Venting.....

[meena-beena]

My hubby left on Friday and ever since I've been having a SLOW backward slide. I'm swamped with stress and my day goes from 7am to past midnight--mostly all of that with screaming, fighting children.

As a result I'm up 4 pounds, have a monster headache and am feeling very overwhelmed and just plain tired. It's only been 3 days but I feel like it's been forever!

We're in the transportation buisness and the phones never stop ringing--add to that 3 kids who argue over everything, a baby who never wants to be put down, no family or close friends to lean on--a bag of tootsie rolls, a half gallon of no sugar ice cream, and caramel apples and you've got a recipe for disaster. Actually I'm suprised it's ONLY 4 pounds.... There is a reason why adults go to work and leave the little ones with a sitter or in day care.


On the upside I got my yoga dvd today. It was almost like a sign of divine intervention. I'm going to try it tonight and see if I can get some de-stress relief going because I'm liable to explode if I don't have some down time soon. And I don't just mean that figuratively--I mean it literally!! My waistline is going to explode out!

Thanks for letting me vent....I'll stop now. lol.

[OzLover]

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We're here for you meena when you need to vent.

Bottem line is the food may give you some instant gratification but the bottem line is you'll feel like crap if you eat it. I can only begin to imagine what your stress level is & wish I could help out.

Hoping the yoga gives you some relief & peace!

Glenda

[guekjian]

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Poor baby...close your eyes 30 seconds...take a deep breath or two...and think how horrible you are gonna feel after the ice cream...not worth it...trust me...sending hugs!

[mitzimarie]

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Meena!

My heart goes out to you... I don't deal with stress well... especially stress that involves fighting children. (and they seem to fight about everythng, don't they?) Ugh... I wish I had some words of wisdom for you.

Glenda's right... come here and vent as often as you wish. You are strong... stronger than I am, for sure! The one kid I have at home can drive me nuts.

Hang in there...

[meena-beena]

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Thanks guys. I just feel awful and rotten and tired and ugh. What makes it worse is the idea that I have almost 2 months of this to look forward to.....

Blah.

[ShiningStarr]

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Oh sweetie I know a little bit about what you are gooing through. My husband was in the Air Force and would be deployed for months at a time so I would be home with our 1 year old. I would always want to use that time as a way to lose some weight and surprise him but I always got so lonely and stressed I would comfort myself with food and then before I knew it he was almost home and I had wasted all that time. My one suggestion is to push through these tough days. Plan meals and snacks ahead of time and just take things one meal/snack at a time. Then pretty soon you will have had a clean meal, then a clean day, then two, then even a clean week. Think how proud of yourself you will be!

[Evermind]

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Well, CRAP! That sounds utterly horrible.

(today, teachers had to report back to school, and my aide had no daycare, and brought her 3 kids, and spent about 5 minutes with them in my classroom before I wanted to slap them all silly. And I'm a TEACHER and have four kids of my own (grown))! I can definately feel your stress and understand it well.

We need a PLAN.

So a few fact-finding questions:

1. Do you have to answer the phone?
2. Is there are drop-off daycare place nearby where you could get 2 hours of respite every now and again? Or at your local religious center?
3. Are you up for a challenge? I mean a challenge like: "2 days strict induction" or "walk it off for 3 miles a day"?

[TIME2SHINE4-08]

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Hang in there Meena! We are her so vent away!

[partytrouble]

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hang in there!! be strong, you can do it.

[apple]

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BREATH, Meena....BREATH!!!!!

Yea for the Yoga tape arriving in time.....timing is EVERYTHING!

It sucks that you have to go through this, but you're not alone! If you don't have a place of worship, nows a great time to find one and start community building and social networking so you can find a good babysitter that's trust worthy to come to your place and give you a piece of mind for an hour or two. Heck, if worse comes to worse, call your hubby every day to tell him how much you REALLY love him...

Keep posting, you CAN get through this speed bump of life.

[SandyL2002]

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(((MEENA))) Been there done that... Hang in there.. Don't let the food be your comfort.. There is hope..the kids do grow up one day and actually get along...Just takes like 17 years...lol

[bambinaUK]

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It sounds to me like having to deal with the business is the last straw for you.
Is there a possibility you could hire a temp or a phone answering service while your hubby is away?

Your kids will always fight and your leech baby (I had one, it drove me bonkers) is just your 'normal' day-to-day life, which most of the time you would just get on with.

When you get chance to go shopping, fill up with legal snacks, that way even if you go over on your carbs, at least the damage wont be too bad. Sugar highs unfortunately always come crashing down and will make you feel worse.

[hrgillespie]

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Oh Meena Big Big Hugs to you!!!!!!! I somehow missed this post and was wondering if this was what you were going through ......... I wish I lived closer I would be there in an instant to help you out! I have to tell you I lived a very similar life to what your going through for a long time having five children to deal with on my own for years .......... it sucks and girl I had the leach baby too in fact shes 20 now and still my leach! So I don't know how that might change for ya .......... but what I do know is there comes a point where you gotta just take a deep breath and decide you ARE goin to get control of this whole situation because your on your own adn the only one who can do it is you .......... First of all make some lists .......... make a list of the things that are the very hardest for you and look at that list and decide what you can do to make those things easier ......... get real serious about it like a rule about fighting ............divide and conquer .......... imagine the peace if all the fighters are stuck in seperate rooms for 15 minutes ...... and yes the bathroom counts! Start asking around for a girl or boy in your neighborhood who might be interested in helping you out ......... not for big money someone young enough to be thrilled to make a buck or two but old enough to help ......... things like folding laundry, playing a game with two of the kids, take the baby for a walk, ect......... if it cost you ten bucks a week for a xtra set of helping hands an hour a day or two that mightbe well worth it ......... Just some thoughts.

I certainly don't know your exact circumstances, but I do know from reading your posts that you are a very strong and very resourceful woman. I know right now your in shock from hubby just leaving and all of this being heaped upon you at once but I know as soon as you can take a deep breath and pull yourself together you will be fine! I have confidence in you girl!

Keep posting and venting ...........

Heidi

[dreamof145]

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We are all here for you. My husband was Army for 20 years, so understand the deployment stress and all that goes with it. <<Hugs>>

[AlaskaGirl]

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Well, CRAP! That sounds utterly horrible.

(today, teachers had to report back to school, and my aide had no daycare, and brought her 3 kids, and spent about 5 minutes with them in my classroom before I wanted to slap them all silly. And I'm a TEACHER and have four kids of my own (grown))! I can definately feel your stress and understand it well.

We need a PLAN.

So a few fact-finding questions:

1. Do you have to answer the phone?
2. Is there are drop-off daycare place nearby where you could get 2 hours of respite every now and again? Or at your local religious center?
3. Are you up for a challenge? I mean a challenge like: "2 days strict induction" or "walk it off for 3 miles a day"?

I am with Evermind.

You need a sanity break every day. Find someone to watch your kids for an hour or 2.

Treat your self to your favorite Atkins meals a few times a week

Use your free time to exercize, shower, relax---- what ever your heart needs.

For goodness sake turn the phone off at lunch and on break.

You will settle in to an accpetable routine- you can do this

Good Luck Meena

Julie