re: Are E-Condolences Appropriate

I think this is one of those things where it might be better to send a real card. Someone might take it that you didn't want to go through the trouble if you send an e-card.

[Babs]

Re: Are E-Condolences Appropriate

I feel it's OK, especially if you don't know the address, can't get it, or it's been a long time, or if that's what you choose to do. I have emailed them to the news papers. For instance, I saw my Camp Fire Girls leader's husband passed on (I know, don't laugh, yes, I was a camp fire girl, lol) but I had not been in contact with her for about 30 years. I had left my email address, and I heard back from her. It meant the world to her that I had thought of her--she told me that. I received them when my nephew passed away as well, and I cherished them as much as a card. I also think it's OK to both mail and email. Personally, I would like to hear from friends in any form, and if that's what they chose to do, I'd say fine. I feel at that sad time, any comfort knowing someone is thinking of me is acceptable and wonderful, but that's me.