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Ok - so i am seriously thinking about something...I know I've asked about eloping on this board before - but my fiance really does not want to do that - he WANTS the big wedding with our family/friends, etc...so we'll figure out how to do that (financially) next June 26, 2010 as planned...
HOWEVER.
He has scoliosis and has had since birth. He has two steel rods in his back and has been having back issues because of the rods for almost a year now (they were put in in 1985).
He does not have insurance and we are having issues right now where he HAS to see some doctors. I have FABULOUS insurance but can not put him on my insurance until "open enrollment" in october and then he won't actually be insured until January 1st. That's 9 months. And if something AWEFUL were to happen between now and then I'd be devistated...
I won't go into details - cuz it's kinda gross - but he HAS to see a doctor. period. we've already been to the "emergancy care" and the ER and they've given him anti-biotics, but can't really do too much else...
anyways...I texted him this morning about this (he and I haven't had a chance yet to sit down and talk about it, he said, "i dunno" when i asked if he'd be ok with it)...
But I'm thinking we could get legally married this June (same date as the wedding, just "legal" a year early) so that we could immediately get him on my insurance and he'd have insurance NOW instead of in January...(plus, since we still wouldn't technically be married in january, the way my insurance works is, since we're not married, it'll cost more $$ til we are married)...
I've read a lot on wedding boards about people who've gotten legally married before the date for reasons such as this...but I'm wondering if there's anyone here (who i feel like i "know" lol) who's done this or known anyone who has.
My mother is all for the idea and knows our minister would be too. I figure, we'd go to one of our churches just north of Indianapolis where one of our old ministers officiates at and do it there on June 27th this year - just my parents, his and our best friends...and then NEXT June have the wedding/cermony & all that good stuff.
Just interested in your opinions (please be nice! lol)
HOWEVER.
He has scoliosis and has had since birth. He has two steel rods in his back and has been having back issues because of the rods for almost a year now (they were put in in 1985).
He does not have insurance and we are having issues right now where he HAS to see some doctors. I have FABULOUS insurance but can not put him on my insurance until "open enrollment" in october and then he won't actually be insured until January 1st. That's 9 months. And if something AWEFUL were to happen between now and then I'd be devistated...
I won't go into details - cuz it's kinda gross - but he HAS to see a doctor. period. we've already been to the "emergancy care" and the ER and they've given him anti-biotics, but can't really do too much else...
anyways...I texted him this morning about this (he and I haven't had a chance yet to sit down and talk about it, he said, "i dunno" when i asked if he'd be ok with it)...
But I'm thinking we could get legally married this June (same date as the wedding, just "legal" a year early) so that we could immediately get him on my insurance and he'd have insurance NOW instead of in January...(plus, since we still wouldn't technically be married in january, the way my insurance works is, since we're not married, it'll cost more $$ til we are married)...
I've read a lot on wedding boards about people who've gotten legally married before the date for reasons such as this...but I'm wondering if there's anyone here (who i feel like i "know" lol) who's done this or known anyone who has.
My mother is all for the idea and knows our minister would be too. I figure, we'd go to one of our churches just north of Indianapolis where one of our old ministers officiates at and do it there on June 27th this year - just my parents, his and our best friends...and then NEXT June have the wedding/cermony & all that good stuff.
Just interested in your opinions (please be nice! lol)
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...Was in HEAVEN -got to 150, for awhile, then got too busy, and gave in too much... and... OK holding pattern "keep it together..." 
) However, He'll be here to give me away at the wedding next year! (obviously! lol)
if she'd have found out and I didn't tell her...
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