List of reasons why we want to lose weight

[Sarah1341]

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Boy, we are going to be some hotties when this is all said and done!

[womanpraised]

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I have to agree with all posted.. but my secret ones, that I dont admit to ANYONE, are these...

1. My ex-husband told me he dated a woman (we werent divorced) who was "five-nine, a buck twentyfive, and the sex was amazing", and that, during all those years of marriage, as I was having kids and gaining weight and he was making fun of and saying how UNATTRACTIVE those skinny women were, here I brought you chocolate, lets go out for ice cream, lets skip the gym and watch the game.. he was seeing skinny women on the side, and said, YES, it was a problem for him all that time. PUKE.

2. My younger sister was always much skinnier than I, and made my life ****. We are now the same size, and while she claims to be happy (how you can be happy in a size 22 body and cant get off the floor I dont know) ***I*** want to be healthier than her. That is awful, I know. Growing up, she was described as "the pretty one", I was "the smart one", or "responsible" or "great help". IIIIIIIII want to be the pretty one for a while. Then I will help her. :P

3. My boys. I feel guilty about being so fat for them. THey have their dads' build and metabolism. fortunately, but I cry when I think about wanting to be the soccer mom RUNNING up and down the field, taking them hiking and such. I dont want them to be the kids with "the fat mom", and I want them to be healthy, not just thin.

SO, along with wanting to be gorgeous, and look good in my clothes, those are my dire secrets. Dont tell anyone, ok?

[womanpraised]

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WOW... I am grumpy today. Just read that, and heard how ugly it sounds. Please forgive my gracelessness. Thanks.

[Terry]

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Your secrets safe with me.

Look at it as very good ammunition for when you are feeling down and want to throw in the towel!

One day we will show em all in our skinny butts and great clothes!

<hug> for a bad day?

[texwife&mom]

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#1 --Be a better wife and mommie--Someone on the board has a tag line that says they are allergic to carbs, it makes them break out in fat. They make me break out in depression.

#2 --Be able to go out in public with out having a panic attack, and wear something besides my husbands long sleeved button down shirt to mask my fat.

I am have already accomplished #1 I am so much happier than before this WOE and that makes me a better wife and mommie. Not to mention the confidence I feel now has oddly enough helped me with getting my children more "under control" they respect me more, because I am respecting myself more.

And this weekend I was able to not only go out to an estabishment where beautiful women walk around scantily clad, but I wore size 9 skin tight jeans with pride and no sign of the nervous sweat I used to sport when going anywhere other than the mailbox.

AWESOME!

[DebbietheHugBug]

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Ditto what everyone said (except having more babies part)


My other reasons:

I don't want to be on 5,000 different prescriptions like my Mother is.

Diabetes runs in my family and I DON'T WANT IT!!

I don't want to complain about my aches and pains. I want to be active and vital in my elderly years.

I want my girls to look at me and say "Mom, when I get your age, I want to look just like you!"

[Sarah1341]

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Just wanted to send some hugs out to everyone

I know some of those were probably hard to type and admit. But, that is the first step for us. Acknowledge the the true reasons we need and want to do this.

[divaindubai]

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I want to lose weight for a variety of reasons:

1) to be healthier

2) to look better (to look my best always)

3) to fit into smaller sized clothing, so there is more of a variety, and the clothes will look much better on me

4) have more energy.

[ladyhairg]

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I want to lose weight because:

1. I don't want to be an embarrasment to my children.
2. I don't want to end up like my Aunt
3. I'm tired of the looks of disgust and pity that people don't think I see
4. I want my life to be about more than my weight! I want people who see me to remember me for my sense of humor, my skills as a hairdresser, my smile -- not the size of my butt!
5. I want, just once, to be whistled at while walking down the street.

And last but not least:

I want those diet patch people to stop approaching me and telling me that I would really benefit from listening to their sales pitch! I swear, if one more client shows me her diet patch and tells me that she's been "thinking of me", I won't be responsible for my actions!

[ladyhairg]

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Umm, I just read my own reply up above and I think I'm having a bit of a breakthrough as to why I'm not doing so well. I just noticed that every single one of my reasons for weight loss had something to do with someone else's opinion of me.

I wonder how I'd do if I tried to lose weight for ME.

[Terry]

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I think we are all trying to lose weight for ourselves but there are certain outside stresses that are more apparant like those you listed.

Use it as motivation!! Whatever it takes. <hug>

[elfish99]

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1. Don't want to the "fat friend" or the fat member of the family

2. I want to stop avoiding taking my kids to swim because i don't want to wear a swimsuit

3. No pain

4. More Energy

[Kathi22]

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TexWife-

You should be very proud to be a size 9. If I were a 9 I would never wear my DH button down shirts to hide anything. Be proud of who you are! I can't wait to be a 10. We are both the same height, and a 9/10 on us looks very good. You go!!!!

[Bill]

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I'm seeing a lot of reasons I hadn't initially thought of but have certainly have been problems for me too! Great reenforcement here

[aboyandhisangel]

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I actually came up with 50 reasons why and typed them up and have been reviewing them as I've continued on the diet. I deleted those that were a little more personal and a few that I have acheived... but here is the rest of the document.

50 Reasons to Want to Lose Weight

Everyone has their own reasons for wanting to lose weight. Thank God, I am not yet at a stage where my weight has severely affected my health, but that is indeed a consideration. However, I have many "lil dreams" about how life will be when I am thin- doing all the things I want to do now but can't. And all the things I hate so much in being fat-- and I hope never to have again... but I want to remember. This is the list of those things.

I want to look at myself in the mirror and be happy.

I want to dress and look pretty~ to be able to wear tight outfits, to shop without problems, to wear cool and fashionable clothes.

If I want to have another child and I can’t with my health this way and being able to continue to be with the children I have… but being an active mom not just a couch mom.

I want to learn to swim. As a child, I never learned how to swim properly and now I don’t even like to be seen in a swimsuit much less try to get over a fear of water while all the time my fears are amplified because I am worried about people making fun of me because of how huge I am..

I want to go the beach and not feel like I have to stay covered up. I want to go there and have fun and play and splash and get some sun.

I want to be normal- not have my life revolve around food and eating all the time.

I want to stop feeling as if everyone is looking at me and making fun of my weight and of the way I look.

I want to be able to meet old friends/family without reading the look in their eyes which says, My God, she keeps getting fatter and fatter !... If possible, I even wanna make them jealous, surprise them how pretty I am and how gorgeous do me and my boyfriend look together !

I want to go to exercise classes, dressed in a cute sports' outfit and sweat like mad and just love every minute of it !

Not want to cry every time I look in my closet

No more searching for hours till I find one outfit which both fits me and doesn't look like a circus tent.

No more feeling embarrassed looking at shoes and finding I have to get a larger size than my foot length just because my feet are fat.

No more feeling everyone's staring at me when I eat, when I buy something, anything or are laughing at me behind my back

No more, or at least considerably less sweating- not because it’s hot but because I’m fat.

No more clothes that I've outgrown in months, no more pants that I have to throw away because the thigh area is all worn out and torn.

No more, or considerably less, back pains and headaches.

No more chaffing.

No more squeezing into bathroom stalls, no more tiny fitting room in stores.

No more tight bus, theater or garden chairs.

No more disgusting myself when I over-eat.

No more feeling everybody is staring at the fat girl eating herself to death. Even if no-one was looking.

Being able to spend time at home without snacking every half-an-hour.

Entering Taco Bell and not recognizing the clerks.

Climbing up flights of stairs and not having to rest for 10 minutes before I catch my breath.

Not being tired after too-large meals, so I need a nap in the middle of the day.

Not waking up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.

Lower blood pressure, so I don't get black spots in front of my eyes if I get up too fast or dizzy

Not being ashamed to work out in the gym, knowing people are not staring at me.

Fashionable hair-do's, not just designed to make my face seem less fat.

Ditto on glasses.

Dresses and skirts which actually look good..

Jewelry that can be bought without checking the necklace size or the ring size. Or like receiving a necklace and being petrified to try it on because of thinking it won’t be long enough for my fat neck.

Not feeling everyone is thinking about me when the subject of diets, obesity or fat people is brought up.

Not getting jealousy thoughts when seeing my young sister looking pretty and thin.

More self esteem, both professionally and personally.

Feeling secure enough in my body to buy daring colors, designs and accessories. Although I may need help in picking them out.

High heels, and being able to walk in them for hours before my feet start burning to death.

And up-to-the-knee-high leather boots, with a short school-girl skirt.

Being able to perform a striptease and not feel stupid.

Not paying so much for large-size clothes.

Friends/Family can actually buy presents for me which aren't books- i.e. clothes, lingerie, jewelry

5-7-9, Body Shop, The Gap, Bebe – any of those stores of which I could never buy at before.



Going to a restaurant and worrying about seating because you don’t wanna squish anyone.



Being able to drive my convertible and think… everyone is going to think I’m hot… instead of… Look at that fat girl trying to drive a convertible… she must think that’ll help.

Not having a waiter or waitress automatically assume I’m having a diet coke or salad. Or telling me I should be.

Being able to love myself because I’m comfortable in my body