If You Are Struggling Please Read This

[Amsexy]

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Hi people,
I passed day 14 today, and I got wobbly and slipped up, but I just made a u turn and got right back on the road to a carb free lifestyle immediately afterwards. It's no big deal. of course you don't do that all the time becuse it is inhibitting to get to our goals, but it's totally okay to just stop and double back. I doubled back. It wasn't easy but I gave myself the credit for that, and disregarded the slip up because I deserve to be loved through this thing, and it's okay. So I encourage anyone feeling like thay can't to remember they CAN or you wouldn't be here at all in the first place. Take care!

[Mirya]

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YOU ARE WORTH IT
YOU CAN DO THIS
YOU WILL LOSE THIS WEIGHT
YOU WILL SUCCEED
YOU WILL BECOME A HEALTHY PERSON
YOU WILL FEEL GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF
YOUR FAMILY AND CHILDREN WILL BE SO PROUD OF YOU
MOST IMPORTANTLY, YOU WILL FEEL PROUD OF YOURSELF!!!!

Maybe it is just because is it TOM or because I really feel none of these things but I just read this and started crying. The part that actually made me do so were the last 2 lines. I am not really sure why it did. i do know though that this REALLY makes a big difference in how I feel about sticking to it. If you do not mind I would like to add this to my signature so I am reminded of it every day.

[Amsexy]

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Sometimes I forget my reasons why because I live alone without any kids or a husband, so it's most important I think for me to remember that I alon am worth it which isn't easy without people around to remind you but I do my best to remind myself as much as I can.

[Daymon]

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Thank you and just what i needed to read this morning.

[stu mac]

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Fantastic. Lot of good advice .
Been back a little while reading some posts ,with a view to starting again .
After reading your story and tips it has galvanised me to get my "finger out" and get cracking .
So this Monday is A day , thanks for this .
Regards Stu

[Brandee]

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Thank you so much for posting this... you have no idea how much you have helped me with my indecision over whether to give up or dedicate myself to this journey. I heard a quote this past weekend, it said "You have the exact life that you WANT to have". Reading your post just reaffirmed that quote. I will no longer look at numbers or set a date for my goals. I am dedicating myself, from this day on, to be a healthier me. I could use some of that support you're passing out!

[JulieB]

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Wow - thanks! I really needed that today!

[Alaskansonya]

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I really needed to read this! Thanks so much! It is exactly the way I felt about 3 days ago when I re-re-re-restarted Atkins! But your words just bolstered it and made it even stronger! I WILL REACH GOAL BECAUSE I AM WORTH EVERY BIT OF THAT EFFORT!

Brandee, That quote is a real eye opener! Thanks for that one too!

[buddysgirl50]

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Oh boy did i need to read this. I have been off and on Atkins so many times over the last couple of years and I am still a cheater. Oh i have the book and I have read it from front to back a few times but surly I could have one cheat day right..Well guess what that thought brought me...a month of cheat days. I kept getting tired of eggs, and I can't afford to buy steaks etc for my lunch and supper. Well all these excuses led to me putting back on some of the weight i lost.Not a lot but enough to get me thinking that this is my own sabbotage.
After reading this thread I am glad to see I am not alone in all these mistakes.I am a type 2 diabetic with a heart disease called hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy. A long name that is just as nasty as it sounds. I have used these as excuses long enough though.
I am setting my goal as this thread said to do..little increments at a time. Not a date to be found near them..just goals.
Thank you for sharing your story here so that people like me will have the help and inspiration we need..
Hilda

[johnny13]

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I've been married for almost 20 years. I've always battled my weight problems, successfully and unsuccessfully. I'm 5'7" tall. When we married I was probably 175 lbs. and am now approximately 100 lbs. overweight. I'm currently seeing a physician and losing weight and exercising regularly. However, I've seen this page before. I've lost weight, only to put it and then some back on.
My weight issue is very, very troubling for my husband. He's told me for years and years that he's embarrassed and ashamed of me. He's told me that my legs and my belly and my big butt just mortify him. Not to mention that our sex life is non-existent. I guess that for many, many years I sort of considered myself fortunate to have a husband considering my physical appearance, sad to say. I might also mention in passing that I have a thyroid condition that is treated with medication. Thyroid conditions can make it harder to lose weight among other problems.
I think however, that in the past few years I've also sort of come to a point in my life and with myself that I want more than anything to lose weight and sustain the weight loss, but that also, I really don't define myself by my appearance. I am a mother and a good one, a wife and a good one. I help my husband w/our business. I have many other good qualities about myself that I take pride in.
This issue of my being overweight permeates every area of our marriage. My husband says that since he's ashamed and embarrassed of me that he doesn't relish the thought of days at the lake or waterfront because of my appearance in a bathing suit. He recoils at that thought. He states that it interferes in every area, because he doesn't have a wife he can be proud of. He states that he does love me for who I am and all that I am and do, but that this weight issue just is so troubling for him. He states that he'd like to leave this marriage. But that when he weighs out the scale of whether he be better off here with his wife and children or elsewhere, he figures that he'd be better off staying here and just coping the best he can with all the embarrassment of having an obese spouse. I have Placed his name as a bad husband in The rat book.com And i am going all out for the Atkins Diet.

[DebOnAtkins]

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Johnny,

Wow it is hard to know what to say in a situation like this. Your husband's attitude certainly isn't helpful to you and I think is emotional abuse. I got angry at my husband a couple of days ago when he brought out a couple of pictures of me in a bathing suit from our storage room. They were taken about 7 years ago. I was much thinner, probably about 30 lbs. I know it was his roundabout way of telling me that I weigh too much right now and I need to lose weight. I already know this and it doesn't help when other people are beating you down. It creates a vicious cycle, at least it does in my case. I get depressed about my weight and then turn to food to get rid of the depression. Some days it seems like it is my only joy in life, the last area that I have some control over. I can eat what I want, when I want. You know what I mean?

My husband is more controlling always telling me what to do, how and when I should do it. He is one of these people who thinks everyone else is stupid except him. He is also a narcissist, everything is about him. It's not all his fault either, I am not saying that but he is a contributor and I am aware of it now and have to figure out how to diffuse that trigger before it overtakes me.

This morning I too decided to get back on the band wagon and get my but in gear. I don't want these feelings sabotaging me anymore. I am really proud of you that you are going to do it too. It would be great, if you haven't done this already, to come over to the Second Time Around Forum and start posting there. That is where I mainly hang out. They have daily check in's and we can keep in contact and we encourage one another there.

Welcome back Johnny. You can do this!

[Alaskansonya]

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I've been married for almost 20 years. I've always battled my weight problems, successfully and unsuccessfully. I'm 5'7" tall. When we married I was probably 175 lbs. and am now approximately 100 lbs. overweight. I'm currently seeing a physician and losing weight and exercising regularly. However, I've seen this page before. I've lost weight, only to put it and then some back on.
My weight issue is very, very troubling for my husband. He's told me for years and years that he's embarrassed and ashamed of me. He's told me that my legs and my belly and my big butt just mortify him. Not to mention that our sex life is non-existent. I guess that for many, many years I sort of considered myself fortunate to have a husband considering my physical appearance, sad to say. I might also mention in passing that I have a thyroid condition that is treated with medication. Thyroid conditions can make it harder to lose weight among other problems.
I think however, that in the past few years I've also sort of come to a point in my life and with myself that I want more than anything to lose weight and sustain the weight loss, but that also, I really don't define myself by my appearance. I am a mother and a good one, a wife and a good one. I help my husband w/our business. I have many other good qualities about myself that I take pride in.
This issue of my being overweight permeates every area of our marriage. My husband says that since he's ashamed and embarrassed of me that he doesn't relish the thought of days at the lake or waterfront because of my appearance in a bathing suit. He recoils at that thought. He states that it interferes in every area, because he doesn't have a wife he can be proud of. He states that he does love me for who I am and all that I am and do, but that this weight issue just is so troubling for him. He states that he'd like to leave this marriage. But that when he weighs out the scale of whether he be better off here with his wife and children or elsewhere, he figures that he'd be better off staying here and just coping the best he can with all the embarrassment of having an obese spouse. I have Placed his name as a bad husband in The rat book.com And i am going all out for the Atkins Diet.

Johnny, I am so sorry that you have to live with a husband that talks to you like that. However, I am sure that there is any number of us that always worry that our spouses secretly feel and think that way but that they are just not saying so to avoid confrontation. I know my aunt had a husband that said those things to her and eventually he did leave her and she is in even worse condition now. She has give up completely.

When I read this I was in tears because I wondered if my husband felt the same way. So, I read it to him to see his reaction. He said that someone who cannot see past the cover and love someone for EVERYTHING that person is, including their size, is someone who loves themself more than that person. He is putting his self before his spouse. I understand that to a lot of people an overweight person is disgusting, i get that...I am disgusted with myself as it is...However, a spouse should love you through those troubling times and help you to get to your goal. Does he join with you on your diet? Does he encourage you to exercise with him? Does he offer assistance in areas where you might be weak? He should support you and love you through it so that you have the courage to make it your goal.

On my own end, my husband thinks big women are beautiful and his favorite is Queen Latifa..rofl...However, he is concerned with my health as far as my being borderline diabetic and I also have a thyroid issue too. Also, he knows that I am not happy at this weight, however he has asked that I don't turn into a skinny minnie! rofl (he privately told me that he likes squishy hugs better than hugging a skeleton!)

Soo anyhow, the reason that I am responding to your letter is to encourage you to hang in there, be strong and DO NOT DO IT FOR HIM!!! Do this to make yourself feel better, both inside and out. Do this because you love yourself. Do this because you are worth it, no matter what anyone thinks or says!! Do this because when all is said and done, whether he leaves you or not, you need to restore your faith in yourself and feel good about yourself! Believe in yourself!!! I care. We all care about you here. But regardless of that, I want you to care and to love yourself because you are worth it and are a beautiful person inside and out! You are a beautiful mom and wife inside and out! You can message me anytime you want...Big huge hugs to you hun..

[y_ghazaly]

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great post Angela

and I've always told myself that i didn't get fat overnight..........so i can't expect a "miracle" loss either all of a sudden....also i've come 2 terms that my body loses fat really really slowly......so as long as i'm losing at least 1 kg (=2.20 lb) a week .........then I'm ok.......as long as i'm not stalled or gaining weight......i can be patient..........also i've vowed not 2 complain about the weight loss rate after finishing one full month of walking 4 miles for 5 days a week plus half an hour of cardio workouts plus my full dedication to Atkins........no missing days without exercise .....no slipups or exceptions..............so far i've finished 1 wk out of 4.........we'll c..........i'm sure i'll get good results

just need 2 believe!!

[Amsexy]

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Thank you for your awesome feedback and in put.

[Suzanne_H]

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Sitting here reading your story and crying. I weighed myself last weekend when I was at my son's house. To my absolute shock I weighed exactly 268.9 lbs, this on a 5'6" body... way more than both pregnancies, way more than I've ever weighed in my life. I knew I'd been spiraling down the drain with my health this past year, but I was in such denial. I just kept buying bigger clothes, hiding more, losing myself in a sea of food. I've been on induction now for a week. I know I have lost weight, but I'm afraid to go buy a scale and weigh myself. I'm so afraid of falling backwards again, and this forum just seemed the right place to start. Thank you for posting your story and thank all of you for this forum. I cannot tell you what it means to me to know the support is here.

Love,
Suzanne in Tulsa