Iyshif and Shashee came to vent

[Buddrfly]

Okay so this is the beginning. This thread is being started for all of those who need to vent. Vent about anything that pisses you off, or about things you just don't understand. The door is open--let the ranting begin. :yikes

[Buddrfly]

Why is it?

Why is it that friends and family members have to down this woe instead of encouraging us to make progress and success? Sometimes the negativity only makes you work harder, but that depends on the person. It can really bring you down to think that you are working so hard and the only thing the one's closest to you have to say about it is something totally negative. Do yall feel my pain, or is it just me??????????? :confused

[dreamof145]

OK... Why is it that you meet someone who seems really impressed with your weight loss and keeps telling you how great you look, but when they find out that you did it through ATKINS, it is suddenly a BAD thing?

This has happened to me more than once. And..to top it off with the latest person, they have now started taking DIET pills to lose weight!!! I am just watching and waiting and hopefully this person will come to their senses and then I'll be there to help.

[Buddrfly]

I don't get that

I don't get that either. It's like the minute you mention Atkins the world comes to a screeching hault. However people have bypass surgery, diet pills, lap bands, and all these other kinds of weight loss remedies that are proven to be health hazards, and no one has a thing to say about that :anger

[2big4mysize]

I used to get that it and it was going to kill me too or I'd gain it all back.
When I ask them in a nice tone after statign there are a lotof rumors about Atkins on the web and in the news to please show me the exact medical article they read that in so I too can see it as havign done a great deal of research about this plan before I started I had not seen the one they were referring to they get real quiet andstop bringing it up.


then when i got smaller and smaller the same folk started asking questions about what exactly was i eating and doing to lose the weight.

If it is a family memeber you can do the old Dr Atkins trick of asking them to be a part of your diet support system and assist you in being strong and not cheating when eating with them and doing your exercise programs too. I mean if you use those nice Dr Phil words I feel __________ when folk trash my efforts and I need for you to --------- so I can become the healthiest smaller person I want to be so we can grow old together, what can they say but YES I will help you. :joy

[Buddrfly]

The Most!

The most devistating blow of all!!!! Don't ask me how I'm doing it, down me for doing it, then once you see my progress start doing it yourself. urplequ: I believe that is what you call a hypocrite :yes

[shashee]

I can relate with the support thing!! It seems like everytime I turn around someone is trying to shove something I shouldnt have to eat. Then when you say no thankyou, you get a big long song and dance about it and totally show no support whatsoever.

I know this is mean, but generally these are people who could also use this WOE, I feel like saying " Maybe you shouldnt eat it either"

I dont say it, but I sure as **** think it!!!! :icondance :icondance

[Buddrfly]

Amen!

Amen! I get mad sometimes because the people in my household know that I won't allow myself to cheat, yet and still, when they are eating their junk food they want to offer me some??? It's like they are waiting for me to cave--which by the way will not happen :nono

[1sexy_mama]

I can totally relate. My mom was against this whole WOE however then she saw me lose 50 pounds in 6 months. Now she is a Low Carber herself and my inspiration for low carb recipes. She has lost 60 pounds so far.

Don't knock it until you try it... (isn't that how it goes :yes )

[shashee]

I think my husband does that... 9 at night... I get " Babe im hungry, make me a grilled ham and cheese" Im like OMG.. THEN he asks me if I wanna bite of it???

Or how about this......... He crawls into bed, yes I said BED and hes eating PB Jelly sandwiches, I swear I never saw fluffier bread in my life =(

But in the end, I didnt give in, and as long as we all have the willpower, who cares what others think and do!!!!

[Buddrfly]

Tell me about it!

My grandmother, God love her, is not FOR anything that does not involve breads, pastas, starches, and sugar. She is all about the soul food. I think she gets offended when I go to her house, because I always have to alter her food to fit my woe. She asks, "what are you takin the skin off that fried chicken for?" And oh Lord I know then minute I let her know, the lecture starts. :sadblinky. I just let her talk, for the sake of being respectful, (it is my grandmother) when she is done my visit doesn't last much longer. It should not be like this. Why can't people just be happy for you and your healthy changes. Eventhough I've lost all this weight, she is the only one that acts like I haven't dropped a lb. I think it would make her feel like she is supporting or encouraging the way I'm losing, and that's what she doesn't want :sarcasm

[Pam_C]

I get pissed because my neighbor always says aren't you done losing weight? Then she says well you may weigh 15 pounds less than me but I am taller and I can handle it. In the same breath she starts picking out my flaws like your arms are bigger than mine or I don't really believe you wear that size. Then tells all my family can you believe how skinny she is? She tries to say we are the same size but I wear a 10 and she wears a 16 (and pulls her pants up around her neck at that). I just want to say quit being jealous. She tries to get me down. I HATE that. Can't they just be proud of me?

[Buddrfly]

Example

I know how you feel Pam! My bestfriend had a gastric bypass surgery going on 2 yrs ago. She was 515lbs. Now she is 240. I talked to her in Feb when I was 290 or so and she was 270. We talked this past weekend she is 240 and so am I! I am losing weight faster with this woe than she is with a bypass weight loss surgery. That should tell ya something ensive.

Then she made a comment that kind of pissed me off. Keep in mind, she does not know that have lost any weight at all. The last time we saw each other I was 310lbs. I have not mentioned my loss to her at all.

How did she piss me off??? We are on the phone talking and she say I'm wearing this size now--we can wear each other's clothes again. Either she was trying to pick me to see if I've been losing too, or she was wanting me to respond by saying "Girl your clothes are way to small for me now!" What ever the case, I know her. That's her round-about-way of getting info our of someone. She makes a comment then lets them talk. Anyway, I just said yep and left it at that.

Boy will she be shocked next time she see's me :joy

[shashee]

iyshiaf we all know how grandmoms are, especially ones that dish out that amazing food!!! But as soon as you start pickin it apart, OMG thats it... Your in for a talkin, I dont have any grandparents but my mom is that way... "dont insult the cook" is what I always get. Thankfully for me she kinda does south beach once in awhile because she swims alot, and when she thinks shes getting fat (which I swear she needs glasses) but she doesnt get on me as much or hardly at all anymore because she kinda does the same WOE.

Pam_C - Woah if that was my neighbor I would tell her where to go.. Obviously she is very jealous of you.. You can laugh inside at the comments she makes, because she only makes herself look stupid by doing that to you. Keep on with the goodwork..

What doesnt kill us, will make us stronger :joy

[Buddrfly]

Close!

Well guys, my day is coming to a close. I'm outta here at 4pm-(3 mins!!!) But don't worry I'm sure I will have more to B#$@h about tomorrow. I believe shashee is still here. Also feel free to use this thread whenever you just really need to vent, I'm sure someone will come along and join in :wave