Kinda lost in life...

[Danny2007]

Im at this stage of my life where Im feeling pretty clueless. My social life is rather poor-form, for one reason only, I hate living at home with my parents. Ive contemplated moving out, been trying to persuade friends of mine to join me on this mission with no such luck. I really need to move, its something I need to do in order to begin my life properly. I dont wanna move somewhere local, im thinking London would be best for me which is about 2 hours away from home. The thing is though, I really do not know how to go about this. I dont have a job or an income to afford it. Im 18 years old with no life at all.. its driving me crazy.

Any advice would be appreciated.

P.s didnt know where to post this thread.

[Porcelain]

Re: Kinda lost in life...

Have you thought about college? You would have roommates there. I don't know how it is over there, can you get loans and grants to go to school?

[misplaced southerner]

Re: Kinda lost in life...

i have lots of young men in my life danny and they are all doing different things. my son is 20 and he is a second year student at SDSU. he does not LOVE college but he knows that it is what he needs to do to get to where he needs to be. there are lots of things he likes about it but it is hard work.....he does not have much TIME for a social life but he fits in a little fun where he can, is close with his roommates and is a dean's list student for all his hard work.

i have a stepson from a former marriage who is now 24. when he graduated HS he did not know what to do. his mom wanted him to go on a mission. he wanted to go to college but had no money to do so. he was just sort of drifting. i sat him down and told him that at the end of the day, HE has to live with is choices so HE has to make them. we discussed his options and lo and behold, he joined the air force!!! i am so proud of him. he has done great things, he went on to get his degree and is now a 2nd lieutenant. imagine that!

my new husband's son is 20...he is not a lover of school but he is really bright and creative. he gets along famously with people and is a whiz with computers. at one time he lived out here with us and was able to work with his dad but a GIRL dragged him back home and now he is working in retail and hates it . he is not sure what to do but he really wants to take some college classes in computers and graphic design.

i suggest that you go to your local community college and meet with a career counselor. they have lots of tests for you to take to see where your interests lie. after that you can decided what academic options are open for you. in the meantime......VOLUNTEER.....that is a GREAT way to meet people, make friends and MAKE A DIFFERENCE....volunteer at a senior home, at a hospital, at a recreation center, at a school!!! the world needs good volunteers and it opens the door to lots of things.....it is your life danny....MAKE IT HAPPEN! good luck my friend!

[julirama723]

Re: Kinda lost in life...

Danny, what is it you want to do? Do you have a passion for something, or a hobby that could turn into a rewarding career?

For me, college was the best time of my life. I really didn't enjoy HS, thought it was a waste of time, and college is where I really became myself. Sure, it's important for educational and career purposes, but the thing that college really does for a young person is gives them independence, a sense of responsibility, and puts them in new and exciting (and sometimes scary!) social situations. I tell my students that if they go to college solely to experience something new and meet people who are different than they are, then it is a worthwhile experience.

That being said, not everyone has to go to college. But it sounds like you're ready for a new chapter in life. I think a move would do you well, but will you be able to handle the move? Moving away from familiarity can be incredibly stressful. Do you know anyone in London? How would you be able to handle moving away from your family?

If this is something you want to do, begin to formulate a plan. Look in help wanted ads, start to price housing, figure out transportation options. Do research on the internet, make some phone calls. It never hurts to be informed! Talk with your family and discuss your plans/goals with them. Perhaps they can help you in this next chapter of your life!

[bambinaUK]

Re: Kinda lost in life...

Can I just advise you that London might not be the best to go. You could find yourself feeling more lonely in such a huge city. What sort of qualifications have you got?
Do you fancy working abroad?