Why do people get offended when you say "no thanks"?!

[jcapulet]

My coworker went around and offered everyone fresh strawberries. As I'm not on the berries rung, I declined with "thats ok, thanks". She went all into a fit about she's not offerring me anything anymore...don't know if she's joking (one of those hard to tell) but I think she was offended that I declined.



I guess it's more polite to accept the food and then just throw it away when no one's looking.

[Miss Phode]

Re: Why do people get offended when you say "no thanks"?!

What an idiot!

[ladyinred]

Re: Why do people get offended when you say "no thanks"?!

Well, obviously she's very insecure and has very low self-esteem. She transferred your rejection of the berries onto herself, thus, taking the berry-rejection personally.

You could say "it's not you, it's your berries". I don't know. That's kind of an odd response (on her part - not my response, of course - lol)

[sallyseachange]

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Hmmmm.... she obviously never heard 'live and let live'.

[Hudson]

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Take the berries and quietly offer them to someone else later. Or maybe "Oh, those look beautiful, but I can't have them".

[Miss Phode]

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I remember my grandma crying at dinner once because I didn't want to eat her stupid ham. I could understand grandma crying if I said "Hey granny, I hate you", but because I refused to eat her dead pig? Ummmm...whatever

[2big4mysize]

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could be she brought the berries not to share but as a means to ingratiate herself with everybiody else and since fresh strawberries are out ofd season now she thought the extra effort whe went to would go a long way towards her goals but not taking them didn't let her accomplish that with you.

[Desertthorn]

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Folks are just weird sometimes. Don't do like she did and take it personally, she is Okay

[jcapulet]

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Thanks everyone for your thoughts! I myself used to go around and offer everyone candy or cookies-but if someone declined I had no problem with it. Mainly it was just to be friendly and boost morale a little (not that it needs boosting, but you know what I mean).

But sheesh I never expected everyone to accept the item.

[jcapulet]

Re: Why do people get offended when you say "no thanks"?!

Well, obviously she's very insecure and has very low self-esteem. She transferred your rejection of the berries onto herself, thus, taking the berry-rejection personally.

You could say "it's not you, it's your berries". I don't know. That's kind of an odd response (on her part - not my response, of course - lol)

I agree...and how silly does that sound, that she took the berry-rejection personally...silly but probably true!

[jcapulet]

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I remember my grandma crying at dinner once because I didn't want to eat her stupid ham. I could understand grandma crying if I said "Hey granny, I hate you", but because I refused to eat her dead pig? Ummmm...whatever

My Mom gets upset as well if she cooks something for dinner, and anyone has a complaint. She cooked steak once, and my Dad and brother complained that the meat had so much fat in it. The next day, she cooked something else for them and steak for me. She said at the dinner table "You two don't get steak today because you complained. Only Lisa didn't complain, so she gets the steak." They weren't even commenting on her cooking, they were commenting about the meat!

[G-Mom]

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That's too bad she acted that way, Lisa. Couldn't it be possible that you are one of many folks who actually don't care for strawberries? I know fresh strawberries aren't like going around offering "freshly pickled pig's feet", but not everyone likes strawberries.

@2big, isn't it true that in some areas of the country, strawberries continue to grow into the fall?

[kkat55]

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That has happened to me at work too. I told them I'm low-carbing and that I'm not up to berries (or peaches) yet, but thank you anyway. They seemed to take it okay. That way they knew it was not a reflection of how I thought about them (just in case), but because I was eating a certain way.

[ladyinred]

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That's good that your co-workers understand Kkat.

But really, does it matter why people don't want something that's offered? Do you have to say "oh no, thanks - I'll break out into oozing pustules if I eat that" and then pass around pictures of said pustules??

[Rubysugar]

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But really, does it matter why people don't want something that's offered? Do you have to say "oh no, thanks - I'll break out into oozing pustules if I eat that" and then pass around pictures of said pustules??

HHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAHAHAHAHA

Do that!!!