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[JumpingEve]

ok this is bit of a vent..

this morning my 2yr old ate breakfast like normal. my mother knowing he just ate breakfast decided a big piece of chocolate cake was going to be fine to give him. i told her NO! he just ate and that piece is huge and too early for cake!..the other day i let him go with my mom to eat pizza and she called him a pig because SHE gave him 3 pieces of pizza! wth?? 3 pieces is too much for myself why give it to a freaking baby!!and sunday my neice said my mom allowed him to eat an ENTIRE box of empty calories aka crackers!!! im sorry if im starting to have food issues but my family is important and i want them to be healthy NOW, then get fat and have to struggle to loose.

i dont want my son to learn the rest of my familys horrible eating habits! my mom has diabetes and my sister went and got gastric bypass surgery.. neither of them learned how to eat and think they can give advice to what is healthy! while scarfing down french fries and never lifting a finger to loose weight..

[momtomany1]

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If you truly want my advice, adopt a no sweets policy with your kids and make it clear they don't get empty sugars. My sister was diagnosed with diabetes at 12 years old. When I had children, I was determined to not feed empty sugars to my children. No Koolaid, no sodas, no candy. I made cookies with fruit bits and oatmeal. I fed them salads and fruit early on. It will be easier when the child is 2 than when he is 5.

You are SO RIGHT to want better for your kids!

My kids all have great teeth except for the youngest who just has braces, no cavities.... seriously ..4 children, no cavities. And not a chubby one among them. No health issues besides light asthma.

[hrgillespie]

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First of all let me say I'm sorry this is such a frustrating issue for you. I know it's hard when others do not understand your WOE or seem to respect your wishes regarding your children. Perhaps a sit down with your mom explaining like you did with us why this is an imortant issue for you. It may not change her completely but it may help a little. I would also like to share this with you .....

I live both sides of this story. I have a 3 and a 4 year old and when they visit my mom she completely spoils them which normally includes overindulging them food wise and letting them eat way more sweets then I would ever allow .... Sometimes it really aggrevates me and other times I try and remember this .....

When I have my grandchildren over ( yes I have toddlers and grands) I just love indulging them ...... there is just some grandmommy pleasure you get over alllowing your grandbabies to eat things they normally are not allowed to. It's not to sabatoge or disrespect my daughters wishes in any way it's just this inate desire to give them goodies .... LOL

I also look back on my memories with my gramma and those days were filled with getting to stay up to late, eat things I couldn't at home and just basically be spoiled by gramma .....

Maybe none of this matters, but maybe it will help you to not get so aggrevated if you can imagine that the possibility exists that your mom is not trying to do something wrong shes just being a gramma and doing what comes naturally in spoiling and indulging your child .......

Anyways I hope this doesn't further frustrate you I just had to share