Do you think you get treated differently when obese?

[chubbychick]

i think it's a blessing for each of us to feel some of this a bit in our lives, so that we may take this and remember it, and know that we should treat everyone else as we would like to be treated, no matter their wealth, looks, status, or anything.

[Becky Sue]

Yes, if everyone would live by the golden rule. Do unto others like you would like for them to do unto you. We would be so much better off. But everyone is guilty of not doing this at some time of their life.

I know that when I was 288, I was so ashamed of myself that I thought everyone was looking at me and judging me. Whether they were on not, who knows???

I know now that I have lost 92 pounds that I notice people that are as big as I was I just want to cry. I just wish I could tell them what I now know and that they would instantly understand and succeed at losing weight. But reality is.... it don't work that way.

We worry what people think of us, but in reality those people seldom think of us.

Becky Sue

[loonatika]

I experienced this exact thing the other day - went into a top market jeans shop. Previously I'd just be able to browse around hoping like heck a pair of jeans in there would be in my size (eighteen), if there was an assistant, I'd usually just get a hello. This time I had an assistant at my side within seconds, telling me I could try on anything I wanted and if I needed help to let her know. Felt like asking where she was ten dress sizes ago

[Chamie]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!

In many different ways, too!

A couple of years ago Victorias Secret came to our mall- And I was curious, so I decided to go take a look. Immediately upon entering the store I was approached by a size -2 tenny bopper who said to me: Hi, can I help you, are you looking to buy something for your sister, cousin, friend? :censor :mad2
What an ignorant b!t@%!!
I have DD-DD cup size, even when "skinny" so NO, I wasn't looking for myself, but why didn't she just call me FAT?

Jennifer


I hope she has a weight issue now so that she may have a taste of her own medicine.

[maribelle]

You know...I'm really moved by how positive this forum can be. When I first started reading this thread, I thought, "Yes, I get treated that way all the time!" But after reading on...especially after reading Papa Jack's entry (bows head respectfully) I realized alot of it is my own insecurity. Every person out there is a human being with their own feelings, thoughts, life...at a particular moment when I'm choosing to feel sensitive may be a time when the other person may be dealing with an incredibly challenging thing in their own life and not even thinking of me. I do think there are ignorant people out there who make comments and give looks (like a certain young man I know who works at Holywood Video in Topeka) but in general...maybe it is just that they are shy, or having a rough day....or maybe just so inamored of my presence that their mind was just overcome...MOOO HAAA HAAAA!!! :speechle: Anyway, I'm going to try to
give people the benefit of the doubt from now on, and just kill them with kindness. There's my two bits.

[mirancs8]

Completely agree!

I have to say absolutely YES! I am very much treated differently when I walk into a store. That is what is really hard for me seeing the reactions of those who I run into outside of my home. 7 years ago when I was 100 pounds thinner everyone flocked to me, sales people, ordinary people, coworkers, etc. IT was was a high to get all that attention. I wonder if it's because they know there isn't much that can fit you and they must make the bulk of their money from thin people because I'm sure they spend the most on looking good because they feel confident in their own body.

I can't wait to get that attention again. Another thing I notice a lot is when entering a building no one ever holds the door when your right behind them. ESPECIALLY MEN! It's sad to say but beauty is power. When I was thin I could make things happen but now no nothing happens.

Great topic! ensive

[Hafsa226]

Hi, carb-challenged Hafsa here. I have to say yes, fat people are treated differently whether it's coming from within us and being reacted to by those outside of us, or whether it's just bungholes who don't know how to act. Really, it doesn't make a difference to me what the origin is.

I have been fat since childhood, and I grew up in L.A., a VERY image-conscious place. I have been spit on, beat up, had things thrown at me, sreamed at from passing cars and just generally mistreated at almost every business establishment I went.

However, this caused two things to happen within me. First, I made a decision not to treat people in a way that would make them feel the way I was made to feel. Second, I became stronger and now I don't give a good God d**n what people say.

Also, I got the heck out of L.A. That was a big positive developement, let me tell you. :icondance

[BadToTheBone]

I Have always been a very outgoing and confident person... I think for that reason I have always been treated with respect... There have been times when a young group might snicker when I have gone to a restaurant... BUT... I always chalked that up to ignorant youth... I tend to agree with PappaJack too... We ALL have our own prejudices...

Alicia

[TryingToStayHappy]

I have to disagree.

I think if you look your best and carry yourself with pride and are smiley and friendly people do fine with you.

I've only been treated rudely a few times, and it does happen to everyone.

At cafe's and restuarnats and stores I try to smile at everyone and wish them a happy day and I'm generally treated nicely in return.

Attitude is everything, sometimes, I think.

:hug
:joy

[MotherNature]

TryingToStayHappy......You have the right attitude. As I have said many times, most of the paranoia of thinking everyone is looking at you or watching what you eat or thinking you are hugely fat is all a product of our imaginations and mostly manufactured by our own minds. Most people couldn't care less what we look like or eat or do. I just wanted to say that you have the most beautiful smile...like a ray of sunshine. If you turned that warmth on anyone how could they not react positively!

Cathy

[Hafsa226]

I would agree--normally, it is probably mental. BUT.....when I was walking down the street and had insults and empty beer cans thrown at me, I can NOT imagine how my mental state/self-consiousness had anything to do with it.

FAT B**CH is not normally in my vocabulary......

[siscaboo1512]

i think that it has to do with how a person carries themselves i know that when i did weigh 120 ibs i was insecure and sisn't get a lot of attention. i still don't but that is because of my self-esteem. i have always had a problem with that i am not very outgoing and i am quiet so people tend to not notice me alot. but society does tend to make fun of and think that obese people are nobody's (i can't think of a better way to say that right now). just my 2 cents.