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I started online dating again since I'm losing weight and looking better. If a girl messages me more than 3 times on the site, I get her phone number about 80% of the time. Then comes the weird part ...
My ability to build sexual tension on the phone is unparalleled. I can make women laugh, giggle, talk for hours about anything. They all say they've never spoken to anyone like me, then will text msg my phone 4x a day and frequently call back. When I tell them all about me, they'll claim that's the perfect man they're looking for, etc. Trying to hang up from a conversation is challenging, and I normally get a text msg saying how much they enjoyed talking to me about 30 seconds after I do.
My first date turnaround from the phone is 100%. I could say "meet me at Walmart at 2am for our date", and they'd probably still come. I've had some literally cancel all their plans for the day so I'd have their full attention for it. They show up decked out in very attractive outfits, and always early. I've had ZERO first date cancellations, ever.
NOW ...
Nobody feels a romantic connection with me on a date. I need serious help. I've not yet ever gotten a second date. My social skills in person are amazing, in fact at work everybody knows me by name, they all get excited to see me, and their face lights up when I come around. During my anniversary party at work, most times which maybe 10 people will show up for ... I had over 50 at mine. When going out to happy hour from work, women there buy me drinks.
Now I work at home, with nobody around - so online dating is one of my few options.
My first dates are FUN. Last night I had dinner with this girl, then we wandered the mall, and ended up playing catch across one store with a soccer ball. Laughing at old school Nintendo games, hit the pet store talking about casual stuff, some deep conversation continuation from the phone. Then I reach for her hand, and I get the cold, clammy dead-fish hand.
Zero interest.
Epic fail.
This morning I text her about giving me mixed signals last night, she replies "Like hanging with you, but no romantic interest". The same girl that I told "call me between 6 and 7", she calls 1 second after 6pm excited to talk.
So now I have yet another friend to add to my list of 45,000 women friends. And still no girlfriend.
What am I doing wrong? Just bad luck? I realize attraction isn't a choice, but I'm confused. They SEE my personality on the phone, they SEE several pics of me on the site. They KNOW who I am, and what they're getting long before we meet. Their attraction on the phone is completely out of control then I got nothing in person, even though it's the same ME.
How do I fix this?
My ability to build sexual tension on the phone is unparalleled. I can make women laugh, giggle, talk for hours about anything. They all say they've never spoken to anyone like me, then will text msg my phone 4x a day and frequently call back. When I tell them all about me, they'll claim that's the perfect man they're looking for, etc. Trying to hang up from a conversation is challenging, and I normally get a text msg saying how much they enjoyed talking to me about 30 seconds after I do.
My first date turnaround from the phone is 100%. I could say "meet me at Walmart at 2am for our date", and they'd probably still come. I've had some literally cancel all their plans for the day so I'd have their full attention for it. They show up decked out in very attractive outfits, and always early. I've had ZERO first date cancellations, ever.
NOW ...
Nobody feels a romantic connection with me on a date. I need serious help. I've not yet ever gotten a second date. My social skills in person are amazing, in fact at work everybody knows me by name, they all get excited to see me, and their face lights up when I come around. During my anniversary party at work, most times which maybe 10 people will show up for ... I had over 50 at mine. When going out to happy hour from work, women there buy me drinks.
Now I work at home, with nobody around - so online dating is one of my few options.
My first dates are FUN. Last night I had dinner with this girl, then we wandered the mall, and ended up playing catch across one store with a soccer ball. Laughing at old school Nintendo games, hit the pet store talking about casual stuff, some deep conversation continuation from the phone. Then I reach for her hand, and I get the cold, clammy dead-fish hand.
Zero interest.
Epic fail.
This morning I text her about giving me mixed signals last night, she replies "Like hanging with you, but no romantic interest". The same girl that I told "call me between 6 and 7", she calls 1 second after 6pm excited to talk.
So now I have yet another friend to add to my list of 45,000 women friends. And still no girlfriend.
What am I doing wrong? Just bad luck? I realize attraction isn't a choice, but I'm confused. They SEE my personality on the phone, they SEE several pics of me on the site. They KNOW who I am, and what they're getting long before we meet. Their attraction on the phone is completely out of control then I got nothing in person, even though it's the same ME.
How do I fix this?
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