Am I a bad wife because I ......

[toast-n-jam]

Am I a bad wife because I don't want my husband to do atkins with me yet? It would be easier if i only had to cook one meal but he has gained a grand total of 8 lbs since we were married 23 years ago. He is also one of those men that will look better and better with age. He work outside so he still has a very nice body to begin with. He eats alot of ice cream every night and sweet tea all day long.

I just don't want him getting even better looking while I'm still feeling like his older sister.

When we go out to a bar or something with our 19 year old daughter, people look at him like he is with HER! I could be standing right next to them and they don't even acknowledge me. This has happened so many times my daughter had shirts made that say "Gross! You pervert, he's my dad!"

I just need to vent.

[liv]

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Well you are a lucky one.
And now you will do Atkins, get healthy and catch up with him. That will be the best solution.
We have different metabolisms and some of us can deal with sugars better than others. So for those of us where sugar is an issue we need to limit carbs. There are people out there where eating sugars will not make them store tons of fat. That is just how it is.

[sham]

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Help him cut down on sugar let him have sugar free ice cream and use sweetener in his tea.Be confident in yourself,dont think low of yourself and remember his with you and your the one that he loves so enjoy him!

[mirna05]

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With Atkins you will look younger than him, people will think you are your daughter sister.

Give it sometime, don`t worry now, just watch him to eat healthier, because if he keeps with that amount of sugar, you are not going to have a husband at all.

[Dryunderwater]

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TNJ!!!

The nerve of him to be skinny AND good looking!!!! lololololololololololol!!!!

You and your whole family are too funny, ya'll make me smile...... I love the t-shirt idea because I am CERTAIN that is ultra gross for her. Sounds like you got a real hot husband...now you are gonna be the hot wife standing next to him...I can feel the heat already....Stay strong Jam....you are gonna make it...

Best Wishes!

[toast-n-jam]

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Yes, it is ultra gross for her. I know I should be worried about his health but he h as no health issues! He looks great! He will look better! Never had a cavity! Etc. Etc. Despite some of his bad food choices he's as healthy as can be. He wants to loose a few vanity pounds.....selfishly I don't want him to loose them until I look/feel better about myself. If he was unhealthy I wouldn't give it a second thought....however, grrrrrrrr. But you gotta love him anyway. Here's to hoping to look better at his side in the future.

[LateNiteDiner]

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He looks great! He will look better! Never had a cavity!

If you can make as smart a decision about your menu as you can about your man, you will be looking just as youthful and attractive as him in no time!

Selfishly I don't want him to lose them until I look/feel better about myself.

I say, throw the selfishness out the window with the sweet treats! Get rid of the bad attitude as part of this "new you" you are going to find. Your husband surely loves you just as you are, but imagine how that love will take shape in a few weeks when you are a bit healthier in both body and mind. Being selfish can be just as ugly as being overweight. Work on overcoming both and be a whole new kind of beautiful.

[2BME]

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Only you know your own heart. If my husband actually wanted to do this with me, I would welcome the support and camaraderie. How are things going for you now? I hope you are finding success.

[Mickkey]

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Yes, it is ultra gross for her. I know I should be worried about his health but he h as no health issues! He looks great! He will look better! Never had a cavity! Etc. Etc. Despite some of his bad food choices he's as healthy as can be. He wants to loose a few vanity pounds.....selfishly I don't want him to loose them until I look/feel better about myself. If he was unhealthy I wouldn't give it a second thought....however, grrrrrrrr. But you gotta love him anyway. Here's to hoping to look better at his side in the future.

Of course you love him, I understand that. Obviously, he doesn't need to lose any weight for his health's sake at the present time. But, you do, and it's a self-esteem issue for you. I say lose weight until you feel confident enough to begin sharing what you've learned to help him lose his "vanity" pounds. When you fell comfortable, help him. Until then ask him to let you "catch up" with him first. He should understand your desire to do so. I don't think that's selfish in the least.

How are things going thus far?