Sweets- to do or not too do

[Finelly]

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KB - write some more about what happened. Where were you, what were you doing, who was there, when did the temptation kick in and become uncontrollable.

I think that if we can piece it all together, we can help you develop a plan to make it not happen in the future.

[kbuchs]

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Well, when I got to my sister's house, we went grocery shopping and I bought stuff for me and she bought stuff for her and her husband. She got those potato chips that come in a circular tin (I can't remember the name right now but I love them)! I had them when we were waiting for dinner to finish cooking and I was hungry. Before that I ate some cheese and pepperoni but the cravings for those damn chips screamed at me. And I guess I thought what the ****, I'm going to cave in anyway during this trip. Then the next day after my whole family went out to dinner and my father loves Italian so I was hoping they'd have a salad bar or something but they didn't. But then I found salmon with veges covered with spinach cream so I ordered that. It turned out the veges were real minimal, the salmon was great but I was still hungry so I ate the spaghetti that came with the meal which I didn't know about till the waitress put it in front of me. So of course I ate that spaghetti and then most in my family have a sweet tooth and they ordered two desserts to be shared by us all. So, I with one of the biggest sweet tooths, ate more than my share of the slices of cake. Lastly, my father makes his own jelly and takes great pride in making the family a brunch . So, the day after the Italian restaurant we had brunch. I stuck to the omlette and passed the french toast and pancakes but had to have some of that black rasberry jelly on two slices of toast. And then the next day after I traveled back home, I was stressed and depressed about well to put it in short terms, my lot in life thus far. So, when I got to my grandparents I had several oreo's and because I knew today I'd start fresh again, yesterday I finished my cheating trip with a piece of pound cake. So, that is what happened I know like alot of people I have those voices in my head saying you'll never do this, you can't do this and I try to tell them they are wrong but I get myself into awful cravings or situations that I create and the voices win. So, that is the embarrassing tale of my trip.

[Sarah1341]

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Just pick yourself up and move past it. It happened and now its done. You will do fine. Just have faith in yourself in knowing that you can do whatever you like

[Starmaker]

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Each time we cheat, kick ourselves, and have to struggle to get back to fat burning, we waste time and let ourselves down....but be rest assured, with each effort to gain control, it DOES get easier, a wee bit at a time. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

[Kathi22]

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Iapetus - As much as I agree with you, kbuchs is not rewarding herself with food. She is asking for advice on how to handle the family sit down time to dessert. Our society has used food for richness, comfort, bonding, conversation, celebration, etc. It has always been this way - look at the feasts that took place during the renaissance. You yourself have special occasions around food - it is just how we are.

Kbuchs - I used to have a tough time with family because they are all eaters! I got to the point that I wanted to be thin so bad that food no longer mattered. I just want the clothes and the body to make people look and think I am hot LOL. Everytime I am tempted by sweets or carby foods, I think how better off I will be walking lighter in my body. This is more satisfying!

Try some pork rinds and cream cheese - it will spark some conversation about your WOE and will most likely have some family members back off their dessert by admiring your strength!

[Kathi22]

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OOPS< didn't see this entore other page of posts LOL

KBuchs: I know how you feel. We have all been there. You need to ask yourself what you want out of this WOE and then make what you want your ultimate goal. Come back to us - NOW is never too late.

[womanpraised]

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And I guess I thought what the ****, I'm going to cave in anyway during this trip.

Think I have to agree with Finelly, to be successful, we have to find ways to make this a WOE and not just a "diet".

I get this thought, and I can guarantee, everytime I cave to that, I fall prey to the all or nothing thinking... I failed a little, so I may as well scrap the whole thing and start again on.....

EVERYBODY has an eating plan... good bad or ugly, each person that eats, eats in a certain way. And everybody EVERYBODY has situations where they know they are going to splurge. Perhaps this is best addressed by, I know this is a special situation, adn I am going to want to have XXX with so and so, or go to such a place and have this... Control it, call it a splurge, or a break, NOT A FAILURE, then there is no place for the I am going to blow it anyways, so I may as well blow big thinking. Next time, maybe say, I know my dad makes brunch and jelly, so it is okay to have his jelly on one peice of toast, or, I can have half a dessert when the family goes out to dinner.. or even, I am ALLOWED to spend more and ask for another salad if my dinner isnt big enough, and really watch your carbs the rest of the day... This is real life, and it is unrealistic to expect that any one person is NEVER EVER going to have a peice of birthday cake again. The Eades address this beautifully in Protein Power.. a good supplement with Atkins.

You didnt FAIL.. you are here, clean and back on track. You took a side trip. perhaps people scrap this WOE, because they dont give themselves the OCCASIONAL permission to err. Agreeing with Iap, though, not every day, or every special occasion should be marked with food...but once in a while is life.

Good job for teh courage to admit that you ate off plan, recognizing the weak areas, getting back up and moving on. Proud of you.

[kbuchs]

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Thank you everyone for your encouragement! I had a clean day yesterday- even passed the eclairs my grandmother bought!

And you're right womanpraised- it sounds like we have similar thinking patterns and in order to make this WOE work for me I will have to allow myself "splurges" at special occassions. This may give ME back control during these situations. And I know I need to get out of that all or nothing thinking mode- I just think well I'm out of ketosis anyway etc. I will definately look into that book you mentioned.

Finelly- thanks for asking me to post what happened- it made me think about the pattern of the weekend. And with the encouragement and knowledge you all offer I know I will gain better control.

Thank you!