Calling international rescue

**Elizellen** · February 21, 2006, 02:51 PM

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Hi John

I havent got any strategies for avoiding sneaked-in sugar, except for saying keep on eating food you have prepared yourself instead.

An easy breakfast is a few slices of ham with cheese on top and rolled up, eaten with a few cherry tomatoes or some celery to get some veggies in.

As to the chocolate cake torture - make sure you have plenty of 'legal' high fat snacks available to eat instead of succumbing.

Good luck with the lowcarbing under fire!

**ladyinred** · February 21, 2006, 02:59 PM

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I'm sorry John. Have you asked her why she doesn't support you and respect your decision? Is she insecure about you losing weight or something?

I would do as Elizellen suggests. BTW, is this a special Weight Watcher's cake she is making? Ummmm, there may be a reason why her BMI is increasing despite years of WW meetings. We're here for you. Please don't freeze anything off tonight.

**big_bad_john** · February 21, 2006, 03:10 PM

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I think she's insecure... I'm a good looking guy when I'm slim and before I put on weight she used to have kittens if she saw me talking to other women...

Tried talking to her she just said: "I need sugar if you don't like it don't eat any of it. whats the matter..you afraid?"

I wont tell you what her mother said....oy vey!!

**2big4mysize** · February 21, 2006, 04:12 PM

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do a Dr Phil pn her. Ask her to be part of yoour Atkins support network. Tell her you need her help doing your Atkins so you two can grow old together healthy.

Then ask her to please read yur DANDR so she will be able to help you avoid the refined processed foods that made you fat in the first place when you weaken.tell her you need her to be your biggest fan, your support whrenyou are weak and your stanch defendere should anybody else try to sway you from your Atkinds program.

Tell her when she fixes cake because of your lack of self control you feel you will cheat on your plan and then feel worthlesscause you couldn't maintain your self control ( that should hook her cause now she feels more powerful then you) and would like her to help by keeping you from those high carb high cal foods in the future, at least until you get stronger and can control your eating.

Then ask her to take a walk with you as your exercise buddy too. that will give you boith some exercise and some quality time together too.

if she loves you that should have her throwing the cake down the garbage disposal!

Happy low carbing.

**Analog6** · February 21, 2006, 05:26 PM

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It's hard, isn't it? How can she really think a chocolate cake is more healthy than protein and vegetables?

For the breakfast, bacon and grilled tomatoes is nice, or bacon and mushroom, or replace the bacon with minute steak or ham or even sinful smoked salmon for a real treat.

**sunflowergrl** · February 21, 2006, 08:08 PM

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Take that cake and throw it out!!! It isn't good for either of you!!!! I can't imagine that she is being so selfish!!! I am sorry that seems harsh, but really!!! I think she is worried that if you lose weight, she will feel like a failure because she can't lose any. Marriage is about love and support, and she needs to support you!!! Sneaking sugar in your food??
I am not sure what to say about that!!! Anyway, WE are here to support you, so GOOD LUCK and you can do it!!!!!

**teejay** · February 21, 2006, 08:20 PM

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I think that maybe you should take some time and talk to your wife. Ask her to help you, instead of hindering you. Ask her to read the book. Ask that she just keep and open mind about why you are eating and living the Atkins way. Ask her to show you just HOW weight watchers is helping her. Tell her that she may feel that weight watchers is the way to go for her, but you don't feel that it is the right way for you. You are individual people, you are not clones. If having a heart to heart with her doesn't work, I would suggest some couple's therapy or marriage counseling. There is a big lack of communication and lack of trust and understanding here.

Let us know how things are going, and stick to what is right for you.

TJ

**big_bad_john** · February 22, 2006, 03:08 AM

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Things are better today now a new day has dawned.

She baked the cake, She and her mother ate the cake, All of the cake.

Her diet broke, mine did not, with cold cuts and cheese, my atkins diet was so hot.

A new day has dawned and both of them feel bad, I'm another pound lighter and feeling so glad

Goodness triumphs and the bad are punished!! You should see how clever she feels this morning after pigging out on carbs!

I'm off for my morning walk soon whilst the guilty slouch around in thier self imposed carb ****!

bet there won't be any more cakes baked for a while. I predict a guilt ridden week of lettuce and starvation ahead for them and a week of cheese, eggs, steak and chicken for me.

**Eleonore** · February 22, 2006, 03:17 AM

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John,
I agree iwth most of what have been said here.
I think she is too insecure, a good talk, getting her something nice, taking her out or showing anyway how much you love her will calm her down.
My bf eats sweets all the time but even he, is very careful with the things I eat.

**Lady_Hawke** · February 22, 2006, 03:32 AM

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I'm sorry John but the first thing I thought when I read your post was "what a b*tch". Sneaking suger in your food - man your womans got some freaking problems.
My DH likes to start fights when he see's me doing good and loosing weight. I'm an emotional eater and after 15 years of marriage he knows what buttons to push. Its not easy when someone in your own house (and it sounds like you have two???) is giving you a hard time and trying to sabatoge you.
I am so proud of you for staying on the wagon!!! That took alot of self control and determination - yeah you

You are going to be successful and achieve goal ! You have the right attitude (and hey, if you can pass up a chocolate cake - you can pass on anything!!!

), you are aware of the obsticals in your path and you have your friends here at the ADBB to cheer you on!
By the way.....Congratulations on releasing a pound!!!! Woooo hooooo!

**fluffyman** · February 22, 2006, 03:35 AM

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While I don't get a lot of support from my wife, I can't imagine all out sabotage. Perhaps she is threatened by your success or envious of the food you can eat. That's no excuse, however, to sneak sugar into your food. Good for you for taking steps to make sure that doesn't happen.

Originally posted by big_bad_john

I need help! (erm hang on maybe I should rephrase that....)

Ysee I got a saboteur in my home..

Afraid the truth is my wife keeps trying to trip up my weight loss...

She doesn't believe in atkins and thinks only weight watchers can help the overweight yet she's been going for 10 years, her mother for 30 and their bmi increases by a point each year! (Her bmi is 35 and her mother ...well don't get me started now....)

I caught her a few times trying to sneak sugar into my food over the last couple of weeks so I've started to make sure I only eat food I prepared myself etc.

Tonight she's going to bake a chocolate cake to torment me. Sounds weird to call it torment but I'm sure some of you know exactly what I mean... I know but she's hoping I'll weaken and give in...

Anyone else had anyone trying to upset there weight loss? Anyone got any coping mechanisms to deal with it?

Looks like at this rate I'll be spending my evenings street walking..(Erm hang on maybe I should rephrase that too! Double quick!)

Any help or advice on this would be appreciated seeing as its really brass monkeys outside tonight

and I'm prone to frost bite these days...failing that a breakfats recipe good for induction that doesnt include eggs or tuna may help...

Oh well I guess my wagons rolling along even if the indians are shooting arrows at it...

**sunflowergrl** · February 22, 2006, 06:47 AM

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Good for you! You have a great attitude, you wife is a lucky woman. It is sad, she only hurt her mom and herself with the cake. I am proud of you for not giving in. Maybe when she sees how good you are doing, how great you feel she will come along and join us on the WOL! Take care!

**ladyinred** · February 22, 2006, 08:02 AM

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It's too bad wife and mom aren't following Atkins too. They are probably starving on WW and with the unstable blood sugar they truly do "need" that cake. They are craving it. On Atkins they wouldn't even think about it. I'm glad you made it through another day successfully John. Maybe when your wife sees how successful and happy you are she will join you in your woe. Good luck!

**Ms Blue** · February 22, 2006, 08:14 AM

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John, congrats on your loss, but I am even more impressed in how you have managed to rise above the situation. Keep coming back to where you get the support you need to stay strong in the face of adversity. In a way, it makes your "testimony" and weightloss even sweeter. Not only have you conquered the weight, you did it when all the odds were against you. You rock! Keep the faith and continue to keep your chin up. Your loss is beacon in the darkness.

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