He said I wasn't fat enough

[tabekat]

This fabulous guy gave me a big rush. Lots of emails, eager to meet me, lots in common, similar values, yadda, yadda, yadda. I was moving so he came down and helped me and he was great. Very attentive, and seemed very happy to be with me. Honestly, we had lots of fun and he stayed much longer than he needed to. I thought everything was cool.

Then I get "the email"...he tells me that while he thinks I'm a good woman, I'm just not fat enough in order for him to trigger a stiffy. (Yes, thats exactly how he put it. lol...)
he said he is a fat admirer who needs a "wide flesh trigger" and he wishes to find women who are 300, 400 pounders, and I'm a size 16.

So I'm too thin for the FA guys and too fat for the rest. I'm doomed.

He also told me that he has a big girl back East that he is very heavily emotionally involved with online, and that he thinks she may be more compatible with him, because she is very big, even though they have never met. He said the only reason he met me was because I was closer and he wouldn't have to fly.

Am I missing something? Shouldn't this information have been revealed before we met?

My heck. I just want one good guy. He doesn't have to be perfect, just honest, and willing to see only me. Is that too damn much to ask for?

(On the other hand, it is the first time in my life I was told I wasn't fat enough. THANK YOU ATKINS!) heh, heh, heh

[ladyinred]

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Well, I've heard of this. They even have "men's" magazines targeted towards that type of man. I don't know if anyone here is actually big enough to be a "model" though. (I saw one once, but only b/c I couldn't avert my eyes quickly enough). Well, this is the same issue as if you weren't skinny enough. He's not for you. You will find that good man one day when the time is right. But you're right. He should have disclosed that before you got too far into the relationship. But then they never do, do they? They say "it's okay if you're a bit heavy" when what they mean is they don't mind if you look like JLo and her booty. Sounds like you've kept your sense of humour about it though. {{{{{tabekat}}}}}}

[slimndown]

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Just goes to show that there is someone out there for everybody. Those are the kind of guys that end up having control issues at some point - especially when their girls get mentally healthy and start losing weight. You're better off....

[Richt]

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How Bizarre. But congratulations on not being fat enough! The guy seems a waste of space. I mean, how much shallower could he be!?!

Rich

[RubyBegonia]

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That guy doesn't deserve you......or anyone else, for that matter. What a putz! Somebody should tattoo a warning label on his forehead.

Congratulations on being too skinny!

[Rubysugar]

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Yay for being too skinny!!
But on the bright side, he helped ya move and you didn't have to pay him!! Hang in there! Remember, ya have to kiss a few (or 20) frogs before you find your prince!

It was kinda rude to not let you know ahead of time and what is up with being "heavily emotionally involved" but still driving out to meet you. You aren't supposed to shop around when your cart is still full!

[kkat55]

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Oddly, my friend in Pensacola had dated a guy like this. At first when she told me we both cracked up...I could hear it in her voice "no more dieting or worrying about my weight". But, he told her the same thing...that she wasn't fat enough; that he liked them bigger. But, in the end she wouldn't have been happy through her life staying large or getting bigger -- we all want to feel better, healthier and almost 99 percent of the time that means losing a few pounds if you are overweight.

Everybody is unique and who knows when chemistry will strike?

[Rick]

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Trust me, you're better off without a guy like that! You should be accepted for who you are on the inside, not your exterior size. It's not like car shopping where you go looking for a compact car, midsize car, or a large model... ya know?

You can do better, and I'm sure your prince will come along. Best of luck to you.
Rick

[fawn]

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At the end of the day you want someone who wants good health and a long life for you.....


And at the end of the day it's not all about the woody!

[ttdriver]

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Tell him he's got a fat head big enough to trigger his own stiffy!!! MEN!

Betty

[MotherOfGizmo]

Re: He said I wasn't fat enough

IMO, to each their own! There are actually a lot of men who like big women. I think its great! At least he was honest with you and didn't just hang around trying to fatten you up!

You gotta give the guy credit for getting right to the point! You would have been even more offended if he had told you that you weren't skinny enough, I would think anyway.

[ladyinred]

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Tell him he's got a fat head big enough to trigger his own stiffy!!! MEN

ROTFLMBO Betty!! You made me snort! (Good thing I wasn't drinking at the time)

[biogeek]

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I'm glad you got rid of that loser!! I hope you find someone that loves you for the way you are regardless of what you weigh!!

[LC_Dave]

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Trust me, you're better off without a guy like that! You should be accepted for who you are on the inside, not your exterior size. It's not like car shopping where you go looking for a compact car, midsize car, or a large model... ya know?

You can do better, and I'm sure your prince will come along. Best of luck to you.
Rick

I agree with Rick,

You know there are guys out there that aren't wierdos and will accept you for who you are and be attracted to you.

If I was single, I would be looking for someone who gives good companionship and......... I know this sounds bad, that can cook and clean!!!

I only added that last bit because my fiancee cannot do either!! But what can you do - once you are in love you are suckered in! LOL

So the moral of the story is, try to look for guys that have their head in the real world. They aren't the ones with the flashy looks and flashy cars, but they will love you and everyone needs that!

[softnred]

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Amen to what Dave said!!!

Many years ago I ran into a few "you're not big enough" types. That type of rejection is funny and almost a compliment. But in the end, you want someone who loves what's on the INSIDE and considers the outside just the icing on the cake, no matter what size.